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Re: First class or coach?
By: gramma dishes Date: August 22, 2021, 8:22 pm
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Depends on the makeup of the group. Some groups wouldn't even
notice. Others might think she's making very clear that she
sees herself as being superior (at least financially) to the
others.
#Post#: 69496--------------------------------------------------
Re: First class or coach?
By: NFPwife Date: August 22, 2021, 9:10 pm
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[quote author=gramma dishes link=topic=2146.msg69495#msg69495
date=1629681760]
Depends on the makeup of the group. Some groups wouldn't even
notice. Others might think she's making very clear that she
sees herself as being superior (at least financially) to the
others.
[/quote]
They'll notice when they're walking past her to coach. :)
I'm at a point in my life where, if I don't get a system
upgrade, I use miles for any flight over six hours. If I don't
have miles to use, I'll pay for the upgrade if it's reasonable.
If the fellow travelers might think she thinks she's superior to
them she could blame her DH - "DH bought my ticket, look how
sweet he is, he bought a first class ticket."
Personally, I wouldn't say anything until the flight was
boarding and say, "That's my group. I'm in first for this leg of
the trip," and board.
If I were traveling with close friends, I'd message them when
purchasing the upgrade and say, "I'm using miles to upgrade to
first, the price difference to first looks like $X or Xmiles in
case you're interested."
#Post#: 69508--------------------------------------------------
Re: First class or coach?
By: Jem Date: August 23, 2021, 9:21 am
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I am actually more "concerned" with the descriptions of
"secondary" friends than I am with Missy flying first class.
That's weird to me and cliquish.
I don't think that Missy should have to fly coach if she doesn't
want to. She isn't expecting anyone else to subsidize the costs
of her upgrade. Different people have different financial
situations and/or prioritize different things. Does this group
judge people negatively for wearing expensive jewelry when some
don't? Or expensive clothing or handbags or shoes? Is there a
comparison of the size/style/cost of the homes they live in? The
costs of the colleges they send their kids to?
None of the group knows about the first class upgrade and I
don't think it's any of their business. I don't think Missy
should have to hide it, but to me it would be like making sure
everyone was okay with me ordering a more expensive entree at
dinner. Who cares if I am paying for it?
#Post#: 69509--------------------------------------------------
Re: First class or coach?
By: STiG Date: August 23, 2021, 11:47 am
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If everyone got together and booked at the same time, paying to
choose seat numbers so that they were all sitting together?
Then it would be a bit off for Misty to book in first class.
But if they all booked separately and the seating will be
random, then Misty is fine. I'd be a bit jealous because I
absolutely would book first class if I could afford it but I
wouldn't think much of it.
#Post#: 69510--------------------------------------------------
Re: First class or coach?
By: Rose Red Date: August 23, 2021, 11:55 am
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[quote author=Jem link=topic=2146.msg69508#msg69508
date=1629728474]
I am actually more "concerned" with the descriptions of
"secondary" friends than I am with Missy flying first class.
That's weird to me and cliquish.
[/quote]
Correct me if I'm wrong, but I think secondary friends just mean
"friend of a friend." I don't think there's any insult meant.
For example, I went on vacation with my best friend "Jane" and
she invited her cousin (we've never met before). We all had a
blast. We've seen each other since because of Jane and enjoy
each other's company. But that's the extent of our friendship.
Jane is our connection and we're secondary friends to each
other.
#Post#: 69511--------------------------------------------------
Re: First class or coach?
By: Hmmm Date: August 23, 2021, 1:44 pm
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It wouldn't bother me at all. For all anyone will know, she used
mileage to upgrade her seat. I'd probably have a different
opinion if it was just 2 traveling companions. But even then, I
probably wouldn't begrudge a friend upgrading if they could.
I've done enough international travel alone to not be bothered
by sitting by myself.
#Post#: 69513--------------------------------------------------
Re: First class or coach?
By: bopper Date: August 23, 2021, 2:25 pm
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My spouse always got upgraded to First class because of their
frequent flyer status... I didn't mind because he was large and
he and I would be more comfortable if he was in a bigger seat.
But he would send back the ice cream sundaes when they had them.
I would use a white lie like "I got upgraded because of my
status" or "I was using miles but this was all that was left"
and bring them a treat from first class.
#Post#: 69515--------------------------------------------------
Re: First class or coach?
