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Miss-delivered plant & opening the attached card - Miss Mann
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By: Hmmm Date: March 30, 2022, 8:56 am
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In summary, the LW came home to a potted plant left on her
doorstep. It has a sealed card with a name but no other
identifying info on the plant or card. LW says she tried to find
the name on social media but says " opening an envelope
addressed to another person is overstepping a boundary that I am
not willing to cross".
I truly thought MM would say to just open the card and see if
the florist name is on the card. But MM concurred that she
should not open the card and basically told her to just not
worry about it.
If I were the sender or the recipient of the gift, I'd much
rather someone opened the envelope. I mean, how personal of a
message could it contain given that the content was likely
dictated to someone at the florist to write on the card.
Other's thoughts?
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Re: Miss-delivered plant & opening the attached card - Miss
Manners column
By: Isisnin Date: March 30, 2022, 9:18 am
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Without any name visible, I think I would have knee jerk opened
the card since that would be with the best intention of finding
the correct recipient. I might have thought of knocking on
neighbor doors first, but then probably wouldn't have because a
lot of people don't know ahead of time that they have been sent
a gift and what if I knocked on the door of a birthday person.
They could think it was for them, opened the card - and it
wasn't for them.
Another option which I can think of with the luxury of time
(while typing this out and not being in the moment) would be to
call the local florist and ask if it was their delivery. Also
call 1-800-flowers (a national US flower delivery service).
But opening the card is fine and polite.
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Re: Miss-delivered plant & opening the attached card - Miss
Manners column
By: random numbers Date: March 30, 2022, 9:52 am
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I'd open the card.
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Re: Miss-delivered plant & opening the attached card - Miss
Manners column
By: honeybee42 Date: March 30, 2022, 9:56 am
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I would certainly open the card if I couldn't identify the
florist otherwise (or any other means of identifying who it was
actually meant for). Like Hmmm, I'm thinking about the feelings
of the sender and the intended recipient.
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Re: Miss-delivered plant & opening the attached card - Miss
Manners column
By: NFPwife Date: March 30, 2022, 10:03 am
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[quote author=honeybee42 link=topic=2315.msg74568#msg74568
date=1648652186]
I would certainly open the card if I couldn't identify the
florist otherwise (or any other means of identifying who it was
actually meant for). Like Hmmm, I'm thinking about the feelings
of the sender and the intended recipient.
[/quote]
Agree, if there wasn't a way to easily identify where the
arrangement was from, I'd open the card. A. It's not federal
mail and B. a large percentage of the time the recipient
displays the card with the arrangement.
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Re: Miss-delivered plant & opening the attached card - Miss
Manners column
By: DaDancingPsych Date: March 30, 2022, 10:41 am
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Yep. Open the card. Sure, it would be a last resort and I would
try to figure out the person with other means. But there comes a
point where opening the card just makes sense.
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Re: Miss-delivered plant & opening the attached card - Miss
Manners column
By: Rose Red Date: March 30, 2022, 11:11 am
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LOL. All the comments say to open the card. I agree and I agree
it's not the US Mail so it's not a crime to open. I'm sure
there's no deep dark secret since most likely the florist
transcribed it for the buyer. Most likely says "happy birthday"
or something.
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Re: Miss-delivered plant & opening the attached card - Miss
Manners column
By: Aleko Date: March 31, 2022, 2:08 am
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What was missing from the original story was any indication of
whether the card looked like a regular florist’s card or
something written by the giver themself. I agree with everyone
who says that a message dictated by a customer to a florist is
unlikely to be embarrassingly revealing (e.g they will likely go
for ‘So sorry for yesterday evening’ rather than
‘… for getting trashed and stripping off in your
lounge’), so it’s legit to open it.
But if it looked ‘amateur’ rather than professional,
as though they had written it and handed it to the florist
already sealed, that’s a somewhat different deal.
It’s also, unlike a florist’s card, unlikely to
contain more than the giver’s and the recipient’s
personal names or even nicknames, so might well not help
identify the recipient or the florist.
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