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Re: Niece's facebook request
By: lowspark Date: May 7, 2021, 1:04 pm
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I don't even understand what that means. Is she asking people
not to wish *her* a Happy Mother's Day? In which case, fine, no
hardship there.
Or is she asking that others don't celebrate or don't post pix
of their celebrations on Facebook? In which case, um, no, you
don't get to dictate my life.
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Re: Niece's facebook request
By: Rose Red Date: May 7, 2021, 1:45 pm
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She can't control what others put on their own FB account. We
all have triggers and have to deal with it or try to avoid it.
I don't have FB, but can she block posts that mention "Mother's
Day?" Like blocking hashtags?
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Re: Niece's facebook request
By: mime Date: May 7, 2021, 9:39 pm
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Yeah, when people expect everyone to tiptoe when they're nearby,
many people will find it easier to just keep their distance
instead.
I'd carry on with my life and wish my mom a happy Mother's Day
if I was still on fb. I was lucky to have a great mom and she
deserves that recognition.
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Re: Niece's facebook request
By: Aleko Date: May 8, 2021, 3:28 am
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[quote]I don't even understand what that means. Is she asking
people not to wish *her* a Happy Mother's Day? In which case,
fine, no hardship there.[/quote]
I would seriously hope that no decent person would dream of
wishing a woman they knew to be childless a Happy Mother's Day!
Such a woman by definition either doesn't want children or
hasn't been able to have any (whether for medical reasons,
inability to find Mr Right, or being too poor to bring one up,
doesn't matter). And I think it would be definitely tactless to
wish it to a stepmother who can't have children of her own;
however much she loves her stepchild(ren), there still might
well be a private feeling of loss that would make the greeting
just a bit painful to receive. That said, I'm with everyone else
here that for the sake of the stepchild(ren) she shouldn't voice
this publicly.
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Re: Niece's facebook request
By: oogyda Date: May 8, 2021, 7:17 am
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[quote author=lowspark link=topic=2046.msg66225#msg66225
date=1620410670]
I don't even understand what that means. Is she asking people
not to wish *her* a Happy Mother's Day? In which case, fine, no
hardship there.
Or is she asking that others don't celebrate or don't post pix
of their celebrations on Facebook? In which case, um, no, you
don't get to dictate my life.
[/quote]
Quoting:
If I had the choice to eliminate one day on the calendar there
is no doubt in my mind it would be mother's day.
And:
This one particular day each year hurts more and more with each
passing year so if we could just all go on about our day and
week as though it's just another Sunday; I would appreciate that
more than any gift I could ever get.
I wonder what it means that the post is no longer showing up on
her facebook page.
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Re: Niece's facebook request
By: LifeOnPluto Date: May 8, 2021, 7:37 am
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Question - when your niece married her husband, was she aware
that he'd had a vasectomy? At the risk of sounding callous, if
she wanted children, she's only got herself to blame for
marrying a man who couldn't have any more (and presumably if
he'd had a vasectomy, didn't want any more).
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Re: Niece's facebook request
By: oogyda Date: May 8, 2021, 7:57 am
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[quote author=LifeOnPluto link=topic=2046.msg66247#msg66247
date=1620477443]
Question - when your niece married her husband, was she aware
that he'd had a vasectomy? At the risk of sounding callous, if
she wanted children, she's only got herself to blame for
marrying a man who couldn't have any more (and presumably if
he'd had a vasectomy, didn't want any more).
[/quote]
Yes. She knew.
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Re: Niece's facebook request
By: Hanna Date: May 8, 2021, 9:43 am
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The number of things she doesn’t want anyone to mention on FB
could be endless!
Birthdays - because it’s not her birthday.
Holidays for religions she does not celebrate
Promotions because she didn’t get one
New home purchase - because she rents or isn’t getting a new
home soon.
And on!
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Re: Niece's facebook request
By: sandisadie Date: May 8, 2021, 10:40 am
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I wonder if what she posted about Mother's day comes from
something that is deeply personal? My thought is that these
kinds of issues shouldn't be talked about or mentioned on
facebook. Why would you want strangers, and maybe relatives,
to know these things about you? Or even to wonder about them,
as we are doing here? If I am wrong about this please chime in
and give a different perspective.
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Re: Niece's facebook request
By: Hanna Date: May 8, 2021, 10:44 am
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If something bothered me like this I would just avoid social
media during that period.
In fact, I do avoid it except for specific things because I find
it makes me anxious.
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