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Basic Hospitality When You're Doing a Favour
By: Morticia Date: October 25, 2020, 10:59 am
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When DS was a child, one set of his grandparents lived a 5 hour
drive away. They were desperate to see their grandson, so LDH
drove 3 hours to a meeting point, and handed off DS. Then, a few
days later, LDH and I drove the 5 hours to pick him up, setting
off just after lunch. We arrived shortly before dinner time.
They offered us a beverage, and then shooed us off, knowing we
had a 5 hour drive home. That was the last time we did this for
them.
Am I wrong in thinking that, since we were doing them a favour,
and we would definitely otherwise have to stop at a restaurant,
they should have at least offered us dinner?
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Re: Basic Hospitality When You're Doing a Favour
By: sandisadie Date: October 25, 2020, 11:24 am
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Of course they should have offered you dinner! Most people, in
my experience, know the basic rules of hospitality, and manners.
There will always be some who do not.
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Re: Basic Hospitality When You're Doing a Favour
By: gramma dishes Date: October 25, 2020, 1:54 pm
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[quote author=Morticia link=topic=1903.msg59347#msg59347
date=1603641569]
When DS was a child, one set of his grandparents lived a 5 hour
drive away. They were desperate to see their grandson, so LDH
drove 3 hours to a meeting point, and handed off DS. Then, a few
days later, LDH and I drove the 5 hours to pick him up, setting
off just after lunch. We arrived shortly before dinner time.
They offered us a beverage, and then shooed us off, knowing we
had a 5 hour drive home. That was the last time we did this for
them.
Am I wrong in thinking that, since we were doing them a favour,
and we would definitely otherwise have to stop at a restaurant,
they should have at least offered us dinner?
[/quote]
Good grief! After a five hour drive they should have not only
provided you with dinner, but if possible an overnight stay so
you all could start refreshed early the next day to come home.
Ten hours of driving in one day is too much! I've done it
twice, but genuinely hated it!
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Re: Basic Hospitality When You're Doing a Favour
By: TootsNYC Date: October 25, 2020, 2:40 pm
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they're your family! Why wouldn't they have wanted you to stay
and have a meal with them? In order to spend time with you?
Favor or no favor. But especially since you were doing them a
favor.
For that matter, I'm a little surprised they didn't suggest you
stay over. If not for your company, then to keep you safe.
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Re: Basic Hospitality When You're Doing a Favour
By: STiG Date: October 25, 2020, 4:23 pm
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Dinner and the offer of a bed overnight would be the least I
would do for someone who drove a couple of hours to do me a
favour, let alone five!
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Re: Basic Hospitality When You're Doing a Favour
By: DaDancingPsych Date: October 25, 2020, 5:03 pm
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Yes, they should have offered you dinner. In fact, I would have
wanted to discuss it with you beforehand. That way if you didn't
want to stay for dinner, I could prepare something for you to
eat on the way home. Or had DS fed. Or so that you could have
given a 20 minute warning so that I could make sure that it was
ready when you got there.
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Re: Basic Hospitality When You're Doing a Favour
By: Winterlight Date: October 25, 2020, 6:06 pm
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I would at the least have had dinner ready when you got there or
shortly after, and offered a bed for the night. If you had to go
back the same day, at least you wouldn't have to starve till you
got home or spend a chunk of money buying dinner out.
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Re: Basic Hospitality When You're Doing a Favour
By: Morticia Date: October 25, 2020, 7:08 pm
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One small clarification. DS is actually my stepson, although
that's not how I think of him, having raised him. The
grandparents were not related to LDH or me.
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Re: Basic Hospitality When You're Doing a Favour
By: gramma dishes Date: October 25, 2020, 8:18 pm
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[quote author=Morticia link=topic=1903.msg59361#msg59361
date=1603670892]
One small clarification. DS is actually my stepson, although
that's not how I think of him, having raised him. The
grandparents were not related to LDH or me.
[/quote]
Whose parents are they then? Your LDH's first wife's parents?
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Re: Basic Hospitality When You're Doing a Favour
By: Morticia Date: October 25, 2020, 9:10 pm
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They weren't married, but yeah. DS's biomom's.
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