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Covid Groceries (A Brimstone What Would You Do)
By: DaDancingPsych Date: January 29, 2021, 8:17 am
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This is really a conversation starter, but I am curious what
Brimstoners think. At the start of the covid, Albert and Tina
had a conversation. They agreed that if the other became exposed
and needed to remain quarantined that the other would deliver
groceries. Albert became ill (no evidence of covid, but flu like
symptoms) and did not feel comfortable going to the grocery
store. He called upon Tina to fulfill the promise. She dropped
everything, went out and purchased the few requested items, and
delivered them. What should Albert do?
1)
correct amount.
2)
to Tina.
3)
offering money.
4)
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Re: Covid Groceries (A Brimstone What Would You Do)
By: Starry Diadem Date: January 29, 2021, 8:24 am
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He should reimburse the correct amount.
I'd probably not bother asking for a receipt, on the basis that
if I trusted Tina enough to make the arrangement in the first
place, I'd trust her not to inflate my bill. But he absolutely
owes Tina the correct amount of money: no guesses, no pretending
she's filled his larder as a gift.
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Re: Covid Groceries (A Brimstone What Would You Do)
By: Luci Date: January 29, 2021, 8:51 am
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At first I got the receipt and then paid DIL the cash, then I
just gave her one of the credit cards and she used it. No matter
who, the receipt is expected, and our items on a separate
receipt from theirs.
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Re: Covid Groceries (A Brimstone What Would You Do)
By: TootsNYC Date: January 29, 2021, 9:20 am
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He should reimburse her.
Whether he should ask for the receipt...I think there is nothing
negative in asking, "Do you have the receipt? I want to pay you
back." The receipt is the easiest way to be accurate, because
it's written down. There are no worries that he'll underestimate
prices, or that she'll round down so as not to offend him.
Tina should not take offense at being asked for the receipt; in
fact, she should offer it if he doesn't ask. For one, that's a
way to make clear she DOES expect to be reimbursed, and for
another, that's an easy way to be accurate.
Nobody wants to feel taken advantage of either direction.
I know people laugh at me with my "Thou shalt not covet" stuff,
but that is at the core here. Neither of them should act in a
way that leaves the other wondering if they are the target of
covetous behavior. That is SO damaging to relationships. It's
more damaging than a lack of superfluous generosity (which is
what assuming Tina will pay would be, for example).
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Re: Covid Groceries (A Brimstone What Would You Do)
By: NFPwife Date: January 29, 2021, 9:24 am
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I'd shoot Tina a message, thank her for the groceries and fast
drop off and then say, "I'm going to Venmo you, what do I owe
you?" If she said "Don't worry about it," I'd "push" three
times. The third time I'd take the no. (In my FOO, it's one
time, but I've learned a LOT marrying into a big ethnic family.
Three nos is one of those things.)
If she didn't give me a dollar amount, I'd guesstimate a little
high and send that money.
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Re: Covid Groceries (A Brimstone What Would You Do)
By: BeagleMommy Date: January 29, 2021, 9:26 am
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Albert should reimburse Tina for the amount she paid. If he
wants the receipt there is no reason he should not have it.
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Re: Covid Groceries (A Brimstone What Would You Do)
By: Aleko Date: January 29, 2021, 9:54 am
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He should totally ask her to tell him how much she spent (ask
for the receipt or not, as he pleases) and reimburse her. If she
won’t say, he can estimate roughly how much the groceries
should have cost, add at least 50%, and give her that. If she
protests ‘But, but, but they didn’t cost nearly that
much, I can’t accept that!’, he says ‘Okay, so
tell me how much they did cost?’
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Re: Covid Groceries (A Brimstone What Would You Do)
By: Hmmm Date: January 29, 2021, 9:59 am
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When Albert called to thank Tina, he should have asked how much
he owed her and how she would like him to transfer the money to
her. If Tina intended as a gift, she can indicate then. Asking
for the receipt is a bit tacky to me.
I don't see how Tina would be insulted to be offered to repay.
She did not initiate the request. If Tina had called and said
"Sorry your feeling unwell. I'd like to bring you dinner. Is
tonight good." then it would probably be a gift and she might
feel insulted if he offered to reimburse if it was a home made
meal.
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Re: Covid Groceries (A Brimstone What Would You Do)
By: Lilipons Date: January 29, 2021, 10:46 am
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I agree with all the others. Albert certainly needs to
reimburse Tina.
The receipt might not always be needed or even appropriate.
Tina could have merged Albert’s order with her own. Untangling
that knot could be a real problem.
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Re: Covid Groceries (A Brimstone What Would You Do)
By: gramma dishes Date: January 29, 2021, 10:51 am
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[quote author=BeagleMommy link=topic=1983.msg63180#msg63180
date=1611933988]
Albert should reimburse Tina for the amount she paid. If he
wants the receipt there is no reason he should not have it.
[/quote]
And round up to at least the nearest $5 to help compensate for
her time and her gas or whatever.
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