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       Re: How would you respond to this?
       By: jazzgirl205 Date: October 1, 2020, 3:23 pm
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       I take it that this family member never entertains or helps
       someone else prepare for guests.  I moved from a region in the
       US where everyone entertains in their homes to a region where
       people meet at parks or restaurants and you can know someone for
       years without having been to their home.  The people who do not
       entertain make very awkward guests and think nothing of
       canceling last minute because they "just didn't feel up to it."
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       Re: How would you respond to this?
       By: lowspark Date: October 1, 2020, 3:42 pm
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       Just curious, does he usually show up? Or usually not make it?
       His reply is the equivalent of "I'll be there unless something
       better comes along".
       I agree with just not inviting him anymore but I also recognize
       that there may be reasons why you don't want to do that. You can
       try to press him for a more definitive reply, but my guess is
       that if this is his MO, it probably won't work. Also, even if
       you push him and he then commits, there's the possibility that
       he'll still come or not according to his whim or other
       opportunities which pop up. And the possibility that he'll
       cancel at the last minute, or worse, just not bother to show up.
       Or even worse, say no, and then show up anyway!
       All that to say, probably, there's not a lot you can do to
       change this guy's behavior. You can either quit inviting him, or
       just plan around his rudeness.
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       Re: How would you respond to this?
       By: bopper Date: October 14, 2020, 3:26 pm
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       "I'll take that as a no. "
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