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#Post#: 59490--------------------------------------------------
You Are Chasing Me Away
By: BeagleMommy Date: October 29, 2020, 9:26 am
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I cannot wait until this election is over just so BeagleDaddy
will shut up! Can my fellow Brimstoners tell me if he's being
rude or if I'm overreacting. I'm not sure any more.
BD is very vocal about his political feelings. I don't like
discussing politics with anyone and choose to keep my political
opinions private.
When we're watching TV together BD will shout at the political
commercials that don't favor his choice of candidate, call the
opposing candidate names that he thinks are hilariously funny
but are really just nasty, or loudly proclaim that his
candidate's commercials are the only ones telling the truth.
Frankly, it's exhausting. I've asked him, more times than I can
count, to please refrain from doing this while I'm watching TV
with him. He'll apologize and promise not to do it any more but
as soon as the next political ad comes on he's back at it. This
morning I told him I am not going to sit in the same room and
listen to his diatribes any longer. I will take my breakfast
and go watch TV in another room so I can hear the news without
his pontificating.
What I get is "I don't want to chase you away" followed by a
hangdog expression that makes me feel like I'm the jerk.
I'm tired of doing this dance with him. Am I overreacting or is
he being rude?
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Re: You Are Chasing Me Away
By: STiG Date: October 29, 2020, 9:29 am
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He is being rude! You've asked him to stop and he hasn't.
Doesn't really matter what the reason is; if someone continues
to do something in front of you that you've asked them not to,
they're being rude!
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Re: You Are Chasing Me Away
By: Hmmm Date: October 29, 2020, 9:52 am
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He is being rude. You've asked and asked and the only way he
will change if you continue to get up and leave every time he
starts the behavior. Don't say anything. Just get up and leave.
But I'm with you. I'm sick of the nastiness.
#Post#: 59498--------------------------------------------------
Re: You Are Chasing Me Away
By: sandisadie Date: October 29, 2020, 10:15 am
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There are only a few more days to put up with these ads. If it
were me, when he starts his antics I would just quietly get up
and remove myself to another room. Fortunately, everyone in my
household is on the same page with regards to politics. So we
just mute the ads we don't want to hear. Hang in there!
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Re: You Are Chasing Me Away
By: Aleko Date: October 29, 2020, 10:27 am
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You could try doing a Gollum impression every time he starts:
HTML https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V0ai_TKlFBY
He'll have difficulty acting hangdog if you put some thespian
spirit into that.
#Post#: 59502--------------------------------------------------
Re: You Are Chasing Me Away
By: NFPwife Date: October 29, 2020, 10:34 am
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He's being rude and you've found a strategy that works. I'm not
saying he does this intentionally, but he gives you the hang dog
expression to get you to back off the sanction you're
implementing for the behavior. I think you make one more
request when things are calm and then be clear that you're
walking off if it happens. Then, if it happens, walk off for a
specific time. Ignore his verbals/ non-verbals. Stay away for a
set time, return. Happens again, walk off. Personally, I'm not
coming back the after a second or third time. During your
walk-off time, have something enjoyable that you want to do.
Watch a show on another device, read a book, take a long bath.
Bonus points if you can leave the house.
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Re: You Are Chasing Me Away
By: kckgirl Date: October 29, 2020, 10:39 am
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I agree, he is being rude. I would give him one more chance, and
remove myself from the room when he chooses to disregard his
promise. After the one chance, I would refuse to join him to
watch any television that will have commercials until after the
election. He can learn if he really wants to do so.
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Re: You Are Chasing Me Away
By: NFPwife Date: October 29, 2020, 10:51 am
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[quote author=sandisadie link=topic=1906.msg59498#msg59498
date=1603984531]
There are only a few more days to put up with these ads. If it
were me, when he starts his antics I would just quietly get up
and remove myself to another room. Fortunately, everyone in my
household is on the same page with regards to politics. So we
just mute the ads we don't want to hear. Hang in there!
[/quote]
My worry is that if he's highly politically conscious, his
comments will continue. I think there will be loads of
opportunities to yell at the TV in the next month in the US.
Might as well have the plan solidified now.
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Re: You Are Chasing Me Away
By: Luci Date: October 29, 2020, 11:15 am
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My DH is so even tempered that I think he really needs the
outlet when he does the same thing. I just let it go or leave
like you do sometimes and explain what I said above when
confronted.
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Re: You Are Chasing Me Away
By: VorFemme Date: October 29, 2020, 12:13 pm
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VorGuy is doing the same thing - I rarely watch tv anyway - but
at the moment I'm watching HGTV home renovation shows...or no tv
at all. Because, frankly, my dear, I no longer give a
reservoir. We voted Monday and I am very tired of the shouting
at the tv thing. I just go to the sewing room (no tv - although
I could use the computer monitor, if it wasn't tied up with an
embroidery design or a Facebook sewing group).
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