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       #Post#: 69282--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Disciplining Other People's Dogs
   DIR By: holly firestorm
       Date: August 14, 2021, 7:18 pm
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       Well, try to keep in mind that they had no right expecting you
       to put up with it in the first place. And, you were just trying
       to be polite. People take advantage of that too often. I could
       start citing first and second hand examples, but, it would end
       up being a book.
       It's also possible that they sincerely thought this was OK since
       you never insisted on the dogs stopping the behavior before.
       Too many people mistake "nice" for "weak" and when the nice
       person finally opens her mouth in anger the attitude is often,
       "What made you such a b**ch today?" So, maybe when you go there
       just refuse their offer of a seat and explain, "Whenever I sit
       down I get your pets jumping all over me. I have nothing against
       your pets, but, that's been really unpleasant for me. Would you
       please stop them from now on?" If a polite request like that is
       met with indifference, hostility or scorn, then you know what
       kind of people you are really dealing with and can disregard
       their wishes accordingly...or meet them someplace pets are not
       allowed from then on.
       #Post#: 69284--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Disciplining Other People's Dogs
   DIR By: EtiquetteE
       Date: August 14, 2021, 11:18 pm
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       I think this is a my house, my rules situation.  If you know you
       have friends/family houses with badly behaved dogs; don't go.
       You can't control what they do/how they train their pets, but
       you can control what you are willing to do/not do.  I'm allergic
       to cats and dogs and so I just avoid houses with pets because
       that's what is best for me.
       There was one case where I was at a brewery where they allowed
       dogs. I was sitting at a bar and a women let her big husky dog
       jump up on the person sitting next to me.  This was pre-COVID
       when seating was close.  I looked at her and said "I'm allergic
       to dogs, please control your dog".  She apologized and left. I
       haven't been back to that place since.
       #Post#: 69285--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Disciplining Other People's Dogs
   DIR By: Aleko
       Date: August 15, 2021, 4:25 am
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       --- Quote ---
       > While I wasn't exactly faking enthusiasm for the dogs
       behaviour I was gritting my teeth and enduring.  I'm tired of
       it.  I've definitely gotten less tolerant and push them off and
       tell them sharply "No! and "Get down"
       --- End Quote ---
       It isn’t advisable to be sharp with dogs in that kind of
       situation. It doesn’t help to calm them, and it tends to
       alienate their owners.
       I find that very often dogs which jump up, bark, and are a
       general nuisance have owners who routinely excite them
       unintentionally by not only rebuking them in a frenetic manner
       (“Tibbles! No! Bad dog! Get down!”) but praising and
       loving them equally frenetically (“Whosagoodboyden! Yes!
       Uzzawuzzawuzza! Look who’s here, Auntie Xainte! Say
       hello!”) So naturally the dogs respond in kind. Sometimes
       when I’ve been left in charge of a dog while its frenetic
       owners take themselves off somewhere else, and have practised
       the calm-kind-but-standing-no-nonsense manner, it has calmed
       down a lot quite quickly. I used to look after a dog belonging
       to relatives whose multi-child house was always full of noise
       and small dramas, added to by the dog which barked and
       misbehaved. When dropped off at our (child-free) house she would
       give an almost-palpable sigh of relief, snooze for half a day,
       and thereafter was generally good as gold.
       #Post#: 69290--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Disciplining Other People's Dogs
   DIR By: honeybee42
       Date: August 15, 2021, 8:16 am
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       --- Quote from: Aleko link ---
       >
       > [quote]Don't give a dog people chocolate. (I'm sure there are
       safe alternatives specifically made for dogs.)
       --- End Quote ---
       Indeed there are.(‘Doggy chocolate’ is made of carob.) Which, to
       my mind, is just perverse. Dogs manifestly aren’t meant to eat
       chocolate, any more than horses are meant to eat beefburgers; so
       why create a fake chocolate for them to eat, which will only
       induce in them a desire to eat the real thing?
       An even simpler and better rule is: Don’t ever give someone’s
       animal anything to eat without the owner’s explicit permission.
