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Re: “Formal” wedding - UPDATE at #17
By: Winterlight Date: August 25, 2021, 7:27 pm
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I'd probably err on the side of comfort and wear a long skirt
and walking boots for the wedding part and then change into
indoor shoes when we got back to the reception site.
#Post#: 69585--------------------------------------------------
Re: “Formal” wedding - UPDATE at #17
By: AnnNottingham Date: August 25, 2021, 9:42 pm
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When you say "up a mountain", remember that it might be cooler
up there than at the base. Also, i hope the fires going on
won't torpedo that wedding.
#Post#: 69587--------------------------------------------------
Re: “Formal” wedding - UPDATE at #17
By: Aleko Date: August 26, 2021, 1:49 am
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I think this couple really are delusional, trying to combine
their charming mountainside venue with party frocks. You could
wear a cocktail dress to walk up a mountain trail, for sure, but
not any kind of footwear that would go with the dress; and I
think anybody would feel ‘wrong’ and discomfited wearing stout
shoes or walking boots with their spangly outfit. In your place
I’d have half a mind to wear hiking clothes topped off with a
fascinator and a feather boa! Perhaps find a spangly rucksack to
carry my extra layers in?
#Post#: 69590--------------------------------------------------
Re: “Formal” wedding - UPDATE at #17
By: lowspark Date: August 26, 2021, 8:52 am
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Boy, this one's a doozy. "A fifteen-minute walk up a lovely
little trail" at [s]3 pm[/s] 2:30 pm (in time for the 3 pm
ceremony) is one thing. Going back down that same trail at 10pm
is a whole other ball game.
Honestly, I'd be tempted to wear rugged clothing. After all, you
don't want your cute cocktail dress to get snagged on a twig on
the way up. And how about the men? I wouldn't want to be hiking
in a dress shirt and nice slacks!
And the shuttle for those needing assistance, I assume will be a
small vehicle making its way along the same trail? Causing the
hikers to have to stand aside to let it pass?
I've got to assume there will be restrooms at the ceremony site.
I'd wear my hiking clothes and bring a small bag with my wedding
clothes, and change upon arrival and before heading back down
that trail.
#Post#: 69594--------------------------------------------------
Re: “Formal” wedding - UPDATE at #17
By: Rose Red Date: August 26, 2021, 10:03 am
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Pretty much what Hmmm posted.
If it were me, I'd wear walking shoes and bring a dressy pair in
a tote bag to change into. As for the outfit, I'd wear a
lightweight cocktail dress and bring a nice wrap in case the
weather fluctuates.
I'm wondering what the trail is like. If it's a man-made trail
that's relatively flat (like in forest preserves), 15 minutes
won't be too bad. But I'm not sure about hiking up a wild trail
in formal dress.
#Post#: 69595--------------------------------------------------
Re: “Formal” wedding - UPDATE at #17
By: Gellchom Date: August 26, 2021, 10:18 am
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It sounds to me like the ceremony is up the trail, but the
reception is back down at the main level. So we will be coming
back down in daylight.
And as Rose Red wonders, maybe the trail isn't rugged. Probably
not, and it won't be a problem for us, although I still think
it's odd to make your guests walk 15 minutes each way.
I mean, it sounds like it's a venue that people use, so it just
can't be all that difficult, right? And the bride and groom are
smart and nice people. Still, it sounds like so much adds up to
make it complicated and difficult. Maybe it will be a lot
easier than it seems; I bet it will.
The thing that really has me wondering is that the ceremony
begins at 3 (which, as Lowspark points out, means we have to be
there by 2:30, plus however long it will take to come on the
shuttle from town to the venue, but the first shuttle back to
town doesn't leave until 10. That is a long time! Minimum 7
1/2 hours. We will be going with my brother and brother-in-law
in their car, so I'm going to ask him to try to get one of the
few parking spaces if he can, so we can leave earlier if we
want.
They are smart and nice, but like many brides and grooms, they
don't have any experience planning something like a wedding.
Maybe when they made their plans, they were only envisioning
their buddies, who are staying at the venue (it has only a few
rooms, like yurts) and will want to party for hours and can go
back to their rooms if they don't or want a break, and
forgetting that they have other guests who will not find this
very convenient! This reminds me of receptions other people
have posted about that had little or no seating because the
hosts/HC wanted a mingly, cocktail party or club vibe, or on the
beach or mountaintop at dawn, etc., all of which would have been
perfect if they only invited their peers with similar tastes,
but which weren't very hospitable for the rest of their guests,
especially elderly or with disabilities.
I thought of another outfit possibility: I have a beautiful
magenta cotton kurta (it is from India, but it looks like a
modern Western A line button up dress, just open from the waist
down, so I wear it with leggings; no embroidery or spangles or
anything). I can wear that with black leggings and I guess the
booties.
Whatever I wear, I can figure out shoes the night before if I
bring options: there is a welcome party that night, so I can
check out the trail, ceremony site, and reception site then.
I'd prefer not to have to pack so many pairs of shoes, but that
will solve the problem.
Oh, and ... the dress code for THAT party is "Smart Casual."
:)
#Post#: 69597--------------------------------------------------
Re: “Formal” wedding - UPDATE at #17
By: oogyda Date: August 26, 2021, 11:12 am
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I would suggest trying to find more information about the venue.
They probably have a website and maybe there are some reviews
on Yelp or google.
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Re: “Formal” wedding - UPDATE at #17
By: Rose Red Date: August 26, 2021, 12:16 pm
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At least 7 1/2 hours! Stash some snacks in your handbag just in
case.
#Post#: 69603--------------------------------------------------
Re: “Formal” wedding - UPDATE at #17
By: Gellchom Date: August 26, 2021, 1:52 pm
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I followed oogyda's good advice and found photos of the venue.
The trail appears to be mostly through fields, not uphill on a
mountain. It is beautiful but very rustic; one wedding ceremony
they showed had seating on wooden benches, the other on bales of
hay. The reception areas are all outdoors on unpaved ground, so
definitely no party shoes, which is a real problem with party
clothes, especially if you are as short as I am! I think I just
will have to wear something I can wear with boots and dress it
up with evening-y accessories. I really do wonder why they
chose cocktail attire.
I found reviews from a couple of brides raving about how much
they loved having their weddings there, although even they
commented on the "logistical challenges" that the venue entails.
I didn't see any comments from any wedding guests.
I wonder what they do if it rains. I'm sure there must be some
Plan B. Whatever happens, we will do our best to help it all
succeed.
#Post#: 69612--------------------------------------------------
Re: “Formal” wedding - UPDATE at #17
By: Rho Date: August 26, 2021, 9:35 pm
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Oh, and ... the dress code for THAT party is "Smart Casual."
Blue jeans, eyeglasses, and a thick book
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