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Re: In the time of Corona... Hostess adds additional guests
By: DaDancingPsych Date: December 22, 2020, 6:34 am
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I agree, the big problem is that this is a violation of the
social bubble contract. As a pod, you are agreeing to only
physically socialize with those within the bubble. Adding people
to the bubble should be very rare and not handled so lightly.
Also, you should have the same "covid values" as those in your
bubble. It appears that not all units are on the same page about
this, which makes me wonder if they are handling other issues
differently. Part of being in a bubble together is a level of
trust. I really believe... know that those in my pod are only
taking necessary risks, which are always shared with me. Doing
something outside of those risks (like adding another couple)
are always discussed.
Safety trumps etiquette and covid etiquette is often different
than what we are used to. I think that the other couple messed
up. Adding people should have been discussed with everyone. I
think that the hostess messed up. At the very least, she should
have said that she needed to run this by the LW couple. And
while I certainly think the LW is entitled to be upset, I think
pulling the atomic option in such a dramatic fashion was not
necessary. I think an open conversation with the social circle
was warranted. The LW may have still decided to leave the pod,
but ending the friendships all together seems like an
overreaction.
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Re: In the time of Corona... Hostess adds additional guests
By: Hmmm Date: December 22, 2020, 10:33 am
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I like the term social bubble contract. I agree that it feels
the hostess and the other couple either didn't buy into the
contract or they were both ok with expanding the contract.
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Re: In the time of Corona... Hostess adds additional guests
By: nuku Date: December 22, 2020, 12:14 pm
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As someone who works for a public health agency, I agree that
the hostess was rude in this case. The couples were part of a
bubble, & the hostess broke it. My family isn't even getting
together for Christmas this year, due to concerns about COVID &
our relatives with health problems that could cause
complications. (I was so happy that my mom broached the topic, &
I didn't have to explain that I wasn't coming home for the
holidays because I love her too much to risk it.) A bubble is a
social contract that the hostess is breaking.
If you live in an area with a low infection rate, respecting the
protocols & bubbles is what will keep that rate down.
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Re: In the time of Corona... Hostess adds additional guests
By: jpcher Date: December 22, 2020, 2:39 pm
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[quote author=GardenGal link=topic=1956.msg61813#msg61813
date=1608594377]
[quote author=jpcher link=topic=1956.msg61804#msg61804
date=1608579386]
I agree with Abby that hostess did not need to ask other guests
about who is on the invite list.
However, hostess was polite in telling other guests that extra
people would be invited. This, I believe is imperative and
allows other guests to bow out.
My SIL & BIL were in the same situation. They were invited to
friends home for a meal. This was a friend (couple) that they
had seen often enough during the pandemic and knew their safety
habits, so they felt safe enough.
Friend invited another couple and did not inform S&BIL. So S&BIL
were a bit surprised with new people that they did not know. Not
wanting to be rude, they stuck it out. Mostly wore masks but
food was involved.
A few days later Friend called S&BIL to let them know that one
of the other couple was tested positive.
Both S&BIL tested positive about a week later.
Not rude to invite whomever you want to invite to your own
dinner party.
Rude (during the pandemic) to not notify your guests that others
will be attending.
[/quote]
I hope your S & BIL make complete and speedy recoveries and
didn't transmit it to anyone in the days before they were
tested. In the time of this deadly pandemic, safety trumps
etiquette, and under these circumstances no one should be
worried about appearing rude when the alternative is putting
their health at risk.
[/quote]
Thank you for asking. S&BIL self isolated as soon as they heard
that they were around someone that tested positive. They
normally self isolate anyway, doing only necessary shopping
trips. They waited the incubation period before getting tested
themselves.
A few days after testing positive BIL was in bad shape. SIL
called EMTs and he was hospitalized for a week or so. He's on
the mend, but slowly.
SIL was asymptomatic, other than a bit of fatigue (boredom?) she
said she felt fine.
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