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#Post#: 75850--------------------------------------------------
Re: The Disney Wedding Conundrum
DIR By: Aleko
Date: June 13, 2022, 1:59 am
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> And IRRC, the OP said in a comment that she and Hubby had
lunch with Mickey and Minnie. So they got food, but nobody else
did.
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What?!?
:o :o :o :o :o
They told all their guests to shove off and find somewhere to
buy themselves something to eat while they shared their wedding
meal with two anonymous Disney employees sweating in rubber
mouse costumes? Thus demonstrating that their Disney fantasy* is
more important to them than any of the real friends and
relations who had gone to trouble and expense to come and help
celebrate their marriage? That’s even worse than there
being no meal at all. If this couple really don’t get the
offensiveness of their wedding day, this may be a genuine case
of folie à deux.
* Can anyone actually eat in those mouse costumes? Or did these
two Disney peons just have to sit with a plate of food in front
of them which they couldn’t touch, and pretend to be
sharing a festive meal with these two crazies?
Edited to add: this couple must either be so deep into the
fantasy that they really do on some level believe that the
actors at Disney World really are Mickey and Minnie Mouse, or
they were in weapons-grade denial. Because if during their
lovely wedding lunch with these rubber-masked creatures it had,
even for a moment, occurred to them that behind the masks were
low-paid kids who knew they had snubbed their friends and family
for this, they couldn't possibly have felt happy about their
"perfect wedding".
#Post#: 75851--------------------------------------------------
Re: The Disney Wedding Conundrum
DIR By: DaDancingPsych
Date: June 13, 2022, 4:18 am
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> [quote]My understanding has been that you don't necessary owe
your guests a meal if the party wasn't during a standard meal
time.
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That’s true only for parties that people aren’t going to have to
travel serious distances for. Yes, if you invite friends who
live locally to come over for an hour or so mid-morning,
mid-afternoon or 5 pm, you are only obligated to offer them
coffee/tea/cocktails as appropriate and a few biscuits, pastries
or nibbles. But if your guests have had to travel for hours to
get to your event, and have as long a journey back home, you owe
them a decent meal.
[/quote]
For the sake of discussion (not because I believe what they
supposedly did was polite or even kind), what if the couple was
local and most (if not all) of their guests are, too? If we
eliminate the travel and time the celebration correctly, is
there a way to avoid feeding the guests? Or is it the fact that
guests are paying much out of pocket? (Although I will say that
I believe that the main Disney World wedding venue does not
require a park ticket. There is still things like parking to
consider, though.)
And to be clear that I'm just playing devil's advocate. I think
that if you are going to play an expensive wedding, but try to
cut corners by taking away from the guests' hospitality is not
cool... even if you are quite clear in what you are doing.
"Bring your own credit card because the food venues near the
wedding are going to cost you."
#Post#: 75854--------------------------------------------------
Re: The Disney Wedding Conundrum
DIR By: Aleko
Date: June 13, 2022, 7:23 am
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> If we eliminate the travel and time the celebration correctly,
is there a way to avoid feeding the guests?
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If the entire event takes place between mealtimes, I think you
can avoid giving them a proper meal, yes. It might come across
as a bit Scroogey, but would not be a outright breach of
manners. But (a) some token offering of food/drink there must
be, even if it's only a glass of sparkling wine and a slice of
wedding cake; (b) it must be made clear to the guests that there
will not be a meal; and (c) there should not be an inner circle
who get treated to a nice meal (as in the 'Doing Away with the
Wedding Breakfast" thread). The real kicker in the Disney story
was that there was a meal, but it was reserved for a pair of
puppets, not the guests!
#Post#: 75855--------------------------------------------------
Re: The Disney Wedding Conundrum
DIR By: Lula
Date: June 13, 2022, 7:35 am
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*Screenshots an old Reddit thread* *Clips a series of
"highlights"* *Paraphrases the text in each image* Hey, look!
I wrote an article!
#Post#: 75856--------------------------------------------------
Re: The Disney Wedding Conundrum
DIR By: DaDancingPsych
Date: June 13, 2022, 9:41 am
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--- Quote from: Lula link ---
>
> *Screenshots an old Reddit thread* *Clips a series of
"highlights"* *Paraphrases the text in each image* Hey, look!
