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Your Program Wasn't For Me, So... I Didn't Actually Complete It
By: DaDancingPsych Date: August 1, 2022, 9:02 am
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I have tried to write this question several times and I keep
including all the background information (which I know we
typically appreciate), but I think it’s making my post too long
and boring. So I’m going to try to keep it simple.
This summer I paid to participate in a certification program. I
do not need/want the certification, but I was interested in the
information provided. Unfortunately, I am finding that the
program is not quite what I wanted. It is a lot more work than I
anticipated and most of it is of no use to my needs. While I
want to continue with the program to obtain the information that
I wanted, I do not wish to complete all of the assignments. I
realize that this is not in the spirit of the program and I
would not receive the actual certification, but I think it best
for my personal needs. I am not trying to say that the program
is worthless and not worthy of my time; I just need to
prioritize things in my life and unfortunately, some of these
tasks are not making the cut.
The director does not appear to be the type to take feedback
well. She thinks her program is amazing and that it will alter
the way we approach the subject. For some, it probably is that!
However, for me, it’s been alright and I have found a few
helpful tips along the way. At the end of the program, we are to
submit our assignments for review. I am not sure how to explain
to the director that my assignments are incomplete. I don’t
necessarily want her to think that I am a lazy, slacker as our
paths are likely to cross again, but I also think that she will
not kindly accept that I determined that the program wasn’t
really for me. I’m not asking for a refund (she provided the
services) nor am I asking for the certification (I didn’t earn
it).
At the end of the program, I would like to part ways in the best
possible way. I can submit those portions that I did complete,
but I don’t know how to explain the incomplete work without
setting the director off. I want to say, “Here is what I
completed. I know it’s not enough, but thanks for the program.”
However, she is likely to come back to me wanting an
explanation. Does anyone have any thoughts?
#Post#: 76591--------------------------------------------------
Re: Your Program Wasn't For Me, So... I Didn't Actually Complete
It
By: Jem Date: August 1, 2022, 9:26 am
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I think I would contact the director and explain what you did
here and essentially pay to "audit" the program. Explain that
you find the information provided to be helpful and important
but that you don't need the certificate and are not able to
devote the time to completing the assignments but that you
nevertheless want to continue learning what you can from what
she is providing (and that you are paying for it).
#Post#: 76598--------------------------------------------------
Re: Your Program Wasn't For Me, So... I Didn't Actually Complete
It
By: Hmmm Date: August 1, 2022, 12:00 pm
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I like the idea of referring to it as an audit.
In your position, I think I would not send any of the work
completed in the initial response but instead thank her for the
opportunity to audit her course.
"Dear Instructor, I wanted to thank you for the the effort you
put in to creating such a comprehensive course on x subject.
While my career goals do not require me to become certified in
this subject, having a comprehensive understanding is important
to my work in xyz and auditing your course has provided that
knowledge. I did not complete the assignments since my focus was
an auditing and not gaining certification. I'm happy to send to
you what I did complete but I have no expectation of you
reviewing this incomplete work. If you'd like other thoughts or
feedback on your program from someone taking it for a reason
other than certification, please reach out. Again, thanks for
your time. Sincerely."
#Post#: 76605--------------------------------------------------
Re: Your Program Wasn't For Me, So... I Didn't Actually Complete
It
By: TootsNYC Date: August 1, 2022, 3:22 pm
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I might also say something about not wanting her to spend her
time on those assignments, since it is making her workload
easier.
#Post#: 76610--------------------------------------------------
Re: Your Program Wasn't For Me, So... I Didn't Actually Complete
It
By: mime Date: August 1, 2022, 8:59 pm
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I did something sort of similar once: taking a class that when I
didn't really have time for the homework.
In my case it was a stained glass panel class (not even close to
career-related). The class met every week for 8 weeks and had a
lot of homework. During the 2nd week I had to travel for my job
and couldn't do the homework, and my outlook for week 5 wasn't
good either.
I just told the instructor the situation. I still wanted to come
to class to watch and learn, and that I'd just work on my
project on my own timeline. He was fine with it and included me
as fully as any other student, and told me that I could come by
his shop any time with my project if I wanted advice or review,
which was really cool of him.
I like framing it up as an audit-- I think you should emphasize
that you still enjoy the topic and that you want to learn, just
with limits.
#Post#: 76613--------------------------------------------------
Re: Your Program Wasn't For Me, So... I Didn't Actually Complete
It
By: DaDancingPsych Date: August 2, 2022, 8:31 am
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Thanks everyone for your thoughts thus far. As per usual with
me, I may be overthinking this. I had considered asking to audit
the program from the very start, however I have sensed that she
would not find this acceptable. She tends to be rather
condescending and acts as if she knows what’s best for the
group. I have seen her shut down other simpler requests because
they slightly differ from the way that she is prescribing of how
to learn the material. And being that we are not permitted to
have private contact with her (it must all be done on an open
forum similar to this one), I imagine that she would go
ballistic if someone suggested that they were going to skip a
step. I wouldn’t put it past her to prematurely shut off my
access to the program, so I have tried really hard to not rock
the ship at this point. Admittedly, maybe I am wrong. Maybe she
would be quite receptive to an audit, but I have decided to not
risk it and have her believe that I am doing my best. And maybe
I will be pleasantly surprised and the remaining tasks are
rather easy and I will end up completing everything.
However, I do think that calling my efforts an audit in the end
may be wise. I think it does express what I have done
appropriately and hopefully she will be more understanding than
I think.
#Post#: 76982--------------------------------------------------
Re: Your Program Wasn't For Me, So... I Didn't Actually Complete
It
By: DaDancingPsych Date: August 31, 2022, 5:39 am
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Since the forum is quiet today, I will provide a boring update!
;D So I put together and sent my message last week. I did take
much of your advice here; referring to my experience as an audit
and focusing on what I did get from the program. I found the
director to be rather condescending through the whole program,
so I waited for an eye-worthy reply. When her reply did arrive,
it was a video reply... oh boy, here it comes. Actually, my
polite email, received a polite response! I think that she used
the video program as that is how she was reviewing the
assignment submissions and it's faster than typing for her. And
she sounded understanding and expressed her appreciation for my
email. She did not threaten to cut me off from the website early
(which is what I thought might happen), but rather said that she
would offer me to retake the program next year at a highly
discounted rate. (I don't know if I will take her up on that,
but at least I now understand what work would be involved.)
So thank you! I am sure that my question seemed rather simple,
but I really appreciate the people here. You always reply with
such kindness and heart and really help to me to find a polite
way to handle situations by helping me shave off the rough
edges. So thank you all!!!
#Post#: 77485--------------------------------------------------
Re: Your Program Wasn't For Me, So... I Didn't Actually Complete
It
By: bopper Date: October 21, 2022, 1:23 pm
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We were living in Germany and my daughter was a senior in HS. I
wanted her to get a drivers license before she went off to
college. So we signed her up for German driving school. We
paid the normal price, but told them we dont' want her to get a
license or even take the written test, but just to learn to
drive and practice. It was very very hard for them to get their
heads around this.
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