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Re: I don’t celebrate any holidays- so you can’t either...
By: Aleko Date: December 17, 2020, 11:42 am
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[quote]Another was frustrated by comments like "What a wonderful
costume! Are you performing somewhere?" She chose to dress in
re-creations of a particular time period. [/quote]
What an idiot! Dress like a performer, people will assume you
are a performer. Deal with it.
That said, bless old England. A few years ago now I was still
in an 18th-century living history group and we were asked to do
a one-day gig in an 18th-century house belonging to the
municipal museum. One of us was getting married, and as we
arrived she spotted a branch of Monsoon 10 yards or so down the
high street from the house. She was keen to visit it because she
had recently seen in the shop window of another branch a white
silk two-piece skirt suit that looked just like the kind of
thing she wanted for a wedding outfit. So on our lunch break we
walked down the high street in our wigs and hoop petticoats and
into the boutique and located the suit she was interested in.
Despite the traffic hazard we couldn't help but cause (they
don't lay out boutique aisles for the convenience of ladies in
hoops), not a person blinked, never mind stared, let alone did
anything so impolite as to make any comment about our choice of
Saturday-shopping outfits. (Though, unlike your friend, we
wouldn't have minded a bit if they had.)
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Re: I don’t celebrate any holidays- so you can’t either...
By: mime Date: December 17, 2020, 3:29 pm
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[quote author=cymbaline246 link=topic=1940.msg61654#msg61654
date=1608213517]
On another forum, sewists were discussing other folks' reactions
to the clothes they created. One actually said she was offended
by any reaction verbalized at all, because she didn't dress to
impress people, it wasn't her responsibility to provide a
pleasing appearance to others, and nobody should say anything.
[sigh] Another was frustrated by comments like "What a wonderful
costume! Are you performing somewhere?" She chose to dress in
re-creations of a particular time period. I used to smile and
say something like "Pretty outfit" when I saw a dress or
ensemble that inspired the comment, but not any more.
[/quote]
I suggest you don't let people like this stop you from giving
compliments. Don't be bent to their will and set aside your own
nature and way of connecting with people, just because they
choose to take it in the worst way possible. They have no right
to impose that on others. Just remember to avoid complimenting
that person, and if someone is bothered by a comment offered in
kindness, that's on them. :)
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Re: I don’t celebrate any holidays- so you can’t either...
By: lakey Date: December 19, 2020, 1:41 pm
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[quote][quote]who all received anonymous letters from a neighbor
complaining that the Christmas lights decorating homes are cruel
symbols of privilege to those who CAN'T AFFORD A SIMILAR
DISPLAY[/quote][/quote]
The beauty of outdoors Christmas displays is that they can be
enjoyed by everyone, including people who can't afford to do
their own. The neighbors across the street from me have their
front yard and the front of their house covered in lighted
decorations and other items. I get the pleasure of enjoying it
for an entire month. Even my dog sometimes stands at the picture
window staring.
Some of the people who are offended at everything are doing it
to get attention. The best way to deal with attention seeking
behavior is to ignore it.
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Re: I don’t celebrate any holidays- so you can’t either...
By: Lilipons Date: December 19, 2020, 2:06 pm
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I remember going to the Dyer Heights holiday display a few years
ago. It was a wonderful thing, if a bit surreal. People of all
religious persuasions were there. Orthodox Jews and women
wearing hijabs were there with their husbands pushing strollers.
The display was so well-known that there were even tourist
buses from Manhattan parked at the edge of the neighborhood.
Although vehicular traffic is banned, residents do have to get
in and out. Mr. Pons once directed traffic while a local lady
backed out of her driveway.
“Wow! This must drive you nuts!”
‘Well, it does but it’s only for a few weeks and it makes so
many people happy”.
I think that says a lot about the value of holiday lights.
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Re: I don’t celebrate any holidays- so you can’t either...
By: Aleko Date: December 20, 2020, 5:07 am
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[quote]The beauty of outdoors Christmas displays is that they
can be enjoyed by everyone, including people who can't afford to
do their own.[/quote]
Maybe Americans who light up their houses at Christmas have
better taste than Brits: sadly I don’t think I’ve ever seen a
heavily-lit British house that wasn’t grotesquely tacky and
ugly. It’s a Dolly Parton thing; people spend thousands of
pounds to make their displays look cheap, piling on more and
more cheap plastic ornaments and lights in horribly-clashing
colours, and I look at it and think, ‘For a tenth of the money
and with a little thought you could have made something truly
lovely. But instead you did this. Why?’
Public Christmas lights in Britain are often beautifully
designed (when the authority has either a bit of money to spend
or commercial sponsorship, and doesn’t just drag the same old
tut out of storage every December), and large department stores
almost always are. But when it comes to lights on private
houses, the more the nastier is the rule.
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