DIR Return Create A Forum - Home
---------------------------------------------------------
Bad Manners and Brimstone
HTML https://badmanners.createaforum.com
---------------------------------------------------------
*****************************************************
DIR Return to: Family and Children
*****************************************************
#Post#: 59526--------------------------------------------------
Re: You Are Chasing Me Away
By: bopper Date: October 29, 2020, 3:14 pm
---------------------------------------------------------
"I don't want to chase you away" ....."Excellent! I don't want
to go away. Perhaps it is time to subscribe to twitter and
express your thoughts there."
and if he starts up then get up and move to another room.
#Post#: 59531--------------------------------------------------
Re: You Are Chasing Me Away
By: Rose Red Date: October 29, 2020, 4:20 pm
---------------------------------------------------------
I just saw this thread. I also just posted about muting my tv
during political commercials in the "things that annoy you"
thread. So I know exactly how you're feeling. Your DH is rude
and I would be screaming or crying by now. I'm exhausted by all
the current hate and violence and mud slinging on the news so I
don't watch, but forced to listen to comments from members of
the household just make it worse.
#Post#: 59534--------------------------------------------------
Re: You Are Chasing Me Away
By: Lilipons Date: October 29, 2020, 5:49 pm
---------------------------------------------------------
Mr. Pons and I back the same candidate but he feels he must
comment on each and every story on the TV news. It doesn’t
matter if the story is about politics, a shark attack or a
homeless kid accepted by an Ivy League school. The lead
sentence is spoken and he’s off!
He thinks I don’t want to talk to him. I enjoy a discussion
but I would like to hear the story we’re discussing before I
hear his take on it.
It’s driving me nuts to the point where I’m considering looking
into closed captioning.
#Post#: 59541--------------------------------------------------
Re: You Are Chasing Me Away
By: oogyda Date: October 30, 2020, 7:34 am
---------------------------------------------------------
I find it really difficult to apply etiquette standards to
long-term, emotional relationships. Yes, certain standards of
courtesy are to be expected, but one should be able to ease up
when in their own home.
That's a long way around saying I don't think your DH is being
rude. I DO think he's being inconsiderate in continuing a
behavior that you've stated a dislike for. I ABSOLUTELY think
he's being manipulative in pouting when you very willingly and
eagerly decide to leave the situation.
Edited to add:
I don't know your situation regarding COVID-19 restrictions.
Are you spending a lot more time together due to working at home
or general stay-at-home guidelines? Perhaps that may be adding
to, or amplifying the annoyance.
When DH served on submarines in the US Navy, he had a regular
schedule of X months offboard and X months onboard. During his
first shore duty assignment (not attached to a ship and not
going to sea), I noticed I was getting a little snippy with him
after X+1 months. I was used to a certain schedule and told him
"It's time for you to go." He joined a golf league.
#Post#: 59543--------------------------------------------------
Re: You Are Chasing Me Away
By: BeagleMommy Date: October 30, 2020, 7:57 am
---------------------------------------------------------
[quote author=oogyda link=topic=1906.msg59541#msg59541
date=1604061261]
I find it really difficult to apply etiquette standards to
long-term, emotional relationships. Yes, certain standards of
courtesy are to be expected, but one should be able to ease up
when in their own home.
That's a long way around saying I don't think your DH is being
rude. I DO think he's being inconsiderate in continuing a
behavior that you've stated a dislike for. I ABSOLUTELY think
he's being manipulative in pouting when you very willingly and
eagerly decide to leave the situation.
Edited to add:
I don't know your situation regarding COVID-19 restrictions.
Are you spending a lot more time together due to working at home
or general stay-at-home guidelines? Perhaps that may be adding
to, or amplifying the annoyance.
When DH served on submarines in the US Navy, he had a regular
schedule of X months offboard and X months onboard. During his
first shore duty assignment (not attached to a ship and not
going to sea), I noticed I was getting a little snippy with him
after X+1 months. I was used to a certain schedule and told him
"It's time for you to go." He joined a golf league.
