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Birthday Outing but Gift is Delayed
By: NyaChan Date: March 27, 2021, 1:17 pm
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This is a low stakes question, but to be frank, I feel like I’ve
lost a lot of social confidence over the past year due to being
so isolated (live alone, no family in state). I have one friend
who also lives alone, has groceries delivered and works from
home - so similar to my level of precautions - and we feel
comfortable occasionally socializing together with masks in
outdoor spaces. It is her birthday this week so I asked if she
wanted to either have a picnic or hire a traveling pedicurist
(that may not be a real word...). It was pricey because of the
non-salon setting and extra Covid precautions, but I don’t think
either of us have had a pedicure since 2019 so kind of worth it.
I didn’t plan to treat her for the pedicure because I’d ordered
a really pretty pair of earrings which were already more than we
normally spend for birthdays. But the earrings are delayed in
shipping. So now I feel uncomfortable coming with only a card
and no gift. Normally I’d pay for the pedicure instead but then
I’m stuck with a pair of earrings that I can’t return. Giving
both is way over the level of gift which is typical and she is
the sort of person who would feel obliged to reciprocate. How
bad would it be to just give her the card and say I’m so sorry
but her gift hasn’t arrived yet and I’ll drop it off as on as it
does? Should I just pay for the pedicure and try to find someone
else for the earrings?
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Re: Birthday Outing but Gift is Delayed
By: Mrs Rat Date: March 27, 2021, 2:05 pm
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Shipping has been delayed quite often due to covid. I'm sure
your friend would understand if you just give her a card and
explain the delay. That way you can catch up for a second
celebration in the park or coffee, something to look forward to.
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Re: Birthday Outing but Gift is Delayed
By: Rose Red Date: March 27, 2021, 2:31 pm
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If cost is not an issue, I would pay for the pedicure as her
birthday gift and save the earrings for her Christmas gift (if
she celebrates), or for her birthday next year.
Otherwise, it's fine telling her about the delay. I'm sure
she'll understand. You can even give a smaller "placeholder"
gift until the earrings show up. Chocolates or cookies or
something.
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Re: Birthday Outing but Gift is Delayed
By: lakey Date: March 27, 2021, 7:20 pm
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How about giving her a picture of the gift that hasn't been
delivered yet? If you ordered them online, maybe you can print
out the photo and put it in the card, with some jokey remark
about snail mail.
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Re: Birthday Outing but Gift is Delayed
By: NyaChan Date: March 29, 2021, 8:38 am
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Thanks everyone. I really liked the placeholder idea - I think
I’ll pick up a cute birthday cupcake or something yummy from the
bakery so it’s not “just” a card and then give the real gift
when it arrives (hopefully...) appreciate the suggestions!!
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Re: Birthday Outing but Gift is Delayed
By: TootsNYC Date: March 29, 2021, 10:19 am
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I do the placeholder thing all the time.
once when the bridal-shower gift was flatware from their
registry, I bought a couple of nice bamboo disposable flatware
from the grocery store and wrapped those with a note.
Or I've printed out the web page from the actual product, or
maybe a review page (once, for a nursing pillow, I did this)
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