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Re: Farm visit help
By: vintagegal Date: July 28, 2021, 6:45 am
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In a sane and civil world, without cultural differences, farm
host should have said to OP next time he saw them at work, "I
guess I should have mentioned we usually charge $X.XX a pound
for that fruit - my bad." And left it at that. OP would
probably have offered the money.
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Re: Farm visit help
By: Jem Date: July 28, 2021, 8:02 am
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[quote author=Bada link=topic=2116.msg68711#msg68711
date=1627456225]
He asked for a GENEROUS payment because they picked ONE pound of
the forbidden Y fruit? And 6 pounds of the overflowing tree that
they were pushed to pick more from? I'm kind of surprised he
was willing to risk his relationship with OP over so little. I
think OP was right to pay up to smooth it over once it became an
issue... I'm just shocked it became an issue.
[/quote]
Did the OP say what the actual amount at issue was (I may have
missed it)? Because I agree it seems like it would have been a
trivial amount. I don't know what my personal tipping point
would be in terms of "I better demand payment," but it wouldn't
be $30, for example.
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Re: Farm visit help
By: DaDancingPsych Date: July 28, 2021, 2:28 pm
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[quote author=Rho link=topic=2116.msg68710#msg68710
date=1627438428]
I would not warn anyone away unless you are asked about your
lunch get-together with co-worker. No good deed goes unpunished
and somehow word will get back to farmer that you are gossiping
about him.
[/quote]
You have a good point... I think we all have experiences were
our good intentions cause us greater heartache. But I would
still warn people... but in an organic manner. There's a fine
line between sharing your personal experience and gossiping, but
it is there.
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Re: Farm visit help
By: Aleko Date: July 29, 2021, 1:35 am
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Suppose we shift this interaction to another kind of product.
Let’s say that a company employee is a hobby ceramicist rather
than a hobby farmer. Around the water cooler our potter says ‘I
made so many pots during lockdown, my studio is crammed. I don’t
know how I’m going to shift them all’. Colleague 1 suggests
selling them online. Colleague 2 asks ‘Do you let customers
visit your studio to choose them?’ and Potter says ‘Do you want
to do that? Yeah, come over! I’ll give you lunch and you can
meet my family! That’ll be great!’
So that happens, and Colleague 2 chooses a lot of pots because
hey, they’re free and Potter seems keen to have them taken off
his hands. Potter is happy to have his work appreciated and
maybe is even considering discounting the price by half to be
nice - right until, after lunch, Colleague 2 simply puts the
pots in their car, says ‘Thanks for lunch! Bye!’ and drives off
without offering to pay. When Potter processes the fact that his
colleague has simply taken his work for nothing, he sits down at
his PC and sends the story to the “But…But…It’s Not Like It’s
Work” thread. . . .
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Re: Farm visit help
By: Aleko Date: July 29, 2021, 8:53 am
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[quote]Did the OP say what the actual amount at issue was (I may
have missed it)? Because I agree it seems like it would have
been a trivial amount. I don't know what my personal tipping
point would be in terms of "I better demand payment," but it
wouldn't be $30, for example.[/quote]
It might not have been the loss of the money, but just the
feeling of being rooked. For all we know, he might even have
been intending, when OP offered to pay, to cry magnanimously,
'No no, put your money away, it's my gift to you and your
charming children!' But - and I'm sure we can all agree on this
- there's all the difference in the world between generously
refusing an offered payment and not being offered it.
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Re: Farm visit help
By: sandisadie Date: July 29, 2021, 10:19 am
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I think Aleko is making a good point. Thinking back over some
times when someone invited me to take something they had that
they didn't appear to want, I realize that I've mostly
established whether the items were truly being given away at no
cost, or they were for sale. I always have asked, up front,
which was the case. It's not rude to say "are you selling these
or giving them away?" It appears to me that both parties in
this "fruit" case are partly at fault.
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