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#Post#: 67863--------------------------------------------------
The Thank You Gift
DIR By: DaDancingPsych
Date: July 2, 2021, 6:39 pm
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I have three friends who run a non-profit event together. It is
only the three of them. They do this outside of their regular
jobs (not paid). They run this from their homes, so no shared
office space. And while they typically meet approximately once a
month (depending on how close they are to the event), they have
not done this from some time as the event has been canceled for
the past two years due to covid.
They recently loaned me some somewhat expensive equipment to use
for my job. I want to send a thank you gift (I am thinking
cookies or gourmet popcorn or some sort of treat.) Under normal
circumstance, I would send one treat basket to share during
their next meeting together. However, that is not going to work.
Two of the friends are married and live together, but the third
lives elsewhere with her husband. Should I send two or three
baskets? Part of me feels like they are three individuals and
each deserve their own thanks (but we all know the married
couple is going to enjoy their treats together.) But if I only
buy two, I could budget for a nicer offering. Or maybe I buy one
larger treat for the couple and a smaller one for the other
friend? (But I worry that they will talk and realize that they
were different sizes.)
How would you handle this?
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Re: The Thank You Gift
DIR By: Gellchom
Date: July 2, 2021, 6:46 pm
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I think you’re worrying too much! I’m sure whatever you send
will be appreciated as a thoughtful surprise, and no one will be
looking for insult.
But if you are worried, maybe send each household flowers or a
plant, rather than edibles that two people must split.
Better yet, a contribution to their nonprofit.
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Re: The Thank You Gift
DIR By: DaDancingPsych
Date: July 2, 2021, 6:56 pm
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--- Quote from: Gellchom link ---
>
> I think you’re worrying too much! I’m sure whatever you send
will be appreciated as a thoughtful surprise, and no one will be
looking for insult.
>
> But if you are worried, maybe send each household flowers or a
plant, rather than edibles that two people must split.
>
> Better yet, a contribution to their nonprofit.
>
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I'm definitely worrying too much! ;D Their event is not the
sort of thing where they are looking for donations. (The
attendees' fees pay to run the event.) If this was the sort of
non-profit trying to raise money for a cause, I would be all
over that one! =)
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Re: The Thank You Gift
DIR By: STiG
Date: July 2, 2021, 7:55 pm
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I like the idea of sending a larger basket to the couple and a
smaller one to the other person. Or send a smaller one to each
individual.
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Re: The Thank You Gift
DIR By: sandisadie
Date: July 3, 2021, 9:06 am
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I think I'd send a basket of goodies to each person because
people really do like to receive a gift that is just for them.
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Re: The Thank You Gift
DIR By: jpcher
Date: July 3, 2021, 10:22 am
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--- Quote from: sandisadie link ---
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> I think I'd send a basket of goodies to each person because
people really do like to receive a gift that is just for them.
>
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I agree. Tailor them to the individual tastes. Say the wife
likes flowers, the husband likes sausages/cheese, the third
person likes fruit.
I also agree that the gifts should all be in the same
price-range or size.
But I do believe that any gift you send would be appreciated.
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Re: The Thank You Gift
DIR By: holly firestorm
Date: July 3, 2021, 9:56 pm
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--- Quote from: sandisadie link ---
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> I think I'd send a basket of goodies to each person because
people really do like to receive a gift that is just for them.
>
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I understand this may not be a practical situation to do this.
But, one thing I do like is getting a gift addressed to me and
then sharing it. It makes me feel like I'm paying it forward.
Of course, one also has to be very certain that you are not
giving the impression that you are just trying to pass the gift
off because you didn't like it or appreciate it.
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Re: The Thank You Gift
DIR By: Aleko
Date: July 4, 2021, 4:46 am
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> I agree. Tailor them to the individual tastes. Say the wife
likes flowers, the husband likes sausages/cheese
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But in the case of the couple, only if you’re very sure what
their individual tastes in fact are: otherwise you risk annoying
them with your assumptions. My mother’s old family nanny, who
took a fond interest in all her ex-charges’ children, always
used to send us Christmas presents: toffees for my brothers,
embroidered hankies for me. Which I wouldn’t have used if anyone
had paid me to. And the sort of banquet where at the end they
bring round ‘brandy for the gentlemen, and Baileys (ugh! :-X)
for the ladies’.
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Re: The Thank You Gift
DIR By: NFPwife
Date: July 4, 2021, 4:42 pm
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--- Quote from: jpcher link ---
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> [quote author=sandisadie link=topic=2097.msg67871#msg67871
date=1625321206]
> I think I'd send a basket of goodies to each person because
people really do like to receive a gift that is just for them.
>
--- End Quote ---
I agree. Tailor them to the individual tastes. Say the wife
likes flowers, the husband likes sausages/cheese, the third
person likes fruit.
I also agree that the gifts should all be in the same
price-range or size.
But I do believe that any gift you send would be appreciated.
[/quote]
I like tailoring the gifts to each while staying in the same
price range. It's very considerate of you to send anything.
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