I wrote an article!
>
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I am sorry that I did not know that this was originally a Reddit
thread. I saw the Buzzfeed article and thought this might be
something to discuss here. I was just trying to do my part to
keep the boards active and interesting. :)
#Post#: 75857--------------------------------------------------
Re: The Disney Wedding Conundrum
DIR By: Titanica
Date: June 13, 2022, 9:45 am
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> I suspect this is fake. They spend, probably, a couple
thousand dollars to have the Disney rats show up for a half
hour, and don't feed your guests anything, not even appetizers?
And both sets of parents think that's just fine and dandy? Nope,
not buying it.
>
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I agree completely. As I've said before, the AITA Reddit, as
far as I'm concerned, is a bunch of amateur fiction writers all
trying to outdo each other.
Seriously, if someone is crass enough to do this to begin with,
would they really care what anyone thought about it afterwards?
#Post#: 75858--------------------------------------------------
Re: The Disney Wedding Conundrum
DIR By: NFPwife
Date: June 13, 2022, 10:15 am
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--- Quote from: Lula link ---
>
> *Screenshots an old Reddit thread* *Clips a series of
"highlights"* *Paraphrases the text in each image* Hey, look!
I wrote an article!
>
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DH and I say that all the time! I was the top comment on a hot
thread and DH said to me, "You're going to make Newsweek!"
(Reddit thought the scenario was fake so I might not. :) )
#Post#: 75863--------------------------------------------------
Re: The Disney Wedding Conundrum
DIR By: Gellchom
Date: June 13, 2022, 12:48 pm
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--- Quote from: DaDancingPsych link ---
>
> [quote author=Lula link=topic=2355.msg75855#msg75855
date=1655123721]
> *Screenshots an old Reddit thread* *Clips a series of
"highlights"* *Paraphrases the text in each image* Hey, look!
I wrote an article!
>
--- End Quote ---
I am sorry that I did not know that this was originally a Reddit
thread. I saw the Buzzfeed article and thought this might be
something to discuss here. I was just trying to do my part to
keep the boards active and interesting. :)
[/quote]
And you did!
#Post#: 75864--------------------------------------------------
Re: The Disney Wedding Conundrum
DIR By: NFPwife
Date: June 13, 2022, 1:08 pm
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--- Quote from: gellchom link ---
>
> [quote author=DaDancingPsych link=topic=2355.msg75856#msg75856
date=1655131308]
> [quote author=Lula link=topic=2355.msg75855#msg75855
date=1655123721]
> *Screenshots an old Reddit thread* *Clips a series of
"highlights"* *Paraphrases the text in each image* Hey, look!
I wrote an article!
>
--- End Quote ---
I am sorry that I did not know that this was originally a Reddit
thread. I saw the Buzzfeed article and thought this might be
something to discuss here. I was just trying to do my part to
keep the boards active and interesting. :)
[/quote]
And you did!
[/quote]
I think we should have a Reddit section. I'd love to hear what
you all think about different posts!
#Post#: 75874--------------------------------------------------
Re: The Disney Wedding Conundrum
DIR By: oogyda
Date: June 13, 2022, 2:58 pm
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--- Quote from: PVZFan link ---
>
> [quote author=gellchom link=topic=2355.msg75863#msg75863
date=1655142520]
> [quote author=DaDancingPsych link=topic=2355.msg75856#msg75856
date=1655131308]
> [quote author=Lula link=topic=2355.msg75855#msg75855
date=1655123721]
> *Screenshots an old Reddit thread* *Clips a series of
"highlights"* *Paraphrases the text in each image* Hey, look!
I wrote an article!
>
--- End Quote ---
I am sorry that I did not know that this was originally a Reddit
thread. I saw the Buzzfeed article and thought this might be
something to discuss here. I was just trying to do my part to
keep the boards active and interesting. :)
[/quote]
And you did!
[/quote]
I think we should have a Reddit section. I'd love to hear what
you all think about different posts!
[/quote]
You could start a thread. If it takes off, there might be cause
for a dedicated section. Some threads seem to do okay without
that step, though.
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