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#Post#: 76379--------------------------------------------------
Re: No Dogs Allowed
By: jpcher Date: July 16, 2022, 8:34 am
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I, too, agree with Jem.
Do you have a kennel in your area? (Doesn't matter how far
away.) If some extremely rude person shows up with a dog, even
after being told dogs were not allowed, instead of offering a
make-do 'hospitality' of your garage I would give them the
closest kennel information and immediately insist that they take
their dog there, or they are welcome to leave.
Offering garage space would only put a band-aide on the problem
("see! I knew you would take care of my precious!") And you must
know that owner would take precious out of the garage just for a
little walk or run/fun time. The dog wouldn't remain hidden for
the entire three days. And the offender wins by skating around
the rules.
#Post#: 76380--------------------------------------------------
Re: No Dogs Allowed
By: oogyda Date: July 16, 2022, 9:06 am
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Jem's wording is perfect! And I agree with jpcher that you
should not offer your garage or offer up any other solution
other than "Don't bring them!"
What astounds me is that they tried to go above your head and
get permission from the venue.
#Post#: 76381--------------------------------------------------
Re: No Dogs Allowed
By: Aleko Date: July 16, 2022, 9:09 am
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[quote]Do you have a kennel in your area? (Doesn't matter how
far away.) If some extremely rude person shows up with a dog,
even after being told dogs were not allowed, instead of offering
a make-do 'hospitality' of your garage I would give them the
closest kennel information and immediately insist that they take
their dog there, or they are welcome to leave.
Offering garage space would only put a band-aide on the problem
("see! I knew you would take care of my precious!") And you must
know that owner would take precious out of the garage just for a
little walk or run/fun time. The dog wouldn't remain hidden for
the entire three days. And the offender wins by skating around
the rules.[/quote]
This! Don't offer to host any dogs on your own turf, or they
win. And short of your double-padlocking your garage and keeping
the key on your person, I'd place a bet on these people sneaking
their dog out of there and on to the hired venue at some point
anyway.
#Post#: 76396--------------------------------------------------
Re: No Dogs Allowed
By: Raintree Date: July 16, 2022, 11:44 pm
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[quote author=oogyda link=topic=2370.msg76380#msg76380
date=1657980400]
What astounds me is that they tried to go above your head and
get permission from the venue.
[/quote]
Same here, especially since OP is not only organizing this but
also paying. Want a dog-friendly event? Go ahead and organize
one (on a different date than OP's). Research it, plan it,
communicate with guests about it, pay for it.
And I really like dogs, though I don't like it when owners can't
accept they can't bring them everywhere.
Really grinds my gears when people try to change the nature of
the event *I* am organizing. (Same goes for child-friendly vs
adult get-together). I had someone lambast me for organizing an
adult skating evening (ie go to the rink during adult-only skate
times) because it "excluded" her. Well here's the thing, there
was absolutely nothing stopping her from gathering friends to go
to a family skate time.
#Post#: 76399--------------------------------------------------
Re: No Dogs Allowed
By: VorFemme Date: July 17, 2022, 10:49 am
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Before their health got too bad, my in-laws did not travel
without their "furbaby". After chasing a dog with "tummy
troubles" who was leaving a trail behind her because only HER
hooman parents could take her outside (in her canine brain) and
then having to clean THAT off my tile kitchen & entry way and
shampoo the rug in the dining room and the carpet in the living
room the FIRST time the three of them visited, I'm afraid that
my enthusiasm for hosting dogs resembled that of the cat
creatures in Scooby-Doo on Zombie Island. They brought the dog
back for our daughter's wedding...along with their real
daughter, two grandkids, and a neighbor/friend of the daughter's
that had been invited AND we had a wedding party member in the
house already. I quickly made arrangements to take the
Bridesmaid to the hotel close to the wedding site and we paid
her share of the room (a matter of "not enough beds" at that
point). I was gone most of the day with arrangements the day
before and left early the next morning to take a bridesmaid home
on my way to the happy couple's new house to help them move in.
It was the only way that I kept from telling my husband "I told
you to tell them NOT to bring the dog - there's NO ROOM" - I am
afraid that I might have hissed at him like a cat creature while
in the privacy of our downstairs bedroom...guests were all
upstairs.
We didn't have another dog in the house, though, until just
after Hurricane Harvey, when his brother & sister-in-law were
picked up at a fire station after their house flooded...they did
arrange for their pets to go to their daughter's house, once the
flood waters receded....so that was temporary during an
emergency. More understandable...even if personally
uncomfortable. They also made sure nothing was left on the
floors.
#Post#: 76401--------------------------------------------------
Re: No Dogs Allowed
By: Lula Date: July 17, 2022, 12:12 pm
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[quote author=PVZFan link=topic=2370.msg76354#msg76354
date=1657827234]
I'm a touch worried that the family's child/ pet minder might be
being pressured not to come to the party. If you think they
might try to get the person to stay in your garage with the
animals, don't mention the garage and water.
[/quote]
Very good point. For this person's sake, when reminding
everyone of the no-pets rule, I would add that it will not be
possible to host pets in my home or yard, either, and invite
anyone concerned to look up kennels in my area and book them in
advance. (You don't need to do that legwork for them.)
#Post#: 76402--------------------------------------------------
Re: No Dogs Allowed
By: sms Date: July 17, 2022, 4:05 pm
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I concur with the concerns about offering the garage although I
know it is being done out of a generous spirit. But I'm not
sure giving an inch in this respect is a good idea.
I've dealt with my share of ill behaved dogs and their entitled
/ oblivious owners. The dogs just take over, whether it's the
owners spoiling them and treating them like actual children or
just the general high maintenance nature of dogs, I have visions
of dogs in your garage becoming a real disruption to the day
you've planned when their owners inevitably need to attend to
them.
Just an opinion but I would wouldn't make this easy for anyone
who disregards the no dogs rule.
#Post#: 76403--------------------------------------------------
Re: No Dogs Allowed
By: TootsNYC Date: July 17, 2022, 8:44 pm
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So rude of them to contact the venue. Did they think you were
lying or something?
And even if you weren't getting a discount--this is your
neighbor and your community, and for them to be
snippy/pissy/rude to the vendor is a massively rude thing for
them to do to YOU.
I'd be so tempted to say:
"Please do not contact the vendor directly--this is our
community, our neighbor, and our contract with the vendor. All
communication needs to go through us, so we can be sure [s]it is
polite and that [/s]it respects the contracts we have signed and
are responsible for."
#Post#: 76404--------------------------------------------------
Re: No Dogs Allowed
By: TootsNYC Date: July 17, 2022, 8:47 pm
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[quote author=JeanFromBNA link=topic=2370.msg76350#msg76350
date=1657821954]
Given Lula's post above, which I didn't think of, I'm going to
go with Jem's wording modified slightly. When I sent the text to
my husband, he said that if anyone brings dogs, he's going to
stick them in our garage with a water bowl. I don't think that
the dogs-as-babies crew would be happy with that.
I think that part of the problem is that the family kid and dog
watcher is going to be attending the party.
[/quote]
I wonder if you should send them contact info for a local
dog-boarding place. Or a different neighbor who'll agree to
watch dogs for money.
#Post#: 76406--------------------------------------------------
Re: No Dogs Allowed
By: Rho Date: July 17, 2022, 9:39 pm
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A dog in my garage would be a recipe for disaster with shovels,
pics, spades, old batteries awaiting disposal, etc that is
stored there.
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