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Re: Being a good host
By: NFPwife Date: April 27, 2021, 10:23 am
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Bada, I was telling my husband about this thread and he said,
"How does she know so many rude people?" He thinks you're over
your rude people quotient.
Don't worry about people's judgement. Judgy people will always
find something. Being comfortable in your own skin and with your
style is most important.
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Re: Being a good host
By: SureJan Date: April 27, 2021, 10:26 am
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[quote author=Morticia link=topic=2042.msg65969#msg65969
date=1619535410]
Tea has expiration dates?
[/quote]
Yes, but it seems like it’s more of a combination of marketing
and making sure they are covered if anyone decides to drink some
10 year old tea - I found this in an article from Tufts
university regarding dried tea leaves:
“All will eventually lose their flavor, and the phytochemicals
(primarily flavonoids) they contain will degrade. However, dried
tea leaves that are kept dry will not spoil, and as long as they
are stored away from heat, water, light and air, the flavor and
phytochemical content can be maintained for up to two years“
HTML https://now.tufts.edu/articles/tea-storage-length-time-fresh-nutrients<br
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Re: Being a good host
By: Bada Date: April 27, 2021, 11:49 am
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[quote author=Morticia link=topic=2042.msg65969#msg65969
date=1619535410]
Tea has expiration dates?
[/quote]
That was precisely what I said! We tend to drink only a couple
types of tea and just have the rest in case a guest doesn't want
our favorites. Apparently our collection is old lol.
[quote author=PVZFan link=topic=2042.msg65971#msg65971
date=1619537013]
Bada, I was telling my husband about this thread and he said,
"How does she know so many rude people?" He thinks you're over
your rude people quotient.
Don't worry about people's judgement. Judgy people will always
find something. Being comfortable in your own skin and with your
style is most important.
[/quote]
This made me laugh. I didn't even tell you folks about my other
guest, since it was obvious who was in the wrong...
So many reasons to dislike hosting, really.
#Post#: 65984--------------------------------------------------
Re: Being a good host
By: QueenFaninCA Date: April 27, 2021, 3:47 pm
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[quote author=Bada link=topic=2042.msg65955#msg65955
date=1619460621]
I'm frequently chasing my little ones and keeping the youngest
out of danger and it definitely distracts me,
[/quote]
When hosting an adult event (adult as in all guests are adults),
I would either hire a sitter to keep the kids out of my hair or
have them stay with friends.
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Re: Being a good host
By: Bada Date: April 27, 2021, 3:53 pm
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[quote author=QueenFaninCA link=topic=2042.msg65984#msg65984
date=1619556452]
[quote author=Bada link=topic=2042.msg65955#msg65955
date=1619460621]
I'm frequently chasing my little ones and keeping the youngest
out of danger and it definitely distracts me,
[/quote]
When hosting an adult event (adult as in all guests are adults),
I would either hire a sitter to keep the kids out of my hair or
have them stay with friends.
[/quote]
It was a birthday party for one of my littles. With all the
people there I'm always making sure they aren't drinking or
eating something left about, going near the grill, etc.
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Re: Being a good host
By: QueenFaninCA Date: April 27, 2021, 5:16 pm
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[quote author=Bada link=topic=2042.msg65985#msg65985
date=1619556783]
[quote author=QueenFaninCA link=topic=2042.msg65984#msg65984
date=1619556452]
[quote author=Bada link=topic=2042.msg65955#msg65955
date=1619460621]
I'm frequently chasing my little ones and keeping the youngest
out of danger and it definitely distracts me,
[/quote]
When hosting an adult event (adult as in all guests are adults),
I would either hire a sitter to keep the kids out of my hair or
have them stay with friends.
[/quote]
It was a birthday party for one of my littles. With all the
people there I'm always making sure they aren't drinking or
eating something left about, going near the grill, etc.
[/quote]
If it was a kid's birthday party, why are you mostly catering to
adult guests? If my child had a birthday party, the focus was on
the child and the guests that were children.
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Re: Being a good host
By: Bada Date: April 27, 2021, 5:50 pm
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[quote author=QueenFaninCA link=topic=2042.msg65988#msg65988
date=1619561774]
[quote author=Bada link=topic=2042.msg65985#msg65985
date=1619556783]
[quote author=QueenFaninCA link=topic=2042.msg65984#msg65984
date=1619556452]
[quote author=Bada link=topic=2042.msg65955#msg65955
date=1619460621]
I'm frequently chasing my little ones and keeping the youngest
out of danger and it definitely distracts me,
[/quote]
When hosting an adult event (adult as in all guests are adults),
I would either hire a sitter to keep the kids out of my hair or
have them stay with friends.
