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What the heck is wrong with people?
By: vintagegal Date: September 15, 2021, 6:45 am
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and I mean the HOSTESS in this case.
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She sits there and watches someone eat ALL the frosting off half
a cake, with a fork, in front of other guests. I blame Miss
Manners in part, she has so afraid that we might be "rude" that
we have lost all common sense and are afraid to say "Stop that!"
to someone who is indescribably rude and gross.
I see that all the time in advice columns, "So and so says/does
horrible mean things to me, how can I gently suggest to them
that they should stop?" Let's bring back bluntness where it is
needed.
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Re: What the heck is wrong with people?
By: BeagleMommy Date: September 15, 2021, 8:00 am
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Yuck! My reaction would have been to pick up the cake before
she was able to take another spoonful of frosting and take it
into the kitchen. That would make the point without causing a
scene.
The LW mentioned the frosting eater didn't eat gluten. If the
frosting is on a cake containing gluten there can be gluten in
the frosting since they are touching.
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Re: What the heck is wrong with people?
By: lowspark Date: September 15, 2021, 8:10 am
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The minute she took the candy that was sitting on the top of the
cake was the minute the hostess should have intervened.
What I would have done was immediately sliced off the piece that
was affected and serve it to the neighbor in her own plate. I
don't care if she is gluten free or what, she now "owns" that
piece of cake.
She can choose to eat it, lick off the icing, or throw it out -
I don't care. And if she wants more, she knows what to do now:
slice off another piece.
Oh... and yeah, if she's not embarrassed by her own actions,
then I wouldn't worry about whether she was embarrassed by mine.
I'd also think twice about welcoming her into my home again.
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Re: What the heck is wrong with people?
By: TurtleIScream Date: September 15, 2021, 8:26 am
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[quote author=lowspark link=topic=2160.msg70077#msg70077
date=1631711416]
The minute she took the candy that was sitting on the top of the
cake was the minute the hostess should have intervened.
[/quote]
The minute she showed up at the door during a dinner party she
wasn’t invited to was the minute the hostess should have
intervened. Why was she even let in?
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Re: What the heck is wrong with people?
By: XRogue Date: September 15, 2021, 8:40 am
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Absolutely that frosting was contaminated with gluten, sounds
like the neighboor was not actually celiac, just not eating
gluten unless she feels like it.
Forget not offending this person, the cake should have been
removed immediately when the candy was touched, never mind
giving her a chance to go get a spoon and ruin the cake for
everyone else. If she doesn't care about getting her germs all
over the cake, I would not be prone to care about hurting her
widdle fee-fees. Never mind that Neighboor was not invited in
the first place and should therefore not have been let in the
front door. Whatever happened to just saying, "Sorry Gladys, I
am in the middle of entertaining invited guests!" and shutting
the door?
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Re: What the heck is wrong with people?
By: Rose Red Date: September 15, 2021, 9:20 am
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I'm not even going to click on the link. I have a feeling it
won't be good for my already high blood pressure.
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Re: What the heck is wrong with people?
By: oogyda Date: September 15, 2021, 10:06 am
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Sure, Miss Manners....let's reward atrocious behavior by giving
the offender exactly what they want on a silver(?) platter!!!
There's sarcasm there, in case you missed it.
What I, as a coworker, would take from observing that is that
the hostess is terribly ineffective at managing anything and
will allow herself to be walked ALLLL over. I would have lost
faith in her ability to manage things at work.
Edited to add:
"widdle fee-fees" can I borrow that?
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Re: What the heck is wrong with people?
By: Aleko Date: September 15, 2021, 10:08 am
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[quote]The minute she showed up at the door during a dinner
party she wasn’t invited to was the minute the hostess should
have intervened. Why was she even let in?[/quote]
My view exactly. I'd stand on the doorstep and ask what was up.
If she just wanted to borrow a cup of sugar or ask for her
little boy's ball back from my garden, I'd leave her on the
doorstep while I dealt with that quickly. If she wanted to
visit, I'd say 'Sorry, Valerie, I'm afraid I've got some people
to dinner. Perhaps another time.'
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Re: What the heck is wrong with people?
By: sandisadie Date: September 15, 2021, 11:05 am
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It sounds like the letter writer wasn't surprised by her
neighbor's actions. Both of them sound a little like a couple
of dingbats.
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Re: What the heck is wrong with people?
By: XRogue Date: September 15, 2021, 11:58 am
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[quote author=oogyda link=topic=2160.msg70085#msg70085
date=1631718369]
Sure, Miss Manners....let's reward atrocious behavior by giving
the offender exactly what they want on a silver(?) platter!!!
There's sarcasm there, in case you missed it.
What I, as a coworker, would take from observing that is that
the hostess is terribly ineffective at managing anything and
will allow herself to be walked ALLLL over. I would have lost
faith in her ability to manage things at work.
Edited to add:
"widdle fee-fees" can I borrow that?
[/quote]
By all means do! I swiped it off Reddit so fair is fair!
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