[/quote]
BD works from home, but I've been back at my office since
September so we are away from each other during the day. He
does this every election, but this year he has been particularly
vicious in his commentary.
#Post#: 59555--------------------------------------------------
Re: You Are Chasing Me Away
By: STiG Date: October 30, 2020, 11:45 am
---------------------------------------------------------
[quote author=oogyda link=topic=1906.msg59541#msg59541
date=1604061261]
...I noticed I was getting a little snippy with him after X+1
months. I was used to a certain schedule and told him "It's
time for you to go." He joined a golf league.
[/quote]
That's hilarious! ;D
#Post#: 59556--------------------------------------------------
Re: You Are Chasing Me Away
By: Kimberami Date: October 30, 2020, 12:17 pm
---------------------------------------------------------
You could always try a spray bottle. Use it with a firm "No!"
I'm only half joking. ;)
I'm having a similar problem. DH is driving me crazy about the
election.
#Post#: 59581--------------------------------------------------
Re: You Are Chasing Me Away
By: kckgirl Date: October 30, 2020, 9:24 pm
---------------------------------------------------------
[quote author=oogyda link=topic=1906.msg59541#msg59541
date=1604061261]When DH served on submarines in the US Navy, he
had a regular schedule of X months offboard and X months
onboard. During his first shore duty assignment (not attached
to a shilor p and not going to sea), I noticed I was getting a
little snippy with him after X+1 months. I was used to a
certain schedule and told him "It's time for you to go." He
joined a golf league.
[/quote]
Mine had the same type schedule. When they came home, everybody
on board hated everybody on board. It was so bad that I was
embarrassed when another sailor asked for a ride because his car
broke down. He lived in the same town we lived in 30+ miles
away. The answer to that request was, "see you later."
#Post#: 59631--------------------------------------------------
Re: You Are Chasing Me Away
By: wolfie Date: November 1, 2020, 9:37 am
---------------------------------------------------------
[quote author=Lilipons link=topic=1906.msg59534#msg59534
date=1604011784]
Mr. Pons and I back the same candidate but he feels he must
comment on each and every story on the TV news. It doesn’t
matter if the story is about politics, a shark attack or a
homeless kid accepted by an Ivy League school. The lead
sentence is spoken and he’s off!
He thinks I don’t want to talk to him. I enjoy a discussion
but I would like to hear the story we’re discussing before I
hear his take on it.
It’s driving me nuts to the point where I’m considering looking
into closed captioning.
[/quote]
on most tvs it's just an option in the menu. I have it on
because I was watching a show and I couldn't understand the
accent and then never took it off.
#Post#: 59668--------------------------------------------------
Re: You Are Chasing Me Away
By: AliciaLynette Date: November 2, 2020, 2:12 am
---------------------------------------------------------
[quote author=wolfie link=topic=1906.msg59631#msg59631
date=1604245079]
[quote author=Lilipons link=topic=1906.msg59534#msg59534
date=1604011784]
Mr. Pons and I back the same candidate but he feels he must
comment on each and every story on the TV news. It doesn’t
matter if the story is about politics, a shark attack or a
homeless kid accepted by an Ivy League school. The lead
sentence is spoken and he’s off!
He thinks I don’t want to talk to him. I enjoy a discussion
but I would like to hear the story we’re discussing before I
hear his take on it.
It’s driving me nuts to the point where I’m considering looking
into closed captioning.
[/quote]
on most tvs it's just an option in the menu. I have it on
because I was watching a show and I couldn't understand the
accent and then never took it off.
[/quote]
In the UK, it's called subtitles, and there's usually a button
on the remote which brings up the menu for subtitles & action
description ( two separate options). I started using subtitles
on everything when Child was little, because it meant I didn't
miss anything while she was making noise playing. I credit part
of her reading early and well as down to her looking at the
subtitles and saying 'That doesn't say what the character said!'
*****************************************************
DIR Next Page