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wearing black
By: Rain Date: October 7, 2020, 8:14 pm
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I was brought up (in the the mid-west of the USA) to never wear
black to a wedding. (ps I was born in the 60's)
Am I old school?
I currently work at a women's clothing store & I've had more
than one woman tell me that they've never heard of that rule.
What's the rule "at home"? (tell me where - in general & age
range/decade born)
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Re: wearing black
By: Wanaca Date: October 7, 2020, 8:24 pm
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Grew up on the east coast (rural area) but now live in mid-west.
Born in 60's. I've never seen black at a wedding and wouldn't
wear it to a wedding. I have heard about it being done in large
cities though. I've also seen it in movies (When Harry Met
Sally). I'd be surprised to see it in a small rural wedding.
#Post#: 58611--------------------------------------------------
Re: wearing black
By: gramma dishes Date: October 7, 2020, 8:28 pm
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My daughter was in a wedding last summer. The attendants all
wore black.
I think for evening weddings and receptions it's usually okay.
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Re: wearing black
By: STiG Date: October 7, 2020, 8:29 pm
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Rural area growing up, back in a rural area again with city
living in between.
Born in the late '60s. Never, ever wear black or white to a
wedding, as a female as a kid or now. But in my city living
days in-between, it wasn't unusual to have guests wearing black,
though not usually stark black. There would be some detailing
or coloured accent piece.
I wouldn't do it - I am one of those rare women who look
horrible in black - but I don't see anything wrong with it as
long as it is blinged up or coloured up with accessories.
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Re: wearing black
By: Rose Red Date: October 7, 2020, 10:25 pm
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I've worn the famous little black dress to weddings, but you can
tell it's a party dress and I also wear my burgundy lace jacket
over it. Also sparkly colorful jewelry. I wouldn't wear all
black.
#Post#: 58623--------------------------------------------------
Re: wearing black
By: Rho Date: October 7, 2020, 11:08 pm
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Growing up also in the 60's and 70's outside Chicago----
1982 at my sisters wedding MOG wore a blackish navy blue dress.
It was taken as a message of dissaprouval because black was
NOT worn to weddings.
2008 I bought a black formal dress to wear to neices wedding. I
was mother of 2 out of 4 bridesmaids. (off topic that wedding
cost me more than any other except my own kiddies what with
outfitting everyone plus co-hosting a shower plus attending many
others.)
2010ish freinds daughter was married with 5 bridesmaids all in
different black dresses. I wore a new black lace dress only to
walk in and see a good freind in the exact same dress. We
laughed and said we were the senior bridesmaids. Black was a
popular wedding colour for years afterwards.
#Post#: 58647--------------------------------------------------
Re: wearing black
By: BeagleMommy Date: October 8, 2020, 8:47 am
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I was born in the 60s (northeast PA). I always remember the
general rule was guests/attendants should not wear black or
white to a formal wedding. I believe the rule was that black
meant you disapproved of the marriage and white took attention
away from the bride. However, home movies from my mother's 1964
wedding to my dad showed all her bridesmaids wearing white
dresses with bright pink sashes. My mother was a rebel. ;D
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Re: wearing black
By: TootsNYC Date: October 8, 2020, 10:08 am
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I think part of it may have been the time of day.
A little black dress is the most acceptable of attire for
gatherings in the evening. And most midwestern weddings were
daytime affairs, even the reception. At least for a long time.
I grew up in the Midwest (a teen in the '70s and early '80s) but
was pretty oblivious to social rules, since I left right after
college. But considering that at the funerals I went to then and
after I'd moved (when i went back), very few people wore black,
I really don't get the "don't wear black" rule there. It's not
like black clothes designated mourning!
on the East Coast (since '82-ish), there's nothing more
appropriate for a wedding than a black cocktail dress; I've
never ever seen someone in a black dress that looked like
mourning. They all have sequins or lace or something. There's NO
WAY someone would look like they're sad in those dresses.
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Re: wearing black
By: Rose Red Date: October 8, 2020, 10:55 am
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The Midwest is a large place. Although I'm sure there are
daytime receptions (bbq, luncheon, etc), all the ones I've
attended are in the evening and can last until midnight or
later. So a fancy black dress is appropriate for Midwesterners
too.
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Re: wearing black
By: Wanaca Date: October 8, 2020, 11:32 am
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I always thought the rule against wearing black was based on the
superstition that it would bring the HC bad luck. I don't know
why I thought that.
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