By: oogyda Date: August 23, 2021, 2:30 pm
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[quote author=gramma dishes link=topic=2146.msg69495#msg69495
date=1629681760]
Depends on the makeup of the group. Some groups wouldn't even
notice. Others might think she's making very clear that she
sees herself as being superior (at least financially) to the
others.
[/quote]
I don't know the group. I've only met one of the other women as
she was the hairdresser for Missy and DHFriend's DD's wedding.
The bolded is an air that I observe from her frequently.
Nothing blatant or obnoxious, but it comes through loud and
clear sometimes.
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Re: First class or coach?
By: Isisnin Date: August 23, 2021, 3:53 pm
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[quote author=Jem link=topic=2146.msg69508#msg69508
date=1629728474]
I am actually more "concerned" with the descriptions of
"secondary" friends than I am with Missy flying first class.
That's weird to me and cliquish.
I don't think that Missy should have to fly coach if she doesn't
want to. She isn't expecting anyone else to subsidize the costs
of her upgrade. Different people have different financial
situations and/or prioritize different things. Does this group
judge people negatively for wearing expensive jewelry when some
don't? Or expensive clothing or handbags or shoes? Is there a
comparison of the size/style/cost of the homes they live in? The
costs of the colleges they send their kids to?
None of the group knows about the first class upgrade and I
don't think it's any of their business. I don't think Missy
should have to hide it, but to me it would be like making sure
everyone was okay with me ordering a more expensive entree at
dinner. Who cares if I am paying for it?
[/quote]
[quote author=oogyda link=topic=2146.msg69515#msg69515
date=1629747006]
[quote author=gramma dishes link=topic=2146.msg69495#msg69495
date=1629681760]
Depends on the makeup of the group. Some groups wouldn't even
notice. Others might think she's making very clear that she
sees herself as being superior (at least financially) to the
others.
[/quote]
I don't know the group. I've only met one of the other women as
she was the hairdresser for Missy and DHFriend's DD's wedding.
The bolded is an air that I observe from her frequently.
Nothing blatant or obnoxious, but it comes through loud and
clear sometimes.
[/quote]
Being seated in a different area from the others during the
flight is fine. That's happened a couple times with different
traveling companions. I need a window to rest my head against,
others have needed leg room, others aisle (for bathroom access,
usually). Last time we were so far apart we might have well been
in different classes.
It is Missy's choice, but I couldn't help but wonder if her
preference for the finer/more expensive things might also occur
during the rest of the trip. Travelling with others requires
going along to get along. Having to split the check each time by
who ordered what is such a pain as opposed to splitting evenly.
As is "Ill take a cab and meet you there." vs travelling
together and someone(s) late or goes to the wrong place. etc.
Here's hopin' they have a wonderful trip!
#Post#: 69523--------------------------------------------------
Re: First class or coach?
By: Jem Date: August 23, 2021, 5:50 pm
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[quote author=Isisnin link=topic=2146.msg69519#msg69519
date=1629752016]
It is Missy's choice, but I couldn't help but wonder if her
preference for the finer/more expensive things might also occur
during the rest of the trip. Travelling with others requires
going along to get along. Having to split the check each time by
who ordered what is such a pain as opposed to splitting evenly.
As is "Ill take a cab and meet you there." vs travelling
together and someone(s) late or goes to the wrong place. etc.
[/quote]
I agree that good travel companions must be compatible but I
don't think that means that everyone has to agree on everything
all of the time. There is nothing wrong with enjoying "the finer
things," and I don't think anyone should have to apologize for
that. I don't like to split checks in general because someone is
going to be shortchanged. I don't like to be resentful if I am
shortchanged, and I don't like to feel like I owe someone if
someone else is shortchanged. I prefer to either treat everyone
or pay for only myself/my immediate family.
[quote author=bopper link=topic=2146.msg69513#msg69513
date=1629746709]
I would use a white lie like "I got upgraded because of my
status" or "I was using miles but this was all that was left"
and bring them a treat from first class.
[/quote]
I don't think anyone owes any explanation, and I think it would
be rude to ask how someone "affords" to upgrade to first class.
Maybe it was a free upgrade, maybe it was something the person
really valued and paid full price for. I don't think it is
anything to be ashamed of or to lie about, white lie or
otherwise!
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