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Don't complain--I'm bringing you a 'gift'
By: Rho Date: January 20, 2022, 9:50 pm
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The house next to my friend Loris' house was just sold. New
owner plans to knock down house and rebuild. This is in a 60
year old neighborhood of quarter acre lots. A few days ago new
neighbor knocked on Loris front door and handed her a package.
It was a box of chocolate covered strawberries with a note pre
apologizing for the noise that will be made while house is being
demolished and new house is built. He handed out boxes to every
house on street.
One of us thinks he's a jerk for assuming food that is a common
allergen gives him carte blanche to make noise. One of us
thinks he's very sweet and considerate.
What thinks YOU?
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Re: Don't complain--I'm bringing you a 'gift'
By: Amara Date: January 20, 2022, 10:55 pm
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He isn't trying to say he can buy off the neighbors complaints
with chocolate. He's just aware of how much he is going to
disturb his new neighbors and would like to apologize in
advance. It seems he has good intentions; assuming the worst
about him doesn't sound make the one of you who assumes he's a
jerk sound like a nice person.
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Re: Don't complain--I'm bringing you a 'gift'
By: LurkingGurl Date: January 21, 2022, 2:33 am
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[quote author=Rho link=topic=2261.msg73163#msg73163
date=1642737045]
One of us thinks he's a jerk for assuming food that is a common
allergen gives him carte blanche to make noise.
[/quote]
He's not assuming that. He has the right to buy a house, tear
it down and build a new house or he wouldn't be doing it. He
doesn't need to buy people off with chocolates.
What he is doing is establishing a relationship with his
neighbors that fosters communication. It's actually a very smart
and polite thing to do.
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Re: Don't complain--I'm bringing you a 'gift'
By: Aleko Date: January 21, 2022, 2:58 am
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It’s the complainer who is the jerk here, no question.
Nobody knocks down their house and rebuilds it just for the
LOLs, and it certainly inconveniences them orders-of-magnitude
more than it inconveniences the neighbours. He was politely
giving them advance warning of the unavoidable nuisance, with a
little gift just to indicate how sorry he was to cause them
annoyance. A model new neighbour, I would say.
And while of course strawberry can be an allergen, it’s
certainly not one of the common ones - it’s way down the
list headed up by milk, nuts, peanuts, eggs etc. And so many
foods can be allergens, it would be almost if not completely
impossible to think up a convenient food gift that
wouldn’t cause an adverse reaction to anyone on the
planet. Just as it would be impossible to think up a gift of any
kind that every one of a random streetful of householders could
be guaranteed to like or be able to make use of. Bottle of wine?
No use to the Muslims, recovering alcoholics or
teetotallers-for-any-other-reason. Bunch of flowers? Pollen
allergies! Book token? Not everyone reads! Home made cake?
Cruel to dieters!
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Re: Don't complain--I'm bringing you a 'gift'
By: Rose Red Date: January 21, 2022, 5:49 am
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I agree with everyone. He's just trying to apologize and warning
in advance. He's not going to make a extra noise. He knows
normal construction is noisy enough.
The one complaining sounds like someone who enjoys actively
looking for things to pick at. Unless they are allergic to
strawberries or chocolate themselves, why would it even cross
their mind?
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Re: Don't complain--I'm bringing you a 'gift'
By: STiG Date: January 21, 2022, 6:47 am
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Another vote for nice gesture. Like the parents, flying with
their infant twins, who gave everyone a little bag of candy and
a pair of earplugs.
He knows there is potential for conflict, made a point of
introducing himself to all the neighbours, so they know they can
approach him if there is something that isn't right - like
parking of work trucks that block driveways, for example.
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Re: Don't complain--I'm bringing you a 'gift'
By: lowspark Date: January 21, 2022, 7:56 am
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Assuming he has gotten permits and is following local ordinances
regarding work times and noise levels, he already has "carte
blanche to make noise". He is anticipating the day that the work
is completed and he moves in. He is hoping that this small
gesture will give him a leg up on making friends with his new
neighbors.
Anyone who takes offense at this will probably not welcome him
to the neighborhood no matter what. And I'll be happy to take
their strawberries! Send 'em on over! ;)
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Re: Don't complain--I'm bringing you a 'gift'
By: lakey Date: January 21, 2022, 10:19 am
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I'd be gobbling up the chocolate covered strawberries instead of
whining. If I were allergic to strawberries I would give them to
someone who wasn't.
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Re: Don't complain--I'm bringing you a 'gift'
By: sandisadie Date: January 21, 2022, 11:03 am
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I agree that this guy is being a good neighbor ahead of time.
The complainer probably won't be a good neighbor to him, no
matter what. Sounds like a whiner to me! The house on one side
of me is being rehabbed by an investor. He introduced himself
to us right after he purchased the property and we talked about
what he planned to do. We appreciate that because at times what
is going on over there does have a small affect on our street.
Wish he had given us a treat!
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Re: Don't complain--I'm bringing you a 'gift'
By: TootsNYC Date: January 21, 2022, 1:00 pm
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they're pissed because it's strawberries?!
and some people are allergic to strawberries?
I have to tell you: I would never think that very many people
were allergic to strawberries. FYI, it's not in the Big Five
that the USDA requires people be alerted to separately.
There are LOTS of people who can't eat gluten (including me),
and I would NEVER get upset at someone that they gave baked
goods as a treat.
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