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Re: Wedding Ceremony Seating
DIR By: Gellchom
Date: September 22, 2021, 12:36 am
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> [quote author=Gellchom link=topic=2159.msg70278#msg70278
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> [quote author=Hmmm link=topic=2159.msg70220#msg70220
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> I've only attended one wedding that didn't have ushers. I
still prefer them. Growing up, the ushers usually weren't
groomsmen too but some male friend or relative who wasn't close
enough to be groomsmen. At my own wedding, my sister's two
husband's were the ushers.
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> But I also miss the guest book attendant. Only a few weddings
in the last 10 years I've been to has had someone to greet the
guests, remind them to sign the book and then direct them off to
the ushers.
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I don’t think I’ve ever seen a guest book at a wedding.
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I think I've only seen them at receptions. I don't remember if I
ever saw one at at the weddings sites.
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I mean at all. In my community the ceremony and reception is at
least as often all in the same place anyway with the reception
following immediately, no break, even if the reception is
elsewhere. No guestbooks at any point.
No reason not to, it just hasn’t become a thing for us. Or
maybe it once was and fell out of fashion more than 40 years
ago.
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Re: Wedding Ceremony Seating
DIR By: Soop
Date: September 22, 2021, 7:20 am
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I haven't seen actual guest books as often at
weddings/receptions, but there at all the weddings I've
attended, there has always been some other form of people
signing in so the couple can remember who came. Signing river
rocks, record albums, pictures, etc, etc (just look on
pinterest).
Mr S only had his best man, no additional groomsman. He and the
best man seated people. Not like they had anything else to do
while waiting for the ceremony to start.
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Re: Wedding Ceremony Seating
DIR By: DaDancingPsych
Date: September 22, 2021, 10:57 am
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The most recent wedding that I attended (that prompted my
question) did have a guest book. It was sitting prominently on a
round table in the middle of an entrance room of the venue. I
didn't need an attendant to point it out to me, but after
signing it, I wish I had someone to point me in the right
direction! Had I went to the left side of the table, I would
have entered the reception area. Luckily, I selected right which
took me into the area where the ceremony was set-up. I happened
to be greeted by the groom (who was the main reason I was
there), but it all had an element of awkwardness. "What do I do?
Where do I go?" I think that these "minor" jobs are actually
quite helpful in keeping the flow and tone of the wedding. No
one likes feeling lost!
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Re: Wedding Ceremony Seating
DIR By: LifeOnPluto
Date: September 25, 2021, 2:45 am
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I have never been to a wedding with ushers! Is this an American
thing?
However, nearly every wedding I've attended has had some kind of
guest book / message jar at the reception where people can write
nice messages to the Happy Couple.
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Re: Wedding Ceremony Seating
DIR By: DaDancingPsych
Date: September 27, 2021, 7:54 am
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> I have never been to a wedding with ushers! Is this an
American thing?
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Yes? I've only attended American weddings and when there are
ushers, they are typically the groomsmen. Although, I would be
interested to know if it happens (or not) in other places.
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Re: Wedding Ceremony Seating
DIR By: jpcher
Date: October 1, 2021, 1:18 pm
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I had a conversation with my DD#1, her Fsam and his Mother last
night about their upcoming wedding.
Both DD#1 and Fsam said that they thought formal seating with
bride side/groom side was a bit ridiculous for them because 90+%
of invitees know them both. Why should their guests have to
choose between them? Made sense to me. They are not having
ushers.
One thing that surprised me, though, was where they were seating
us Moms. DD#1 said if you (me) were seated on the (finger quote)
bride's side then when Fsam and I turned to look at each other
during our vows you would see the back of my head and Fsam's
face.
FsamMom and I looked at each other for a moment before we
realized what a wonderful thing this would be! Then we broke
into great big grins.
So FsamMom is sitting on the traditional bride's side and I will
be sitting on the traditional grooms side so that we can look at
our respective child's face while they are saying their vows.
I LOVE this! It's something that I never would have thought of!
Not that I would have minded looking at Fsam's face while he
said his vows because that's one reason I knew he was The One
for her . . . the way he looks at her with such adoration and
love, but being able to watch my daughter's face while she says
her vows? Will be priceless.
DD#2 chimed in with "Tradition? Smudition. You do what makes you
happy." ;D
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