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#Post#: 74558--------------------------------------------------
White, Winter White, Snow White?????
By: Rho Date: March 29, 2022, 9:46 pm
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Younger daughter just told me about a 'custom' of a Bride
wearing a different White outfit to her engagement party,
bachelorette party, wedding shower, ceremony, and honeymoon.
Neither of us have ever heard of such a custom.
Have you?
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Re: White, Winter White, Snow White?????
By: Aleko Date: March 30, 2022, 3:56 am
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I've never heard of a custom that the bride wears white on any
day other than the wedding day. And not even all day on her
wedding day! - because traditionally the bride and groom used to
change out of their wedding clothes into their 'going-away'
outfits, and come back to the reception to say their farewells
before pootling off on their honeymoon with old shoes and 'JUST
MARRIED' signs attached to the back of their car. A going-away
outfit was never white, if only because it wouldn't look as
though the bride had changed.
And the idea runs counter to the whole run of tradition and
superstition in general. Remember the one that says a
bride-to-be should try her dress and the veil on separately, but
never put on her complete bridal ensemble till the morning of
the Big Day? It's the same principle as not bringing the cradle
or the pram into the house before the baby's safely born - the
feeling that if you presume before the event, you'll put the
mockers on it. In the same way, a girl who no sooner gets a
diamond solitaire than she starts prancing around in white is
surely asking for trouble!
So no: not only have I never heard of any such "custom", I
simply don't believe it existed till some crazed bridezilla or a
crafty manufacturer of white frocks dreamed it up all of a month
or so ago. I'd put money on it.
#Post#: 74560--------------------------------------------------
Re: White, Winter White, Snow White?????
By: oogyda Date: March 30, 2022, 6:32 am
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Perhaps substitute the word custom with trend.
#Post#: 74561--------------------------------------------------
Re: White, Winter White, Snow White?????
By: Rose Red Date: March 30, 2022, 6:40 am
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People can wear whatever they want but that's not a traditional
custom. Heck, even a white wedding dress only became popular
because of Queen Victoria.
#Post#: 74577--------------------------------------------------
Re: White, Winter White, Snow White?????
By: DaDancingPsych Date: March 30, 2022, 10:45 am
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Agree, not a custom that I'm aware of. I feel like this might be
a transition from "It's MYYYY Day" to "MYYYY Weekend" to "MYYYY
Month"... you get the point.
With that said, if a bride wants to wear white to all of those
events, go for it!
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Re: White, Winter White, Snow White?????
By: TootsNYC Date: March 30, 2022, 3:22 pm
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I have run across mentions of it, and it doesn't surprise me
that there would be a move to treat all those events as
miniature weddings.
But I don't think it's a hard-and-fast rule the way wearing
white to weddings is.
#Post#: 74625--------------------------------------------------
Re: White, Winter White, Snow White?????
By: jpcher Date: March 31, 2022, 8:32 pm
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I agree with oogyda -- it's a trend rather than a custom.
custom
[ˈkəstəm]
NOUN
a traditional and widely accepted way of behaving or doing
something that is specific to a particular society, place, or
time.
trend
[trend]
NOUN
a general direction in which something is developing or
changing.
My DD#2 recently bought a veil for DD#1 to wear at her
bachelorette party. I never heard of a veil being worn by
brides-to-be before the wedding.
But I guess that's a 'Thing', you know, a trend.
Does it really matter if it's a Custom? Trend? Thing? I say go
with whatever makes the bride happy.
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Re: White, Winter White, Snow White?????
By: Rose Red Date: March 31, 2022, 9:26 pm
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[quote author=jpcher link=topic=2313.msg74625#msg74625
date=1648776730]
My DD#2 recently bought a veil for DD#1 to wear at her
bachelorette party. I never heard of a veil being worn by
brides-to-be before the wedding.
[/quote]
I've seen this a lot. The veil is usually inexpensive and
attached to a fun tacky bejeweled tiara. Strangers will often
see the veil and congratulate her or buy her drinks.
#Post#: 74628--------------------------------------------------
Re: White, Winter White, Snow White?????
By: NyaChan Date: March 31, 2022, 10:25 pm
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In the women of my generation, it’s not uncommon to do it.
Bachelorette party, bridal shower - my friends wore white. I
don’t think it’s a tradition so much as something some women
might enjoy and choose to do.
#Post#: 74642--------------------------------------------------
Re: White, Winter White, Snow White?????
By: Gellchom Date: April 1, 2022, 10:38 am
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I think my daughter wore a cute white dress to her rehearsal
dinner. My daughter-in-law didn't. Both were summer weddings.
It could get a little silly to wear nothing but white to lots of
events, but it's kind of nice for an engagement party or
rehearsal dinner.
What I would NOT want to see happening is people saying there is
a rule that no one else can wear white to anything
wedding-related.
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