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Re: Another Spin-Off: Allergies of Convenience
By: oogyda Date: March 5, 2022, 9:56 am
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[quote author=Hello Ducky link=topic=2281.msg74122#msg74122
date=1646450116]
[quote author=Venus193 link=topic=2281.msg73610#msg73610
date=1644202992]
Someone I know now has claimed to be allergic to all spices and
seasonings (not the same personI mentioned in the other thread).
When I announced that I was making boeuf bourgignon for the
Christmas party she asked if there was any pepper in it I told
her that there would be no bell peppers. I did not mention that
ground pepper is in the marinade. She has used my jar of adobo
that I sometimes bring along to the pub and that stuff contains
pepper.
[/quote]
That really was a foolish, selfish, and dangerous thing to do.
[/quote]
If someone claims to he allergic, I will respect that. I
probably won't be cooking for them either.
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Re: Another Spin-Off: Allergies of Convenience
By: sandisadie Date: March 5, 2022, 10:06 am
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I'm curious as to why someone would profess to having an allergy
to something when they actually don't. Is it to just keep from
eating something they don't like, or to get attention, or what?
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Re: Another Spin-Off: Allergies of Convenience
By: Venus193 Date: March 5, 2022, 3:16 pm
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One person I knew had a phobia about fish because of a painful
experience in childhood when s bone was caught in her throat.
This phobia got worse with time.
One person may have reacted badly to things her mother never
served; the mother's cooking reminded me of Mrs Trefoil in Die,
Die, My Darling.
The person in this thread previously ate certain things multiple
times before saying she was allergic and nobody had ever
witnessed an allergic reaction. She is still raving about the
boeuf. Hence, it's about what she doesn't like.
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Re: Another Spin-Off: Allergies of Convenience
By: sawa Date: March 6, 2022, 3:15 am
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[quote author=Lilipons link=topic=2281.msg73684#msg73684
date=1644449155]
It”s always best to assume that announced allergies are real.
However, the one who professed an allergy to all seasonings
reminds me of a post about someone who claimed she could have no
spices because of “seasonal” allergies.
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I mean... I can see why it's funny, but this is where most of my
food allergies come from, including many seasonings. They're
called cross allergies or cross-reactions and mean that being
allergic to certain pollens means I'm also allergic to certain
foods. The most common cross allergy is birch pollen + apples
and carrots, at least in the area where I am. The food allergies
are worse when there's more pollen in the air, so it's seasonal.
I'm allergic to several seasonings, but there are just too many
to test individually, so I don't know exactly to what and to
what extent and most specifically: when the most. So I might eat
your food okay at one point and have an immediate rash and
difficulties breathing at other. I know, not the most sought
after dinner guest.
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Re: Another Spin-Off: Allergies of Convenience
By: Catananche Date: March 7, 2022, 1:05 pm
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I have the cross-allergy birch-apple. I have seasonal allergies
and take medication, but a few year ago I mentioned to my
husband that the apple I was eating was 'prickly' in my mouth. A
tingly sensation, just like I have with kiwi. After reading
about cross-allergies I don't eat raw apple any more. Cooked,
baked etc are all fine.
I take allergies/intolerance serious but people have to tell me
about them before I start cooking something! I can't leave out
ingredients half-way through the process without messing the
dish up.
People are claiming allergies because their preferences aren't
taken seriously. I don't eat shrimp, I'm not allergic.
Technically I can eat them, I really don't like them. The amount
of people trying to convince me that their shrimp dish is going
to make me change my mind is absolutely staggering. I'm an
adult, I don't like shrimp. Yes, even your shrimp dish.
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Re: Another Spin-Off: Allergies of Convenience
By: TootsNYC Date: March 13, 2022, 1:38 pm
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[quote author=sandisadie link=topic=2281.msg74133#msg74133
date=1646496419]
I'm curious as to why someone would profess to having an allergy
to something when they actually don't. Is it to just keep from
eating something they don't like, or to get attention, or what?
[/quote]
It's usually to keep from being pestered about eating something
they don't like.
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Re: Another Spin-Off: Allergies of Convenience
By: TootsNYC Date: March 13, 2022, 1:43 pm
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[quote author=Amigurumi link=topic=2281.msg74160#msg74160
date=1646679902]
People are claiming allergies because their preferences aren't
taken seriously. I don't eat shrimp, I'm not allergic.
Technically I can eat them, I really don't like them. The amount
of people trying to convince me that their shrimp dish is going
to make me change my mind is absolutely staggering. I'm an
adult, I don't like shrimp. Yes, even your shrimp dish.
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My daughter has gotten so tired of being badgered about eating
meat ("you'll like it when it's cooked my way") that she has
become a "social vegetarian" (I think that's the term she used).
She has no philosophical objection to eating meat; she just
generally dislikes it intensely. (Texture, mostly.)
