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Re: Christmas Gifting Issues
By: vintagegal Date: December 10, 2021, 8:44 am
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When I was little (early 1960's) the standard enclosure from
grandparents and my godmother was $1 in the card. But I had one
lovely aunt who would send a check for $3.!!
When I started sending checks to grandkids, it was $25. Then I
looked up an inflation table and found that was comparable to me
getting $3 when I was a kid. So now they get more.
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Re: Christmas Gifting Issues
By: TootsNYC Date: December 10, 2021, 9:31 am
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I seldom got gifts from my aunts and uncles; what we did was
that all the KIDS drew names and gave gifts to one another based
on that.
Of course, we were not celebrating in the same place; we were
pretty scattered. But I think that even if we'd had Christmas
together, we'd have done this.
I've just realized: in my family, we have one uncle/aunt combo
without kids. And at some point, the gifts faded out, probably
because we ourselves are scattered.
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Re: Christmas Gifting Issues
By: Amara Date: December 10, 2021, 10:52 am
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My late parents told us that they and their siblings had, when
the first child of my generation was born, gotten together and
decided that. regardless o f how many to come, there would be no
gifts between aunts/uncles, nieces/nephews or among cousins. So
whether it was Christmas or birthdays or graduations or any
other gift-giving occasions. we. "children" never had that
experience.. We exchanged gifts among ourselves on Christmas
morning and would later go to Grandma's house for a lovely meal,
to see our aunts/uncles/cousins and more gifts but only from
Grandma. So I have never quite understood the questions that
arise every year about gifts for extended families or why it's
hard to stop doing it (or this particular awful situation).
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Re: Christmas Gifting Issues
By: Soop Date: December 10, 2021, 11:14 am
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[quote author=Amara link=topic=2228.msg72353#msg72353
date=1639155163]
My late parents told us that they and their siblings had, when
the first child of my generation was born, gotten together and
decided that. regardless o f how many to come, there would be no
gifts between aunts/uncles, nieces/nephews or among cousins. So
whether it was Christmas or birthdays or graduations or any
other gift-giving occasions. we. "children" never had that
experience.. We exchanged gifts among ourselves on Christmas
morning and would later go to Grandma's house for a lovely meal,
to see our aunts/uncles/cousins and more gifts but only from
Grandma. So I have never quite understood the questions that
arise every year about gifts for extended families or why it's
hard to stop doing it (or this particular awful situation).
[/quote]
This is exactly the way it was in my family. I never received
any gifts from aunts or uncles at Christmas. It made it so much
easier for all these growing families to not have to spend so
much money. I only have 3 nieces and nephews on my side and no
kids, so we have always bought them gifts (Mr S has 8 on his
side and we rarely see them at Christmas, so we treat that very
differently). Now 2 of them are of the age where cash is king
(and we don't know their interests); however, if we had kids and
they were also being given cash gifts, I probably shut the whole
thing down. A little silly to be cycling the cash around and
around.
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Re: Christmas Gifting Issues
By: Soop Date: December 14, 2021, 7:24 am
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There are updates to the original Reddit post! Is it okay for me
to put in a link?
Wow, that escalated.
HTML https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/r29jh3/we_husband_32m_me_26f_have_been_told_by_his/
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Re: Christmas Gifting Issues
By: BeagleMommy Date: December 14, 2021, 8:01 am
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Holy Mother of Nutella that escalated in a major way! I applaud
the LW's DH for pressing charges. Time for the cut direct.
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Re: Christmas Gifting Issues
By: MinMom3 Date: December 14, 2021, 10:34 pm
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Completely agree. People like Timmy need a paper trail
following them, and losing his marbles to that degree, at that
time of night, shows he feels no compunction or restraint about
unleasihng his inner jackass. Then for the parents to double
down means things really have gone irretrievably far. Poor OP
and Tod.
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Re: Christmas Gifting Issues
By: Venus193 Date: December 15, 2021, 4:49 pm
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Wow. That was beyond crazy.
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Re: Christmas Gifting Issues
By: holly firestorm Date: December 15, 2021, 9:11 pm
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Just because you're related to someone doesn't mean they're
family.
I'm glad the heroes of the saga also filed a restraining order.
I'd definitely block everyone who was involved with this attempt
at extortion.
Volunteering to help refugees and animals is unAmerican???!!!And
this thug and his family call themselves 'christians'???!!!!
What a bunch of dirtbags!
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Re: Christmas Gifting Issues
By: Aleko Date: December 16, 2021, 3:36 am
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[quote]Completely agree. People like Timmy need a paper trail
following them, and losing his marbles to that degree, at that
time of night, shows he feels no compunction or restraint about
unleasihng his inner jackass. Then for the parents to double
down means things really have gone irretrievably far. Poor OP
and Tod.[/quote]
Poor OP and Tod for having those relatives, absolutely. But they
sound so truly terrible that this final bust-up must have come
as a positive relief, like the bursting of an abscess. They're
done, they're moving a long way away, they don't have to try and
get on with these toxic people any more. I forget who it was who
said 'Friends are God's apology for our families', but I hope
God sends them some good ones.
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