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Post Elopement Wedding in the Age of (post) Covid!
By: LurkingGurl Date: June 9, 2021, 8:47 pm
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My son got married in late December, in the freezing cold, on a
mountain in Utah, attended by a few of us family members.
The intention was always to have the BWW once the restrictions
were lifted and one has been planned.
Because the Bride is from another country and that country
remains locked down, and they couldn't afford it anyway, (and
the couple could not afford it), my husband and I stepped up and
offered to host the "BWW."
The question of the day is how to handle the invitations.
I believe that they should not be calling it a "wedding" and I
believe that the wording should reflect the reality that my
husband and I are paying for the nearly the whole thing--the
venue, food and drink.
There will be bridesmaids and groomsmen, flower girl, ring
bearer, procession and vows.
It will be a lot like a regular wedding only they're already
married. If not for the pandemic, we would have simply done it
last year.
So, questions:
And here, there is room for traditional answers as well as room
to get creative!
How should we word it?
Also, the "dress" they want to encourage is not formal or casual
but, "don't be afraid to be extra." I call it "glam" but,
honestly, it is just on the edge of being a costume party--not
that you dress up as some character but that you come dressed
over the top.
Many of their friends are in the rock n roll industry in one
form or another so, anything from rock glam to a powder blue
suit, I think, is what they're encouraging.
The "officiant" will be a close friend who will be dressed like
Elvis. They want kind of a glamours vintage Vegas vibe to the
whole event, including the invitations.
I am hoping to impart the vibe in the invitations with words and
with style--I even suggested to them that they could feature a
picture from their mountain top wedding.
IDK.
Hit me with some ideas! Please!!!!
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Re: Post Elopement Wedding in the Age of (post) Covid!
By: Aleko Date: June 10, 2021, 4:48 am
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What you have here is a delayed wedding reception, and I think
that’s what you should call it. Personally I find it just a bit
distasteful for an already-married couple to perform a
theatrical reenactment of wedding vows, and you may find that
some of the guests agree. But at least if you make it clear in
the invitation that the actual wedding took place a while ago
during lockdown, at least they won’t feel they have been invited
under false pretences.
- If you (plural), rather than the couple, issue the invitations
and ask for the RSVPs, it should be obvious to everyone that you
are the hosts, which clearly implies that you are funding it.
Obviously it would be crass in the extreme to say so in clear!
- As for the dress code, ‘festive’ might be a good word to
include - that should head people away from ‘my usual dark suit
plus carnation’ and ‘my posh frock with the formal hat and the
shoes that hurt’. If the invitation’s artwork and font clearly
give off the ‘glamorous vintage Vegas vibe’ the couple are
aiming for, that will give guests a clue, which they can work
with if they feel comfortable dressed that way and have the
knowledge (and spare cash) to put together something suitable.
Not everybody will, and they shouldn’t feel forced to. If their
idea of festive/extra/glam, that they feel good and happy in, is
full evening dress or Greek national costume, let them wear it!
BTW, I don’t think any wedding notified in advance to the
couple’s families, let alone attended by any of the family
members, qualifies to be called an “elopement”.
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Re: Post Elopement Wedding in the Age of (post) Covid!
By: Hmmm Date: June 10, 2021, 9:00 am
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Indicating who is paying for the event by invite wording
I just went through this with my DD. She was married in March.
DH and I paid for 90% of the cost. At first I wanted the
traditional wording of Mr and Mrs Hmmmm invite you to the
wedding of their DD Ms. little Hmmmm to Mr. XXXX son of Mr &
Mrs.....
But DD wanted a more modern wording so it went out as Join us
for the wedding of DD and BB with both sets of parents
mentioned. At first I was a little ticked, I'll admit but, then
I realized it's no one's business who is paying for what. DH and
I were happy to gift them the wedding they wanted. - My advice,
leave it up to the couple on how they want their invitation to
read.
Indicting this is a second ceremony
I used to be really bothered by re-enactment ceremonies but I am
no longer. I would refer to this event as a re-affirmation
ceremony so something like Mary Kelly and John Glenn invite you
to celebrate the re-affirmation of their wedding vows. Or I love
something like this where they refer to the ceremony part as a
blessing of the bride and
groom.
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