       Even if the food you’re offering is suitable for the species,
       you don’t know if the animal is on a special vet-prescribed
       regimen, or needs to lose weight, or simply is being trained not
       to take food from anyone but its owner (a very sensible
       precaution, given the horrifically inappropriate ‘treats’ people
       like Holly’s sister’s friend will offer them).
       [/quote]
       In fact, my aunt had a dog once that she had trained to *only*
       eat something if a code word was said first (in this case, she
       had chosen "bananas"), and that dog really would not eat, even
       if someone was feeding the dog because she was away until that
       word was spoken.  She would tell the person who was caring for
       the dog to be sure to say "bananas" after setting the food down,
       as the dog would not eat, no matter how hungry, unless
       permission through the code word was given.  Not being a dog
       person myself, I haven't asked how she managed to do that.
       I did find this article
  HTML https://www.yourpurebredpuppy.com/training/articles/dog-respect-training.html<br
       />   More or less confirms my general thought that it's rather
       unkind to a dog to not give the dog proper discipline.
       Unfortunately, I don't think there's much help for relationships
       with people who don't care enough to give a dog what it truly
       needs.
       #Post#: 69301--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Disciplining Other People's Dogs
   DIR By: NewHomeowner
       Date: August 16, 2021, 5:36 am
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       --- Quote from: jpcher link ---
       >
       > (snip)
       > However, this is the kind of person who would not react nicely
       if I told her that her dogs could be trained to not jump.  So I
       simply never visit her at her house.  I won't tell her why, but
       I'll never go.
       >
       --- End Quote ---
       Why on earth would you not tell a friend the true reason for not
       going over to her home?
       [/quote]
       It's not like she asks a lot.  We mostly just meet for dinner
       and to exchange books.
       #Post#: 69304--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Disciplining Other People's Dogs
   DIR By: andicatt
       Date: August 16, 2021, 7:55 am
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       Thank you gramma dishes!  The first time the dog jumped on me I
       didn't have a chance to put my knee up.  All of a sudden his
       paws were on my chest.  I pushed him down with his forehead.
       The next time I did get my knee up and gently pushed and the
       second time too.  Both times he actually sat and looked at me
       like I was crazy, lol.  I praised him and he didn't jump again!
       Yeah!!!!!!
       #Post#: 69313--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Disciplining Other People's Dogs
   DIR By: Hmmm
       Date: August 16, 2021, 11:19 am
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       --- Quote from: holly firestorm link ---
       >
       > [quote author=Jem link=topic=2137.msg69191#msg69191
       date=1628792010]
       > [quote author=BeagleMommy link=topic=2137.msg69185#msg69185
       date=1628790004]
       > I think it would be best for you to visit these people on
       neutral territory where dogs are not permitted.
       >
       --- End Quote ---
       I agree. Another thing that makes me crazy is outdoor patios
       that allow dogs and owners who do not control their pets.
       Especially when eating I don't personally want animals near me.
       Also, when going out as a group and someone brings a dog so that
       the only available seating would be on a patio so the entire
       party has to wait when everyone else would prefer to sit
       indoors.
       [/quote]
       I don't know where you live. But, I can tell you that US laws do
       not allow non-service dogs in restaurants. When it comes to
       patios, I'm not 100% sure. But, if your pooch pampering pal is
       invited to go out to dinner with you and the majority of the
       party would prefer to dine inside, unless the pooch is an SD
       (and that does NOT include 'Emotional Support Animals'), the
       rest of you need to tell her you won't tolerate it anymore and
       she needs to leave pampered poochie at home.
       [/quote]
       Are you sure there is a National Law in the US? I thought this
       was regulated at the State level.
       #Post#: 69317--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Disciplining Other People's Dogs
   DIR By: gramma dishes
       Date: August 16, 2021, 1:09 pm
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       --- Quote from: andicatt link ---
       >
       > Thank you gramma dishes!  The first time the dog jumped on me
       I didn't have a chance to put my knee up.  All of a sudden his
       paws were on my chest.  I pushed him down with his forehead.
