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#Post#: 68309--------------------------------------------------
“Formal” wedding - UPDATE at #40
By: Gellchom Date: July 17, 2021, 3:34 pm
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I’m very much looking forward to my nephew’s wedding this fall.
The invitations are not out yet, but they have a wedding
website. The dress code for the wedding is “formal.” I don’t
know whether they want long gowns and tuxedos or cocktail
dresses and suits or what. The ceremony begins at 4:30 in the
afternoon, followed by a cocktail hour, a “reception,” which
lasts an hour, so I assume means dinner, followed by “dance
party,” and then an after party. So late afternoon into late
night. The only other clue is on an FAQ page, which says
WHAT'S THE DRESS CODE?
Formal - look nice!
Not much help (I’d like to think that people would look nice
going to a wedding no matter what the dress code is!).
I will ask, but I am curious to know how you all would interpret
this. And anyway they may change the wording by the time they
send out the invitations.
We will most likely dress at the dressier end of whatever the
range turns out to be, as we are close relatives. I think hosts
like that, anyway. It shows you consider their event an extra
special occasion, worthy of some extra effort.
#Post#: 68311--------------------------------------------------
Re: “Formal” wedding
By: DaDancingPsych Date: July 17, 2021, 5:20 pm
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Yes, ask. But... I'll play along.
Formal to my family and circle of friends would mean cocktail
dresses and suits. The idea of having anyone outside of the
wedding party wear long gowns and tuxedos is unheard of. But I
think that it could easily mean that in other circles.
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Re: “Formal” wedding
By: gramma dishes Date: July 17, 2021, 6:46 pm
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[quote author=DaDancingPsych link=topic=2113.msg68311#msg68311
date=1626560439]
Yes, ask. But... I'll play along.
Formal to my family and circle of friends would mean cocktail
dresses and suits. The idea of having anyone outside of the
wedding party wear long gowns and tuxedos is unheard of. But I
think that it could easily mean that in other circles.
[/quote]
I agree. If they want women in evening gowns and men in tuxes
they would probably specify black or white tie. On the other
hand, if you wanted to wear an evening dress it would not be out
of place at a 'formal' event.
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Re: “Formal” wedding
By: kckgirl Date: July 17, 2021, 7:00 pm
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I would take it to mean sparkly cocktail dresses and navy blue
or black suits.
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Re: “Formal” wedding
By: Rho Date: July 17, 2021, 10:03 pm
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Here, Chicago area, I would also take it mean sparkly cocktail
dresses and suits. On Long Island I would ask if a tux were
needed. In Tel Aviv I would expect women to wear dresses with
sleeves and men to wear button down dress shirts.
#Post#: 68326--------------------------------------------------
Re: “Formal” wedding
By: Lilipons Date: July 18, 2021, 9:49 am
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I side with the others here. Depending on where the Wedding is
held, true gowns might be a bit much.
However, you can’t go wrong with a long black skirt, a white
shell and a festive jacket. Tasteful but interesting jewelry
could add a finishing touch.
Get in touch with other invited family members and decide on a
plan.
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Re: “Formal” wedding
By: Gellchom Date: July 18, 2021, 9:53 am
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Thanks, everyone!
That’s what I’m guessing, too. If so, they could have written
“cocktail attire.” Then they wouldn’t get questions! But maybe
they want something more. Or less. We will see.
I should have said, the wedding is in Portland, Oregon.
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Re: “Formal” wedding
By: gramma dishes Date: July 18, 2021, 10:34 am
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Never mind. We need a way to 'delete' here if we change our
minds.
#Post#: 68330--------------------------------------------------
Re: “Formal” wedding
By: oogyda Date: July 18, 2021, 11:02 am
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I think the meanings of dress in dress codes have gotten lost
over the years. At least to the general population.
#Post#: 68361--------------------------------------------------
Re: “Formal” wedding
By: Hmmm Date: July 19, 2021, 9:10 am
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For me, "Formal" is equal to Black Tie Optional. So a man could
wear a tux but a suit is ok. A women could wear a floor length
dress but cocktail attire is ok too.
But with "Formal - Look nice" I'm thinking the couple is not
using Formal in the traditional since. I think they are trying
to say don't wear jeans. It would be great if people did follow
dress codes. At my nephew's wedding a few years back, I was
surprised two of the bride's first cousins and uncle arrived in
jeans. This was a very traditional church/country club wedding.
The cousins were their early 20's and the family wasn't hurting
for money. The mom/wife was dressed beautifully.
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