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Re: Another Spin-Off: Allergies of Convenience
By: VorFemme Date: March 15, 2022, 4:42 pm
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[quote author=TootsNYC link=topic=2281.msg74259#msg74259
date=1647196739]
[quote author=sandisadie link=topic=2281.msg74133#msg74133
date=1646496419]
I'm curious as to why someone would profess to having an allergy
to something when they actually don't. Is it to just keep from
eating something they don't like, or to get attention, or what?
[/quote]
It's usually to keep from being pestered about eating something
they don't like.
[/quote]
I spent decades telling people that I didn't eat dill pickles.
In my fifties, I tried Greek cooking and discovered that the
ONLY unusual ingredient in a yogurt, dill, lemon, and garlic
sauce - was the dill. My mouth itched quite a bit. I spent the
next few "family events" refusing the family dishes with the
comment, "No, thanks, but I've discovered that I am ALLERGIC to
dill." Shut down the half-heard comments about refusing to eat
the traditional family recipes. Which featured dill pickles in
copious quantities...
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Re: Another Spin-Off: Allergies of Convenience
By: Contrarian Date: May 26, 2022, 10:50 am
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This is a touchy topic for me because I have food allergies,
food intolerances and I’m also a picky eater.
I have a very sensitive palate. And am very scent sensitive.
Taste and smell are connected but those who are strongly
effected (affected? It’s an ESL thing) by scent are usually not
challenged. Entire work places work around it.
But when I say I can taste the thing someone says I won’t be
able to taste, then I’m just a liar. Or a baby. Or was spoiled
when I was a child.
Because I dislike so many things, I’m considered a brat who
never tasted different foods. Spoiled by my parents and somehow
I’m accused of being demanding, despite the fact that I don’t
ask for accommodations.
But people get outright angry if one food they’ve put on your
plate is left to the side.
I grew up in Iran, and it’s true we mostly ate chicken or lamb
and rice, fruit and dates and figs, etc. Mediterranean type
foods.
But I’ve never liked fish of any kind. And I just won’t eat it.
I don’t see why I should.
I could claim to be a vegan, that would be accepted, but that I
merely chose to not put in my mouth anything I don’t want to is
somehow rude.
I am allergic to tomatoes. There is something in fresh tomatoes
that make me nauseated, but I won’t die. And when the tomatoes
are processed, like the type of tomato sauce you can buy in a
can or that’s in ketchup, the thing that makes me nauseated
disappears. So again, I’m a called a liar, because people don’t
understand that proteins in food can change depending on how
they are prepared.
I had a waitress friend yell at me saying I shouldn’t say I’m
allergic because then she wouldn’t have to go through all the
work of avoiding cross contamination.
I waitressed for years and cooked. I’ve never found it a big
deal. But more disturbing is that she doesn’t mind my leaving
the restaurant feeling nauseated for a couple of hours as long
as it’s not an inconvenience to her.
I don’t like a lot of vegetables. I’ll eat romaine lettuce, bell
peppers, carrots, potatoes, zucchini. That’s about it. I don’t
like olives, cucumbers, celery. Foods very prominent in my
childhood culture. Not like olives in the Middle East is unheard
of. Nonetheless…
I don’t like peaches, or cooked fruit, or mixed flavours or milk
in my coffee.
Cream heated up sends me to the bathroom in minutes. But I can
eat cheese, and cold milk and ice cream.
I just don’t see how it’s anyones business. I never ask for
accommodation and I just don’t think a hostess should watch what
their guest eats and what they don’t. I will always find
something to eat.
And it’s not that I haven’t tried things. I love Thai food, and
Mexican and pasta (with garlic and oil), West Indian food,
tandoori, Hakka.
I love my friends because they invite me for dinner to spend
time with me. They will make their big dish that I may not eat
and not get insulted when I just eat the pita and hummus, or
what ever nibbles they’ve put out. They make fun of me
sometimes, and my sister never stops commenting on what I eat
and what I make. But sisters are like that.
I love food and I love cooking, so I know what it’s like to want
to cook for others.
But you may have friends you like despite the fact they don’t
like your signature moussaka.
If people are dramatic about their food issues, they must be
dramatic about everything. That’s who they are. Don’t invite
dramatic people over.
For the rest of us, who want to enjoy your company, and don’t
want to be asked, “why aren’t you eating this?” “Why haven’t
you tried that?” Just let us quietly take care of ourselves with
what’s on offer and enjoy spending time together.
Don’t ask why. Don’t ask what. Most of us don’t want to talk
about it and be judged by it or questioned about it in a room
full of or peers.
I do eat food I don’t want to sometimes. But I will never again
eat a piece of fish no matter who it angers. I really believe no
one should be peer pressured into putting anything into their
mouths that they don’t want to.
Please just cook what you like.
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Re: Another Spin-Off: Allergies of Convenience
By: chigger Date: May 26, 2022, 11:06 am
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Excellent post, Contrarian!
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