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Wedding Ceremony Seating
By: DaDancingPsych Date: September 13, 2021, 3:38 pm
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While I've got weddings on the mind...
I've noticed a trend lately at weddings where the groomsmen no
longer seat individuals at the ceremony. At this most recent
wedding, I entered at 20 minutes til and I was greeted by
groomsmen hanging around doing nothing. No instructions on
seating was given, so I picked the side of the aisle that I
thought looked the emptiest (technically I was friends with the
groom, but I would have happily sat on the bride's side, too.) I
watched other people seat themselves and both sides left the
front half of the seats open. The wedding occurred with 90% of
the guests in the back half of the room. Maybe it's a detail
that doesn't matter, but I think it looks better when the guests
are seating closer to the front or spread evenly (that goes
double in a pandemic.) I couldn't help but miss the groomsmen
seating the guests.
Do you have thoughts on this?
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Re: Wedding Ceremony Seating
By: lowspark Date: September 13, 2021, 3:44 pm
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Yeah, I haven't seen ushers at a wedding in years. I don't think
that bride's side/groom's side is done much anymore. I think you
just sit wherever.
Me? I like to sit as close to the front as possible. Unless
otherwise roped off or designated, I assume the first two rows
are reserved, so if empty, I'd snag the third row, or the
closest that was available.
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Re: Wedding Ceremony Seating
By: mime Date: September 13, 2021, 6:34 pm
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Groomsmen served as ushers for my wedding o er 25 years ago, but
it was becoming less-common even back then. No big deal to me as
a guest. I'm fine seating myself.
I do see the empty row problem though. I suspect there are
guests who try to leave room for more important guests up front,
not really knowing how they rank among the others, and not
really knowing whether that even matters to anyone anymore.
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Re: Wedding Ceremony Seating
By: AnnNottingham Date: September 14, 2021, 2:12 am
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There used to be "groom's side" and "bride's side", but I think
that became less common in part because no one wanted one side
to be full, the other almost empty.
I was just thinking, when my father walked me down the aisle, he
sat in the row to my left. I can't remember where DH's parents
sat, presumably behind him and to the right?
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Re: Wedding Ceremony Seating
By: Rho Date: September 14, 2021, 9:27 pm
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Want a good laugh? The first time I was escorted to a seat and
the usher asked if I knew the Bride or Groom (his words) I
thought he was making conversation so I told him all about the
Bride & I being college friends.
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Re: Wedding Ceremony Seating
By: DaDancingPsych Date: September 15, 2021, 8:43 pm
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[quote author=Rho link=topic=2159.msg70066#msg70066
date=1631672823]
Want a good laugh? The first time I was escorted to a seat and
the usher asked if I knew the Bride or Groom (his words) I
thought he was making conversation so I told him all about the
Bride & I being college friends.
[/quote]
At least he knew that he got it right!
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Re: Wedding Ceremony Seating
By: Hmmm Date: September 20, 2021, 10:57 am
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I've only attended one wedding that didn't have ushers. I still
prefer them. Growing up, the ushers usually weren't groomsmen
too but some male friend or relative who wasn't close enough to
be groomsmen. At my own wedding, my sister's two husband's were
the ushers.
But I also miss the guest book attendant. Only a few weddings in
the last 10 years I've been to has had someone to greet the
guests, remind them to sign the book and then direct them off to
the ushers.
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Re: Wedding Ceremony Seating
By: lowspark Date: September 20, 2021, 11:30 am
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[quote author=Hmmm link=topic=2159.msg70220#msg70220
date=1632153451]
I've only attended one wedding that didn't have ushers. I still
prefer them. Growing up, the ushers usually weren't groomsmen
too but some male friend or relative who wasn't close enough to
be groomsmen. At my own wedding, my sister's two husband's were
the ushers.
But I also miss the guest book attendant. Only a few weddings in
the last 10 years I've been to has had someone to greet the
guests, remind them to sign the book and then direct them off to
the ushers.
[/quote]
I think a lot of those kinds of formalities have fallen by the
wayside as time goes on.
Years ago, I was invited to a friend's wedding and assigned a
task at the reception. I can't remember now what it was, serving
punch or cake maybe, but something that the guests could have
absolutely done for themselves. I think that it was a way of
saying that I was a special enough friend to have a part in
things, but maybe not close enough to be a higher rank, so to
speak.
But really, I would have been much happier just being a regular
ol' guest.
And I think that guest book attendant, ushers, etc., kind of
fall into that category of positions of honor but not really
necessary. And often they incur additional expense, as in when
the ushers are required to rent a tux.
I dunno. I think that unless the bride & groom really feel
connected to some of those old traditions, a lot of that just
isn't needed.
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Re: Wedding Ceremony Seating
By: Gellchom Date: September 21, 2021, 3:44 pm
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[quote author=Hmmm link=topic=2159.msg70220#msg70220
date=1632153451]
I've only attended one wedding that didn't have ushers. I still
prefer them. Growing up, the ushers usually weren't groomsmen
too but some male friend or relative who wasn't close enough to
be groomsmen. At my own wedding, my sister's two husband's were
the ushers.
But I also miss the guest book attendant. Only a few weddings in
the last 10 years I've been to has had someone to greet the
guests, remind them to sign the book and then direct them off to
the ushers.
[/quote]
I don’t think I’ve ever seen a guest book at a wedding.
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Re: Wedding Ceremony Seating
By: Rose Red Date: September 21, 2021, 4:46 pm
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[quote author=Gellchom link=topic=2159.msg70278#msg70278
date=1632257095]
[quote author=Hmmm link=topic=2159.msg70220#msg70220
date=1632153451]
I've only attended one wedding that didn't have ushers. I still
prefer them. Growing up, the ushers usually weren't groomsmen
too but some male friend or relative who wasn't close enough to
be groomsmen. At my own wedding, my sister's two husband's were
the ushers.
But I also miss the guest book attendant. Only a few weddings in
the last 10 years I've been to has had someone to greet the
guests, remind them to sign the book and then direct them off to
the ushers.
[/quote]
I don’t think I’ve ever seen a guest book at a wedding.
[/quote]
I think I've only seen them at receptions. I don't remember if I
ever saw one at at the weddings sites.
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