URI:
   DIR Return Create A Forum - Home
       ---------------------------------------------------------
       Bad Manners and Brimstone
  HTML https://badmanners.createaforum.com
       ---------------------------------------------------------
       *****************************************************
   DIR Return to: The Work Day
       *****************************************************
       #Post#: 66208--------------------------------------------------
       Asking for Assistance After Working Hours
       By: BeagleMommy Date: May 7, 2021, 8:59 am
       ---------------------------------------------------------
       Last night BeagleDaddy got a Facebook message at 6:30 pm on his
       personal Facebook page from a coworker.  He is not friendly with
       this coworker.  BD's work hours are from 6:30 am until 3:30 pm.
       His building closes at 5 pm.
       She told him she was having problems with her work computer
       since she was still at the office.  Now, BD is a tech support
       for his building.  They have a different 24-hour help desk for
       after hours assistance.  She has never messaged him before
       unless it was during work hours and then it was through the
       office email system.
       He didn't respond to her and has decided to block her from his
       personal Facebook but he's wondering if this was rude.
       I told him I would put it out for my fellow Brimstoners for
       comment.
       #Post#: 66209--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Asking for Assistance After Working Hours
       By: Hmmm Date: May 7, 2021, 9:35 am
       ---------------------------------------------------------
       No, it's not rude to block her. She should not use his personal
       account to contact him about work. I would have responded to the
       message first with a "Sorry, I can not assist you currently.
       Please contact the help desk if an emergency or contact me
       tomorrow." Then I would have blocked her.
       Sounds like she was working late and probably in panic mode.
       I've been in IT for 30 plus years, and distress signals show up
       in all sorts of formats. I was usually happy to help if I could.
       But my bosses and my employees understand that if I am or they
       are flexible with their off time, then they also get flexibility
       with their work hours.
       #Post#: 66211--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Asking for Assistance After Working Hours
       By: EtiquetteE Date: May 7, 2021, 9:37 am
       ---------------------------------------------------------
       No not rude.  Blocking her puts boundaries firmly in place.  If
       he wanted to follow up, he could e-mail her (during his working
       hours) from his work account and let her know that his FB
       account is intended for personal communications only and he
       could include the information on how to contact support after
       hours.
       #Post#: 66214--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Asking for Assistance After Working Hours
       By: DaDancingPsych Date: May 7, 2021, 10:02 am
       ---------------------------------------------------------
       I agree, not rude. I wanted to also say that it would perfectly
       fine to do nothing further, too. He does not need to follow-up
       to ensure that coworker figured out the issue or knows how to
       reach after hours tech support. It might be nice and it might
       help sooth that relationship (if he concerned about that), but I
       don't think etiquette requires it.
       #Post#: 66222--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Asking for Assistance After Working Hours
       By: gramma dishes Date: May 7, 2021, 11:39 am
       ---------------------------------------------------------
       I can't imagine why she had his personal account information in
       the first place since they are just work acquaintances, not
       really work friends.   But no.  He did the right thing.   If he
       had responded this time you know it would have happened again
       and again.
       #Post#: 66223--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Asking for Assistance After Working Hours
       By: SureJan Date: May 7, 2021, 12:07 pm
       ---------------------------------------------------------
       [quote author=gramma dishes link=topic=2047.msg66222#msg66222
       date=1620405553]
       I can't imagine why she had his personal account information in
       the first place since they are just work acquaintances, not
       really work friends.   But no.  He did the right thing.   If he
       had responded this time you know it would have happened again
       and again.
       [/quote]
       I agree she was rude and shouldn’t have reached out to him on
       his Facebook. But I do *not* think this is a case of her having
       information that she should not have. IME the majority of people
       using FB these days tend to have their real names displayed, so
       if you know someone’s name and a minimal amount of info such as
       the state they live in that is all you need to find someone who
       has “open search” settings (my settings are more “closed” and I
       can only be contacted by people I’m friends with or someone who
       is the friend of a friend)
       #Post#: 66227--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Asking for Assistance After Working Hours
       By: STiG Date: May 7, 2021, 2:17 pm
       ---------------------------------------------------------
       It would have been rude for her to contact him via his work
       information (cell phone, email etc.), expecting help after
       hours, let alone via a personal account.  Unless he is 'on
       call', which doesn't seem to be the case.  Even then, using a
       personal account method would be rude.
       He did the right thing, IMO.
       #Post#: 66229--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Asking for Assistance After Working Hours
       By: lowspark Date: May 7, 2021, 3:30 pm
       ---------------------------------------------------------
       I don't think it's rude to contact coworkers during off hours as
       long as it's via work channels. I send and receive emails and
       TEAMS messages during off hours -- it's the nature of the
       business I'm in. It's up to each person whether they monitor and
       reply via those channels. I send messages in off hours because
       I'm not going to remember to do it the next day, or the person
       I'm messaging gets in earlier than I do.
       I don't expect an answer right away, it's more about getting the
       issue on the record, so to speak.
       Contacting them via personal channels is completely off limits
       in my opinion, regardless of how close or not close you are. I
       am friends on Facebook with some coworkers, but neither of us
       would use FB to discuss work stuff. It's just not done.
       I think your husband was fine to block her. What she did was not
       cool.
       #Post#: 66235--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Asking for Assistance After Working Hours
       By: STiG Date: May 7, 2021, 4:13 pm
       ---------------------------------------------------------
       [quote author=lowspark link=topic=2047.msg66229#msg66229
       date=1620419439]
       I don't expect an answer right away, it's more about getting the
       issue on the record, so to speak.
       [/quote]
       Which is fine - and I used to do it, too.  Or send an email from
       my home email to my work email as a reminder for the next
       morning.  But I got the impression that coworker was expecting
       the OP's DH to handle her issue right away.  That's not cool,
       IMO.  Where I work, in order to get paid for overtime, it has to
       be approved by a manager.  So if I handled a coworker's issue
       after hours, not only would it disturb my home time but I
       wouldn't get paid for it.
       #Post#: 66237--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Asking for Assistance After Working Hours
       By: Winterlight Date: May 7, 2021, 7:20 pm
       ---------------------------------------------------------
       In my job, overtime isn't permitted, so my boss could end up in
       trouble if I did something like this. I like my boss.
       *****************************************************
   DIR Next Page