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Re: “Formal” wedding - UPDATE at #17
By: Gellchom Date: November 16, 2021, 11:38 am
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I'm back from both weddings! They were both lovely.
Wedding 1: I had worn my black party dress to the groom's
sister's wedding, and my red one was voted down as too
va-va-voom b my daughter and husband, so wore a fun black dress
I borrowed from my daughter. That worked out fine, although I
was very cold during the outdoor ceremony, even with a fairly
warm wrap.
The second wedding was pretty much how we all pictured it.
Everyone had to drive for hours from the nearest cities and
airports, and the only accommodations at the venue were tents
and communal bathrooms, and not many of those, so the rest of us
had to stay at places at least 20 minutes away and drive back
and forth for the three events. The place is gorgeous; I can
see why they liked it. But it was not very comfortable or
convenient. The welcome party was at the lower level, but
everything was outdoors on uneven ground, and there weren't many
tables or anyone to clear away used dishes. And it was cold!
The female guests were all sharing a little laugh because we'd
all had the same problem figuring out what to wear for the
wedding itself -- cocktail attire suitable for hiking -- and
everyone had brought a few choices. In the end, most everyone,
including me, chucked the cocktail idea and wore warm clothes
and boots. I wore black slacks and sweater with a really nice
scarf ad the blingiest accessories I had. It didn't matter
anyway, as we all had to keep our coats on for the welcome drink
and the ceremony and the "parade" down the hill to the reception
tent (luckily there was a shuttle we could take, as my brother
has been having bad problems with his leg). The tent for dinner
and dancing had no floor except the dance floor, but it did have
very good heating, so we could take our coats off.
I still don't think that this was a great choice of venue, and
it was very expensive and inconvenient for the guests, but we
all had a terrific time anyway once we got settled in. The
bride and groom are so great, it makes it easy to overlook the
downsides.
By the way, a note on how they handled the "COVID do-over"
issue. They didn't call it a wedding, a renewal, a blessing, or
anything else. They didn't call it anything at all! They did
have a ceremony. The officiant hit exactly the right note
between seriousness and lightheartedness in light of the
circumstances. I believe she said, "Do you still take each
other ..." or something like that, perhaps with a bit of "now
that you know what you're getting into" vibe. She nailed it.
The bride did wear her wedding dress. It didn't seem odd at
all, except I kept thinking she must be freezing in that dress
she bought for a June wedding.
Oh, and I filled out the waiver form by initialing the
outrageous passages "N.O." instead of my real initials. No one
said anything.
Thank you all for thinking this through with me. Brimstoners
are the best.
#Post#: 71744--------------------------------------------------
Re: “Formal” wedding - UPDATE at #17
By: DaDancingPsych Date: November 16, 2021, 1:28 pm
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I am so glad to hear that the weddings went well. It's always
nice to know that all of the commotion was worth it!
[quote]Oh, and I filled out the waiver form by initialing the
outrageous passages "N.O." instead of my real initials. No one
said anything.[/quote]
This might be off-topic, but gellchom (or anyone practicing law
willing to answer), how would this work out? If I initial
passages that I don't agree with with "N.O." rather than my
initials and something happens that I want to sue over something
that would have been protected by that clause, does that mean
that I still could? (I am curious if this is a solution that I
could use myself when I'm asked to sign away my rights.)
#Post#: 71751--------------------------------------------------
Re: “Formal” wedding - UPDATE at #17
By: Gellchom Date: November 16, 2021, 3:18 pm
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[quote author=DaDancingPsych link=topic=2113.msg71744#msg71744
date=1637090917]
I am so glad to hear that the weddings went well. It's always
nice to know that all of the commotion was worth it!
[quote]Oh, and I filled out the waiver form by initialing the
outrageous passages "N.O." instead of my real initials. No one
said anything.[/quote]
This might be off-topic, but gellchom (or anyone practicing law
willing to answer), how would this work out? If I initial
passages that I don't agree with with "N.O." rather than my
initials and something happens that I want to sue over something
that would have been protected by that clause, does that mean
that I still could? (I am curious if this is a solution that I
could use myself when I'm asked to sign away my rights.)
[/quote]
We are not supposed to give legal advice here, but as a general
matter I’d think that leaving some boxes unchecked, crossed out,
or with “no” or “I don’t agree to this” in them should work, or
at least help. There are other arguments, too, including that
it was a contract of adhesion (no choice, not bargained for) and
there was no consideration.
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Re: “Formal” wedding - UPDATE at #17
By: DaDancingPsych Date: November 17, 2021, 4:21 am
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[quote author=gellchom link=topic=2113.msg71751#msg71751
date=1637097508]
[quote author=DaDancingPsych link=topic=2113.msg71744#msg71744
date=1637090917]
I am so glad to hear that the weddings went well. It's always
nice to know that all of the commotion was worth it!
[quote]Oh, and I filled out the waiver form by initialing the
outrageous passages "N.O." instead of my real initials. No one
said anything.[/quote]
This might be off-topic, but gellchom (or anyone practicing law
willing to answer), how would this work out? If I initial
passages that I don't agree with with "N.O." rather than my
initials and something happens that I want to sue over something
that would have been protected by that clause, does that mean
that I still could? (I am curious if this is a solution that I
could use myself when I'm asked to sign away my rights.)
[/quote]
We are not supposed to give legal advice here, but as a general
matter I’d think that leaving some boxes unchecked, crossed out,
or with “no” or “I don’t agree to this” in them should work, or
at least help. There are other arguments, too, including that
it was a contract of adhesion (no choice, not bargained for) and
there was no consideration.
[/quote]
Thank you and sorry! I really appreciate the information (more
on an interesting tidbit and not that I am seeking actual legal
advice.) And sorry... it didn't dawn on me that I requested
legal advice (see above). I knew that this was a big rule on the
old forum and should have realized that it carried over. I'm
going into time-out.
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