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Re: Dinner party at 4.30pm?
By: Lilipons Date: March 23, 2021, 9:59 am
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When I was a child our dinner time was around 5PM. That was
when Dad got home from work and he wanted his meal. That was
also the time for go to the dining room at the Senior living
community where MIL and FIL lived.
At home, we usually eat dinner about 7 PM. Before we retired I
would get home from work around 5 and cook dinner. We’d have
time for a drink around 6 before we ate.
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Re: Dinner party at 4.30pm?
By: LifeOnPluto Date: March 28, 2021, 1:08 am
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UPDATE:
Thanks for your responses, everyone! It is interesting to hear
how so many people eat dinner early (or would prefer to eat
dinner early). Anything before 6pm is definitely off the table
for me on a weeknight (pun fully intended), as I'd still be
coming home from work - or possibly still at work if it's busy.
The dinner party was yesterday. All the guests arrived around
4.15pm, and as it turned out, we didn't eat dinner until just
after 5pm anyway. I also found out the reason for the early meal
time. Shortly after everyone arrived, the Hostess made a remark
that she thought it would be a great idea to eat at a "family
friendly" time - given that two of our friends (Zoe and Zack)
have a 7 year old son (Joey) who was also invited. (Note, he was
the only child present. The rest of us are adults, mostly in our
30s/early 40s).
At this, Zoe and Zack exchanged rather bemused looks. And Zoe
said something like: "That's very kind, but there was really no
need! Joey normally eats dinner with us at 7pm at home."
Zack also chuckled and added: "Yeah, Joey's a night owl. He'd
probably prefer to eat later anyway."
Funnily enough, all us grown ups tucked into our dinner, but
Joey only took a few bites, then went off to play. (He came back
later in the evening, and finished his meal. It seems Zoe and
Zack were right about him preferring to eat later!!)
The food was delicious and it was a nice evening. The Hostess is
a lovely person, and her heart was in the right place. I guess
she just made a (not unreasonable) assumption about what time
small children normally eat dinner, then planned the party
around that.
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Re: Dinner party at 4.30pm? Update p21
By: Aleko Date: March 28, 2021, 7:23 am
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It's a foul fault to go out of one's way to do kindnesses to
people without making sure they want them done. Even more so if
you make other people go out of their ways too.
And it's lucky she made her remark when Zoe and Zack as well as
all the rest of the company were in earshot, so that you all
know that she had come up with this idea without checking with
them. If she had said 'We're eating early on account of Zoe and
Zack's child' when they weren't there, you all might have been
left with the impression that either Joey was so cranky or his
parents were so 'everything must revolve around Our Precious
Child's schedule!' that it was the only way they would come at
all.
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Re: Dinner party at 4.30pm? Update p21
By: Winterlight Date: March 28, 2021, 4:40 pm
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It sounds like Hostess meant well but should have checked with
the parents first.
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Re: Dinner party at 4.30pm? Update p21
By: NyaChan Date: March 29, 2021, 8:47 am
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[quote author=Aleko link=topic=2013.msg64956#msg64956
date=1616934198]
It's a foul fault to go out of one's way to do kindnesses to
people without making sure they want them done. Even more so if
you make other people go out of their ways too.
And it's lucky she made her remark when Zoe and Zack as well as
all the rest of the company were in earshot, so that you all
know that she had come up with this idea without checking with
them. If she had said 'We're eating early on account of Zoe and
Zack's child' when they weren't there, you all might have been
left with the impression that either Joey was so cranky or his
parents were so 'everything must revolve around Our Precious
Child's schedule!' that it was the only way they would come at
all.
[/quote]
I know there are situations where people have gone over the top,
but this one isn’t that big of a deal to me. A few adults who
as far as we know have ready access to food ate dinner a couple
hours earlier than they’d have preferred. That’s all.
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