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Re: We’re visiting, this day- be there!
By: NFPwife Date: August 5, 2021, 10:13 am
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[quote author=Aleko link=topic=2069.msg68890#msg68890
date=1628155026]
Toots, I apologised for this, and agreed that I never should
have raised it, two months ago. I was and am really sorry. You
don't need to keep telling me why I was wrong: I know.
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I saw Toots as saying, "this is what I do," vs being corrective
or dogpiling. Personally, I appreciated the strategy and her
pointing out that Reddit is different and more open to
correction. (I have to say I find the Reddit correction to be
kind. I posted a thread on Reddit with an error that is one of
those spell check errors, it's spelled correctly, but not the
word I wanted. Of course, I didn't see the error because my
brain kept reading what I meant. Someone pointed it out gently,
I laughed, and we moved on.)
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Re: We’re visiting, this day- be there!
By: holly firestorm Date: August 10, 2021, 4:42 pm
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[quote author=Andi_3k link=topic=2069.msg67146#msg67146
date=1623079245]
My cousins live in PA, I live in NYS - they moved, I live in the
home I’ve since 1974. This morning my cousin texted me that she
and her sister were discussing visiting on the weekend. I
responded with “I am not home weekends” and she’s insisting
they will be here on the weekend as “ That’s the only time
Jessie can come “
Jessie is raising her grandkid and is expecting free
babysitting while here, so they can visit- Ihavd told her
repeatedly i am not going to be there and no, that it’s not
possible for me to babysit. She is refusing to visit anytime
other than when it’s LEAST convenient for us.
I am feeling really put out that they feel they can dictate my
weekend like that and expect complete compliance- help?
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Confirm with an email, "Sorry, we will not able to see you on
Saturday or Sunday. But, we WILL be available Monday through
Friday." Then MAKE SURE you are not there on Saturday or Sunday.
(By emailing what you've told her verbally, she has no excuse
that she 'forgot.'
I had a dear friend recently tell me she and her hubby could
ONLY meet me Sunday before 11:00 for breakfast (at a place about
30 minutes from my home, probably, but I've never been there so
it could be more or less) because her husband insisted they be
on the road home by noon. I have chronic insomnia and often
can't pull myself out of the house by 11:00. And I didn't want
to make a promise I might not be able to keep. So, we didn't
meet up this visit. But, that's the way it was. I'm not mad at
her and she's not mad at me. Hopefully, we can meet up next
time.
If you can't be there on the weekend and she can't re-arrange
her schedule either, you'll both just have to hope you can get
together next time and leave it at that.
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