[/quote]
It was a birthday party for one of my littles. With all the
people there I'm always making sure they aren't drinking or
eating something left about, going near the grill, etc.
[/quote]
If it was a kid's birthday party, why are you mostly catering to
adult guests? If my child had a birthday party, the focus was on
the child and the guests that were children.
[/quote]
It was a party for our immediate family only. LO's grandparents,
aunts, uncles, and cousins. Covid is too much of a problem where
I live, and our yard is too small, for us to be having over
random kids and their parents. But even without covid, it's
normal in my family to have a family-only birthday party (ie
mostly adults). Is that not typical where you are?
ETA: To possibly preempt your next question: Yes, the
grandparents sometimes played with LO and kept him busy/safe for
me. But it's a super weird time to be little. Not only are you
in Separation Anxiety Stage, but for the past year you've had
next to no visitors in your house. Now all of a sudden people
are here and, now that they're vaccinated, they want to hold you
for the first time in your memory. LO wanted me close at hand
most of the time, but he also likes to crawl and walk and
explore.
#Post#: 65992--------------------------------------------------
Re: Being a good host
By: STiG Date: April 27, 2021, 8:08 pm
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[quote author=Bada link=topic=2042.msg65989#msg65989
date=1619563833]
Yes, the grandparents sometimes played with LO and kept him
busy/safe for me. But it's a super weird time to be little. Not
only are you in Separation Anxiety Stage, but for the past year
you've had next to no visitors in your house. Now all of a
sudden people are here and, now that they're vaccinated, they
want to hold you for the first time in your memory. LO wanted me
close at hand most of the time, but he also likes to crawl and
walk and explore.
[/quote]
That is completely understandable! Poor little guy. Who are
all these people and why do they want to hug and kiss me?
Mooooooommmmmyyy!
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Re: Being a good host
By: Hmmm Date: April 28, 2021, 8:02 am
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[quote author=QueenFaninCA link=topic=2042.msg65988#msg65988
date=1619561774]
[quote author=Bada link=topic=2042.msg65985#msg65985
date=1619556783]
[quote author=QueenFaninCA link=topic=2042.msg65984#msg65984
date=1619556452]
[quote author=Bada link=topic=2042.msg65955#msg65955
date=1619460621]
I'm frequently chasing my little ones and keeping the youngest
out of danger and it definitely distracts me,
[/quote]
When hosting an adult event (adult as in all guests are adults),
I would either hire a sitter to keep the kids out of my hair or
have them stay with friends.
[/quote]
It was a birthday party for one of my littles. With all the
people there I'm always making sure they aren't drinking or
eating something left about, going near the grill, etc.
[/quote]
If it was a kid's birthday party, why are you mostly catering to
adult guests? If my child had a birthday party, the focus was on
the child and the guests that were children.
[/quote]
Completely off topic, but do you seldom have family events? I'd
say 2/3rd of our hosting is for family events. Between bdays and
holidays, we probably have 8 to 10 family events hosted at our
house. Since the OP mentioned a brother and a MIL in attendance,
it seemed pretty apparent that this was a family event.
Also, when the kids are really little (which it sounds like with
the OP's kids since she is chasing them around), few parents
would just drop off their kids (thankfully) so you would end up
hosting adults too. Do you recommend just ignoring them?
#Post#: 65996--------------------------------------------------
Re: Being a good host
By: sms Date: April 28, 2021, 8:32 am
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I prefer it when family / close friends are comfortable enough
in my home to help themselves to the pantry and fridge. It's
less stress on me if I don't have to worry about anyone
suffering in silence.
Outside of Covid we host family quite a bit and we're all pretty
informal. I'm like most of the other posters - it doesn't
bother me if someone asks if we have a specific condiment or
type of tea etc...but I also don't feel bad if I don't have it.
Sometimes though the expectations between a couple hosting can
be the struggle. My husband tries to anticipate what everyone
wants and feels bad if we somehow fall short.
I try to get stuff that I reasonably think people will enjoy but
I'm done with
a) breaking the bank to try and cover all the bases.
b) getting stressed out if it isn't perfect or we miss
something.
c) missing out on enjoying my guests in the meantime.
I truly believe most guests would prefer to see their hosts
relaxed and enjoying themselves
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