       The next time I did get my knee up and gently pushed and the
       second time too.  Both times he actually sat and looked at me
       like I was crazy, lol.  I praised him and he didn't jump again!
       Yeah!!!!!!
       >
       --- End Quote ---
       Happy to hear it worked for you!   ;D
       #Post#: 69318--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Disciplining Other People's Dogs
   DIR By: holly firestorm
       Date: August 16, 2021, 1:58 pm
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       --- Quote from: Hmmm link ---
       >
       > [quote author=holly firestorm
       link=topic=2137.msg69207#msg69207 date=1628821287]
       > [quote author=Jem link=topic=2137.msg69191#msg69191
       date=1628792010]
       > [quote author=BeagleMommy link=topic=2137.msg69185#msg69185
       date=1628790004]
       > I think it would be best for you to visit these people on
       neutral territory where dogs are not permitted.
       >
       --- End Quote ---
       I agree. Another thing that makes me crazy is outdoor patios
       that allow dogs and owners who do not control their pets.
       Especially when eating I don't personally want animals near me.
       Also, when going out as a group and someone brings a dog so that
       the only available seating would be on a patio so the entire
       party has to wait when everyone else would prefer to sit
       indoors.
       [/quote]
       I don't know where you live. But, I can tell you that US laws do
       not allow non-service dogs in restaurants. When it comes to
       patios, I'm not 100% sure. But, if your pooch pampering pal is
       invited to go out to dinner with you and the majority of the
       party would prefer to dine inside, unless the pooch is an SD
       (and that does NOT include 'Emotional Support Animals'), the
       rest of you need to tell her you won't tolerate it anymore and
       she needs to leave pampered poochie at home.
       [/quote]
       Are you sure there is a National Law in the US? I thought this
       was regulated at the State level.
       [/quote]
       Some are local laws. Some are National under the ADA Laws. I'm
       pretty sure non-SD's are not allowed in restaurants anywhere in
       the US (except some patios) although plenty of establishments
       and customers ignore the law.  >:(
       #Post#: 69320--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Disciplining Other People's Dogs
   DIR By: LurkingGurl
       Date: August 16, 2021, 2:13 pm
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       --- Quote from: holly firestorm link ---
       >
       > [quote author=Hmmm link=topic=2137.msg69313#msg69313
       date=1629130761]
       > [quote author=holly firestorm
       link=topic=2137.msg69207#msg69207 date=1628821287]
       > [quote author=Jem link=topic=2137.msg69191#msg69191
       date=1628792010]
       > [quote author=BeagleMommy link=topic=2137.msg69185#msg69185
       date=1628790004]
       > I think it would be best for you to visit these people on
       neutral territory where dogs are not permitted.
       >
       --- End Quote ---
       I agree. Another thing that makes me crazy is outdoor patios
       that allow dogs and owners who do not control their pets.
       Especially when eating I don't personally want animals near me.
       Also, when going out as a group and someone brings a dog so that
       the only available seating would be on a patio so the entire
       party has to wait when everyone else would prefer to sit
       indoors.
       [/quote]
       I don't know where you live. But, I can tell you that US laws do
       not allow non-service dogs in restaurants. When it comes to
       patios, I'm not 100% sure. But, if your pooch pampering pal is
       invited to go out to dinner with you and the majority of the
       party would prefer to dine inside, unless the pooch is an SD
       (and that does NOT include 'Emotional Support Animals'), the
       rest of you need to tell her you won't tolerate it anymore and
       she needs to leave pampered poochie at home.
       [/quote]
       Are you sure there is a National Law in the US? I thought this
       was regulated at the State level.
       [/quote]
       Some are local laws. Some are National under the ADA Laws. I'm
       pretty sure non-SD's are not allowed in restaurants anywhere in
       the US (except some patios) although plenty of establishments
       and customers ignore the law.  >:(
       [/quote]
       The only federal laws that would apply would be those that
       mandate that service dogs be allowed. Laws that regulate whether
       all other dogs would be allowed or not would be at the state
       level. 17 states have laws or regulations that permit pets only
       on outdoor patios. Some states allow dogs to come into places
       like breweries that do not serve food.
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