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Re: Christmas and grief
By: Hanna Date: November 12, 2020, 7:24 pm
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I think anything you do to reach out to them is lovely. I’m
grieving also and I appreciate the connections and people
telling me they are thinking about my brother.
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Re: Christmas and grief
By: Winterlight Date: November 12, 2020, 7:55 pm
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I think it's a lovely idea. They may very well not be up for
cooking.
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Re: Christmas and grief
By: Kimberami Date: November 13, 2020, 7:15 am
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Thank you for the responses. It has been a rough time. Due to
COVID restrictions, I wasn't able to attend my friend's funeral.
We did have a small memorial for him at work.
I met my friend through work, and I don't know his wife and son
very well. I decided to send two cards. In his son's card, I am
going to include a story about my friend. It's a funny story
that I think his son might appreciate. In his wife's card, I am
going to include a gift card to a local take away place. I have
another story for her. He loved them so much. It breaks my heart
that a young man in the prime of his life can be gone that
quickly.
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Re: Christmas and grief
By: Hmmm Date: November 13, 2020, 11:23 am
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[quote author=Kimpossible link=topic=1917.msg60111#msg60111
date=1605273313]
Thank you for the responses. It has been a rough time. Due to
COVID restrictions, I wasn't able to attend my friend's funeral.
We did have a small memorial for him at work.
I met my friend through work, and I don't know his wife and son
very well. I decided to send two cards. In his son's card, I am
going to include a story about my friend. It's a funny story
that I think his son might appreciate. In his wife's card, I am
going to include a gift card to a local take away place. I have
another story for her. He loved them so much. It breaks my heart
that a young man in the prime of his life can be gone that
quickly.
[/quote]
That is lovely. For some reason, I assumed by "family" you were
referring to his parents. I'm sure his wife and son with greatly
appreciate the gesture. As a grieving widow with a child, I'm
sure the wife will love having a card to pick up a meal without
trying to figure out a dinner plan.
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Re: Christmas and grief
By: SnappyLT Date: November 13, 2020, 5:46 pm
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[quote author=Kimpossible link=topic=1917.msg60111#msg60111
date=1605273313]
Thank you for the responses. It has been a rough time. Due to
COVID restrictions, I wasn't able to attend my friend's funeral.
We did have a small memorial for him at work.
I met my friend through work, and I don't know his wife and son
very well. I decided to send two cards. In his son's card, I am
going to include a story about my friend. It's a funny story
that I think his son might appreciate. In his wife's card, I am
going to include a gift card to a local take away place. I have
another story for her. He loved them so much. It breaks my heart
that a young man in the prime of his life can be gone that
quickly.
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Yes, yes, yes! Please do tell the stories.
I still remember two of my mother's co-workers who chatted with
me before her memorial service and told me little stories about
their experiences with my mother.
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Re: Christmas and grief
By: LifeOnPluto Date: November 13, 2020, 11:13 pm
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I'm so sorry for your loss, OP.
And yes, cards for your friend's wife and child would be a
lovely gesture!
At first I was divided on the restaurant gift card. Like others,
I was picturing his family being his parents, for some reason,
and it just felt a little odd. But somehow it seems more
acceptable if we're talking about a new-ish widow with a minor
child here. As Hmmm said upthread, it saves her having to sort
out a dinner plan - and gives her a night off.
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Re: Christmas and grief
By: bopper Date: November 15, 2020, 11:16 am
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My husband died this August and I would say it would be very
very appreciated to send a restaurant gift card and "thinking of
you" cards....there is a ton of support/outpourings of
generosity at first, and then it fades away. That doesn't mean
the family still isn't struggling later on. Most restaurants
have take out so it is still covid-friendly. I look at is as
not "random" but sending them a meal...one that they don't have
to find room for in the freezer and can eat whenever.
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