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No Dogs Allowed UPDATE
By: JeanFromBNA Date: July 13, 2022, 2:19 pm
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We're hosting a 90th birthday party for my MIL in August, and
have reserved a venue with an event barn and a lovely cabin that
sleeps 6. It's located right down the road from us, and the
owners have given us a 50% discount on the whole thing. It's in
the country on about 20 acres, and the hosts live on the
property and keep free-range chickens, goats, and their own
dogs. The listing and website states that they cannot
accommodate dogs on property. I told my family members several
times in no uncertain terms that dogs are not allowed. So of
course someone (don't know who) called our neighbor and asked if
they could bring their dogs. Our neighbor texted me concerned
that the person who contacted her seemed upset when told that
wasn't possible.
When did expecting that your dogs would be accommodated
everywhere you travel become a thing? I don't like dogs in my
home; they make me sneeze, and our cats think that they're
weird. I will tolerate it for a short while because of faaamily,
but why can't people get someone to watch their pets when they
travel for three days? That's what we do.
I don't know who called. It could be any one of four families
who bring their animals with them when they travel. I'm a little
pissed that they were unpleasant to our neighbor who is giving
us a big freaking discount on this beautiful place. The family
doesn't know that, however, nor would we tell them. I'm unsure
what, if anything, to say to the in-laws besides "what did you
expect?"
#Post#: 76321--------------------------------------------------
Re: No Dogs Allowed
By: Jem Date: July 13, 2022, 2:44 pm
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I 100% agree. I do not allow dogs in my house. I am allergic to
them, many are not well behaved, and I don't want to pet them or
otherwise focus my attention on them. In someone else's space I
will tolerate them, and generally will say something like, "Yes,
Apollo is a very handsome dog, but I am a bit afraid of dogs in
general so please excuse me not wanting to interact with him,"
or "Please don't allow Apollo to jump on me - it frightens me"
or "I am not jumping in the water after your dog - you will need
to control her" but I will not allow them in my house. Period.
Presumably the neighbor has experience in dealing with the
public and can handle the dogs situation. I would probably
apologize to the neighbor and remind the family generally about
the rules for the venue. Maybe something like (sent to
everyone): "The venue has let us know that someone contacted
them asking about bringing dogs to MIL's party in August. I just
wanted to make it clear, again, that the venue's rules are NO
DOGS on the property so please do not bring your dogs to the
party."
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Re: No Dogs Allowed
By: Rose Red Date: July 13, 2022, 3:11 pm
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It's just a basic fact that pets (and children) are not welcome
everywhere and there may be a good reason. That's the sacrifice
you make when you became a parent to pets or children. Sometimes
you need to make arrangements or stay home.
I'd be so embarrassed if my guest called the venue to make an
exception for them. I'll also worry they will show up with their
dog anyway.
I agree you should send out Jem's above message.
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Re: No Dogs Allowed
By: DaDancingPsych Date: July 13, 2022, 3:48 pm
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Put me in the "I don't like dogs everywhere" group. My uncomfort
extends to the point that I will avoid some dog friendly
businesses or homes. I understand that I my feelings are not
always the number one consideration, but I think that's why
there are some places where dogs are not welcome (including my
own home.)
Jem's message is excellent. The entire post has excellent
information.
I assumed that you apologized to your neighbor upon receiving
the message. That really is enough. I also assume that you were
planning some sort of thank you at the end. I might include
something like "Also, thank you for dealing with our crazy
relatives. We appreciate the way you handled all their concerns,
even the grumpy ones." (Better wording is out there.) The truth
is that they run a business, so trust me, your relatives are not
the first fussy individuals that they have handled.
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Re: No Dogs Allowed
By: Isisnin Date: July 13, 2022, 5:49 pm
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An email like Jem suggested would be a good way to handle it.
Though it wouldn't be surprising if there is push back. Dog
owners who bring their dogs everywhere are in credibly entitled.
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Re: No Dogs Allowed
By: honeybee42 Date: July 13, 2022, 7:14 pm
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Yes, the "anywhere I go, Fido goes too" crowd is quite
entitled--from Jem's message above, I might even strike the
"please" (less of a request, more of an instruction), and I'd
even be casting some thoughts in mind about how to add in "I am
very disappointed to learn that someone contacted the venue
regarding this, after it had already been clearly communicated
that dogs are *not* allowed at this venue." And then a link
HTML https://petsitter.com/
(yes, a real site--my parents have used
that because they have a Great Dane and a cat).
Granted, I am totally a cat person, and cats (at least all of
mine and all the ones I have known throughout my life) are not
particularly fond of travel.
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Re: No Dogs Allowed
By: Rho Date: July 13, 2022, 9:54 pm
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If you send this or a similar message "Maybe something like
(sent to everyone): "The venue has let us know that someone
contacted them asking about bringing dogs to MIL's party in
August. I just wanted to make it clear, again, that the venue's
rules are NO DOGS on the property so please do not bring your
dogs to the party."
cc the neighbor so it is understood that YOU are abiding by the
rules and passing them along.
My 93 year old MIL was invited to a friends home for
Independence Day. An uninvited dog showed up with owner and delt
with nerves by BITING MIL!
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Re: No Dogs Allowed
By: Lula Date: July 14, 2022, 5:46 am
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How much you wanna bet Dog Owners rock up with their dogs, not
realizing your neighbor had told you about the phone call and
pretending to have NO IDEA what the rules were, and then expect
OP to deal with the "emergency" by accommodating the dogs at her
own place?
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Re: No Dogs Allowed
By: NewHomeowner Date: July 14, 2022, 6:17 am
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I agree with any of the previous suggestions, but you might want
to add, 'If you bring your dog, you will be invited to leave
immediately', or something to that effect. You will NOT be
leaving their dogs at your house, and they will NOT be 'allowed'
to leave their dogs in their car (very dangerous!). And hold
your stance. Do not let them bamboozle you into something you
do not want to do (i.e. take the dogs to your house so they can
destroy it).
The worst part is, the people who *insist* that Fido goes
everywhere, don't bother to train Fido at all (most of the
time).
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Re: No Dogs Allowed
By: vintagegal Date: July 14, 2022, 6:36 am
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another one in the "not a fan of dogs everywhere" camp. I get
it, you want your dog to be "socialized" - how about you do it a
dog park instead of in a retail store where not everyone wants
to meet and greet your pup?
I used to sell at an outdoor flea market where there were a lot
of dogs, most but not all on leash. Can't tell you how many
almost-fights I saw between dogs.
OTOH, I do LOVE dogs on an one-to-one basis. My neighbor kids
just brought over their new rescue puppy who is so STINKING CUTE
I almost couldn't take it.
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