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Gift given twice
By: irises08 Date: January 4, 2021, 9:43 am
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A friend gave me a gift for my birthday two years ago. This
past Christmas, she gave me the same gift (a book). What to do?
Say nothing and let it go or tell her? Thanks.
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Re: Gift given twice
By: Luci Date: January 4, 2021, 10:04 am
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Say nothing. Just thank her and carry on. She will just feel
stupid. We make enough odd moves in our lives, so why burden her
with one more thing?
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Re: Gift given twice
By: sandisadie Date: January 4, 2021, 10:57 am
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I agree not to tell her. You could just pass the duplicate on
to another friend, or donate it to your local library.
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Re: Gift given twice
By: STiG Date: January 4, 2021, 11:21 am
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I agree; don't mention it. At this point. If she gives you the
same book again, you might want to bring it up because it may be
an indication of memory issues for friend, which could be
nothing or could be more serious.
If she sent it with a gift receipt, you could see about
exchanging it for something you haven't read but if not,
re-gifting or donating are good options.
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Re: Gift given twice
By: Gellchom Date: January 4, 2021, 11:59 am
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Why would you say anything to her? What good would come of
that? It would only embarrass her - or, worse, she might feel
like she should buy you another gift.
Just do the same thing as you would if two different people gave
you the same book. Exchange it or regift it.
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Re: Gift given twice
By: ZekailleTasker Date: January 4, 2021, 12:04 pm
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As someone who has received, not just the same shirt...but the
EXACT SAME SHIRT (because I gave it away to the thrift store
five years later and my friend bought it again and gave it to me
again)...just smile, say thanks...and then, if you are like
me...MAIL it to someone across the country to take to their
GoodWill....
Or there was the year two people both gave me the same figurine.
I thanked both, gave one away and they both think the figurine
is the one they gave me and as they are from two different
groups of friends, it is unlikely they will see the item at the
same time......
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Re: Gift given twice
By: Rose Red Date: January 4, 2021, 12:39 pm
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I agree not to say anything.
If she's a good friend who is usually thoughtful, she just
forgot and didn't mean anything by it. No use making her feel
bad for something small like a book.
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Re: Gift given twice
By: Oz Diva Date: January 4, 2021, 3:21 pm
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Maybe she likes it so much she thinks you’d like to read it
twice. ;D
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Re: Gift given twice
By: irises08 Date: January 4, 2021, 6:19 pm
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Thanks everyone. Agree. I will say nothing and write a thank
you note as I usually do. Grace iis so important. especially in
these tough times. No one needs more on their plate than
necessary.
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Re: Gift given twice
By: NFPwife Date: January 4, 2021, 9:50 pm
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[quote author=irises08 link=topic=1971.msg62327#msg62327
date=1609805949]
Thanks everyone. Agree. I will say nothing and write a thank
you note as I usually do. Grace iis so important. especially in
these tough times. No one needs more on their plate than
necessary.
[/quote]
I'm glad you arrived at this decision. I have a friend who is
highly critical of gifts. I bought her a coffee gift card
because she loves coffee and coffee shops but won't treat
herself. I thought she would enjoy it and it would give her
permission to enjoy a coffee. Nope. She told me the coffee shop
in their town wasn't really close to her. She wanted me to take
it back and gift her something else. (She's asked directly about
other things, this was more hint-ish.) I said, "I'm sure you'll
figure something out. You drive a lot, I bet you'll see one when
you're out." A while later she messaged to say she finally
figured out how to use the card - she bought ground coffee she
could use at home to make coffee. That way she stretched the
card value as far as possible.
That was the last gift I bought her.
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