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Re: What the heck is wrong with people?
By: nuku Date: September 15, 2021, 12:01 pm
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Yes, I don't understand why she was welcomed in & sat down with
a glass of wine. This clearly wasn't a social group she was part
of. I probably wouldn't have answered the door.
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Re: What the heck is wrong with people?
By: holly firestorm Date: September 15, 2021, 2:56 pm
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How do I delete this comment? (I made a mistake and now can't
delete it.)
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Re: What the heck is wrong with people?
By: holly firestorm Date: September 15, 2021, 3:01 pm
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[quote author=lowspark link=topic=2160.msg70077#msg70077
date=1631711416]
The minute she took the candy that was sitting on the top of the
cake was the minute the hostess should have intervened.
What I would have done was immediately sliced off the piece that
was affected and serve it to the neighbor in her own plate. I
don't care if she is gluten free or what, she now "owns" that
piece of cake.
She can choose to eat it, lick off the icing, or throw it out -
I don't care. And if she wants more, she knows what to do now:
slice off another piece.
Oh... and yeah, if she's not embarrassed by her own actions,
then I wouldn't worry about whether she was embarrassed by mine.
I'd also think twice about welcoming her into my home again.
[/quote]
That is exactly the solution I thought of! And, yeah, I would
have moved the cake out of her reach immediately!
I wonder if she would have tried to put the blame on the hostess
for embarrassing her.
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Re: What the heck is wrong with people?
By: lisastitch Date: October 6, 2021, 11:05 am
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There is a difference between being "unable to eat gluten" so
that a slice of cake or a piece of bread or a cookie will cause
problems, while not being so sensitive that cross-contamination
is a problem.
I make cookies for my sister that are gluten-free, but they are
made in a kitchen where I use regular flour, and she can handle
that. If I were making cookies for a friend with celiac, I would
ask what I needed to do to make sure there was no
cross-contamination.
In either case, that cake should have been moved as soon as she
took one spoonful of the frosting!
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Re: What the heck is wrong with people?
By: LurkingGurl Date: October 6, 2021, 1:48 pm
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I agree, the hostess is who is the problem here. She invited
her neighbor in who dropped by--whether dropping in was ok or
not would be up to the relationship between them. But, she's the
one who let the now guest pick at the leftovers of the cake.
Had it been me I wouldn't have cared because we live in a world
where cake and sweets are so plentiful as to be a problem. Had
it been some bespoke dessert that my other guest had slaved
over, I might feel differently. But, it's likely a nice store
bought dessert, everyone has had a serving and now someone is
playing chocolate buzzard!
My sister (who as you may know tasks me to no end) was a
frequent hostess and I know how she would have handled it! She
would have said "Gladys, can I get you a shovel?!!" She would
have made light fun of the situation. Had it been me sitting
there watching my neighbor violate the remains of a cake, there
would be a little voice inside my head saying "Yesssss, yesssss,
eat it so that I don't feel tempted to do so! Give me a reason
to throw that thing out! Don't make me have to use my
willpower! Cake, be gone!" LOL!
That's not to say that it's not rude to go sticking your fingers
where they don't belong! But, geez, roll with it!
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Re: What the heck is wrong with people?
By: chigger Date: October 6, 2021, 4:12 pm
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I personally think it was really gross and disrespectful. Who in
the world eats the icing off (what seems to be) almost half a
cake, starting with their fingers. Just gross and nasty.
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Re: What the heck is wrong with people?
By: TootsNYC Date: October 7, 2021, 9:54 am
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[quote author=chigger link=topic=2160.msg70670#msg70670
date=1633554750]
I personally think it was really gross and disrespectful. Who in
the world eats the icing off (what seems to be) almost half a
cake, starting with their fingers. Just gross and nasty.
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Someone who has figured out that her neighbor is unable to stand
up for herself.
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Re: What the heck is wrong with people?
By: Venus193 Date: November 25, 2021, 3:59 pm
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Some people don't have the cojones to call people out on this
sort of behavior. This is worse than Double Dip Annie in the
sense that it is even more gross.
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Re: What the heck is wrong with people?
By: vintagegal Date: November 29, 2021, 6:24 am
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Another ??? moment -
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Stepdaughter loads up all the leftovers after a dinner to take
home, while LW sits there and doesn't say a thing. Then
complains to MM after.
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Re: What the heck is wrong with people?
By: TootsNYC Date: November 29, 2021, 9:40 am
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It sounds like she assumes that if she'd said something, her
husband/partner would have been unhappy with her.
It seems she really didn't expect this, which makes me wonder if
this is a new relationship. Or, new enough that this is the
first time she's had the daughter in her home for a big meal.
People so often send leftovers home with guests, especially at
Thanksgiving, and especially family. And kids do often think
that their parents are just going to give them stuff.
but I think hosts should be out in front and say, "Let me clear
the table, and I'll pack some leftovers for you. I'd like to be
sure we get ours into the fridge first, and then we can figure
out what you'll be taking home."
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