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Re: Miss Manners Third Letter Today
By: Winterlight Date: June 8, 2021, 4:35 pm
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I have dysgraphia and have tried many times to improve my
handwriting. It's not going to happen, that is the way my brain
is wired. I figure people would prefer a legible TY to one where
they're trying struggle through my chicken scratch.
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Re: Miss Manners Third Letter Today
By: 4Children Date: June 9, 2021, 2:09 pm
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I have a child that just graduated and has never had 1
handwriting class. They've had keyboarding since kindergarten.
Just recently learned to sign their name to open a bank account.
I think handwritten notes will be disappearing. Times change.
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Re: Miss Manners Third Letter Today
By: Gellchom Date: June 16, 2021, 3:23 am
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Well, of course, any thank you is better than none, and content,
sincerity, and enthusiasm are all more important than form.
And of course there are people who have physical or neurological
challenges to handwriting (I agree that MM's response probably
-- I didn't read it -- wasn't ableist because the LW hadn't
indicated any kind of problem), and everyone has situations in
which handwriting or snail mail are not the best choice (cannot
get address with reasonable effort, too formal for a small favor
or close relative, unreliable and slow overseas post, etc.).
That said, I agree that for something major like a wedding gift,
a handwritten note is the best choice. NOT THE ONLY ACCEPTABLE
CHOICE! Just the nicest and most formal. If you have to print,
print. If you have to type, type (but PLEASE sign it by hand).
Sometimes that's overkill, and an email, text, or phone call is
the perfect choice. What I think is never okay is a form letter
or mass email.
But by the same token, that does not mean that there isn't ever
a preferred choice, or that anyone who thinks so is being snobby
or picky. I am happy to get any kind of thank you, but that
doesn't mean people won't find some to be more impressive or
memorable than others. It's a losing battle to complain that
that's "setting the bar impossibly high," as we have sometimes
seen. (I think we've seen a few people try to use that as an
excuse not to put in effort when they really could and just
don't want to.)
For example, we recently sent our niece and her husband the very
nice high chair they'd registered for a baby gift. Ordinarily
I'd think a physical note is in order for such a big gift. But
as we live overseas, a call, text, or email would make sense.
She sent a nice text for the baby blanket I crocheted last fall.
[At this point, I'd be thrilled with ANY expression of thanks
for the high chair. We sent the gift, and it arrived (the store
sent me an email), several weeks before the baby was born in
late April. I'm going to choose to believe that they decided to
write a physical note and it is taking months to arrive.]
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Re: Miss Manners Third Letter Today
By: Bada Date: June 16, 2021, 9:19 am
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My mom threw my dad a small family party for a milestone
birthday a few years back. He opened gifts in front of us and
thanked us. A few days later I got a text from my dad. He was
wearing a shirt someone else had given him at the party, holding
up then gifts I had gotten him. Not text to accompanying the
picture at all. I was so confused.
It turns out my parents were trying to do some kind of new
fangled technological thank you note. Maybe it would have made
sense to show him holding the items if he hadn't opened them in
front of me. Or maybe I'd have been less confused if he wasn't
wearing someone else's gift. Or, you know, if it said Thank You
somewhere!
I'm not sure why they thought they needed to send thank you
anythings anyway, since It was a small party and he said thank
you when opening. I think I'd have preferred nothing to that odd
picture.
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Re: Miss Manners Third Letter Today
By: TootsNYC Date: June 16, 2021, 12:47 pm
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I think a picture of him in the shirt is fun--that's the kind of
picture I get from my grand-nephew: him wearing the bicycle
helmet I sent him. That's my favorite thank-you: "Look, I'm
using the present you gave me, that's how much I appreciate it!"
I wouldn't have needed a note. But him holding them up seems a
little odd.
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Re: Miss Manners Third Letter Today
By: VorFemme Date: June 17, 2021, 2:36 pm
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I was visiting my daughter & her family last month. I have an
embroidery machine. I embroidered some shirts for the boys
(grandsons & son-in-law) for a theme park visit. Their dad wore
his one day, the boys' shirts were in the laundry that I helped
get done so we could pack for a weekend trip (renaissance
festival - they didn't wear them - they wore the garb Grandma
made two years ago). So, I know that they like the stuff that I
make...I just need to stay home longer than six days, so I can
get some more projects worked on...maybe even finished.
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