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The Disney Wedding Conundrum
By: DaDancingPsych Date: June 12, 2022, 5:53 am
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This might be an interesting conversation starter...
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My summary: A Disney loving couple wanted to have an appearance
by the Mickey and Minnie at their wedding, so they used the
catering budget to make that happen. This left the guests to
fend for themselves.
I wonder what solutions Brimestoners have for this situation?
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Re: The Disney Wedding Conundrum
By: Aleko Date: June 12, 2022, 7:26 am
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I don't think it's a conundrum at all. If you invite people to
your wedding, you feed them. Period. Doesn't have to be fancy
food, but food there must be. The "wedding feast" is the oldest
and most fundamental element of wedding ceremonies across the
globe. Also, by telling people simply to go and find themselves
the overpriced eatery of their choice (or get a bag of crisps
from a vending machine if they couldn't afford that) they were
actually preventing any social meal happening. That's even worse
in a way than making people pay for their plate at a catered
meal.
And these "guests" apparently had to pay for their travel to
Disney World, at least one night's accommodation there, and an
entry ticket. If they weren't being invited to a meal of any
kind, what exactly did the "invitation" consist of? "Have a day
at Disney World, see us hitched, hand over a present, then go
eat wherever you can?"
BTW, I'm also with the commenters who note darkly that the happy
couple may indeed have "CLEARLY outlined in the invitations that
there was food available at the venue", but did they outline as
clearly that the guests would have to pay for it?
The whine that "there were also vending machines available
throughout" if any of their guests felt they couldn't afford a
restaurant really puts the tin lid on it. It shows that they
realise people might not have felt able to afford an overpriced
restaurant meal on top of the costs this wedding has imposed on
them, and they don't care.
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Re: The Disney Wedding Conundrum
By: AnnNottingham Date: June 12, 2022, 8:51 am
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Right. A guest means...you feed your guests. It can be cake
and punch, but you do something.
At first, I hadn't realized that the wedding was at Disney. So
everyone had to travel to Disney, presumably stay on Disney
property, and all the other costs, and they got vending machines
or $$$$ Disney restaurants?
I would have been suspicious at "Food will be available at the
venue", if I had been thinking of attending at all. I also get
the feeling that it was not spelled out that the "guests" had to
buy it.
No conundrum for me, either. The couple put Mickey and Minnie
Mouse impersonators above their family and friends.
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Re: The Disney Wedding Conundrum
By: lakey Date: June 12, 2022, 11:51 am
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I suspect this is fake. They spend, probably, a couple thousand
dollars to have the Disney rats show up for a half hour, and
don't feed your guests anything, not even appetizers? And both
sets of parents think that's just fine and dandy? Nope, not
buying it.
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Re: The Disney Wedding Conundrum
By: DaDancingPsych Date: June 12, 2022, 12:49 pm
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[quote author=lakey link=topic=2355.msg75842#msg75842
date=1655052680]
I suspect this is fake. They spend, probably, a couple thousand
dollars to have the Disney rats show up for a half hour, and
don't feed your guests anything, not even appetizers? And both
sets of parents think that's just fine and dandy? Nope, not
buying it.
[/quote]
It would not surprise me to learn that this is fake. I have
never been to a Disney wedding, but my understanding is that the
rental fee is steep. Cutting out the food would not really make
a dent in the overall budget. In fact, it would not surprise me
that Disney's wedding package includes catering of some sort.
But when I read it, I thought it might be fun to discuss here.
My understanding has been that you don't necessary owe your
guests a meal if the party wasn't during a standard meal time.
However, you should offer hospitality to make them comfortable.
If it was an afternoon wedding, then a laid back reception where
drinks and maybe a few Disney snacks were provided (and still a
visit by the celebrity mice) would be acceptable. But maybe I'm
wrong???
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Re: The Disney Wedding Conundrum
By: Rose Red Date: June 12, 2022, 12:51 pm
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I sure hope it's fake.
If it's real:
Did it say if the guests have to buy their own admission tickets
to get into the park? That's big bucks right there in addition
to travel expenses.
$5500.00 for two 30 minute sessions?! These are people in
costumes, not real celebrities mice. Nice if you have $5500.00
laying around, but I doubt this couple does since they can't
afford food for their guests. And it's even worse if they do
have extra money laying around and won't miss that much cash.
If you can't feed your guests, people who are not
self-involved/selfish and with common sense tell themselves to
buy a Mickey and Minnie cake topper or something like that and
feed your guests.
Also, not warning they won't be serving food is garbage. Even if
I (as a guest), end up going for some crazy reason, I'd at least
know to pack my own lunch and snacks.
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Re: The Disney Wedding Conundrum
By: Gellchom Date: June 12, 2022, 2:14 pm
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I, too, suspect this is fake.
One reason I think that is the whole business about the food
money going for the "mice." I assume there were other costs
associated with this wedding -- clothes, flowers, officiant, and
of course the venue itself. Money is fungible; the food money
in particular no more went to the mice than it did to those
other things. Not to mention that this couple has the means to
travel to Disney multiple times in a year; giving up one or two
of those trips would have freed up some money for wedding costs.
In other words, there are lots of things they spent money on,
not just Mickey and Minnie.
It comes down to the same old thing: spending all/most your
budget on yourselves and none/very little on your guests. We
see this all the time, don't we? Often in the context of very
expensive destination weddings, pay-your-own-way restaurant
receptions, inconvenient venues or times (like on the
mountaintop at dawn), and so forth. It's just a particularly
ridiculous example, especially because of the way they put it:
spending the food budget, specifically, on Mickey and Minnie.
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Re: The Disney Wedding Conundrum
By: Aleko Date: June 12, 2022, 4:43 pm
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[quote]My understanding has been that you don't necessary owe
your guests a meal if the party wasn't during a standard meal
time.[/quote]
That’s true only for parties that people aren’t going to have to
travel serious distances for. Yes, if you invite friends who
live locally to come over for an hour or so mid-morning,
mid-afternoon or 5 pm, you are only obligated to offer them
coffee/tea/cocktails as appropriate and a few biscuits, pastries
or nibbles. But if your guests have had to travel for hours to
get to your event, and have as long a journey back home, you owe
them a decent meal.
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Re: The Disney Wedding Conundrum
By: NFPwife Date: June 12, 2022, 5:43 pm
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I saw this on Reddit originally, and, sadly, I think it's real.
I've learned that Redditors do a lot of discovery and I didn't
see it called out. The page for Disney wedding pricing pieces
everything out. You can do venue and entertainment separate from
food.
HTML https://www.disneyweddings.com/florida/pricing/
The OP
defended her choices in the comments a bit before giving up.
They should have fed the guests something, but there doesn't
seem to be a heavy appetizers or cake and punch option. Dinner
is $210 per person. Plus tax and gratuity. They couldn't afford
to offer their guests hospitality and have the rodents. So they
went with rodents. Because Disney is such an important part of
their story.
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Re: The Disney Wedding Conundrum
By: Winterlight Date: June 12, 2022, 7:35 pm
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They failed basic Hosting 101. Not only did they not feed their
guests, they expected their guests to pay for the privilege of
eating there. And it doesn't sound to me like they told the
guests that they were going to have to buy their own food,
either. The way the OP phrased it, it came across like they were
being assured food would be there, not that they were going to
have to pony up for Disney food prices themselves.
And IRRC, the OP said in a comment that she and Hubby had lunch
with Mickey and Minnie. So they got food, but nobody else did.
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