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Re: “We just got here.”
DIR By: Lula
Date: September 22, 2020, 12:37 pm
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I'd chalk this up to a bout of obliviousness before anything
else. I certainly wouldn't go into Karen mode unless she
persisted after I'd straightforwardly told her I was nowhere
near being finished with my meal.
Edit: I found a stray word lying around and realized it was
mine.
#Post#: 57783--------------------------------------------------
Re: “We just got here.”
DIR By: Andi_3k
Date: September 22, 2020, 1:08 pm
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It would annoy me and I’d of return- I once had a waitress
bring out boxes and a check WITH our dinners- manager said the
waitress did nothing wrong. I t was one of the few times I
didn’t leave a tip — never went back either
#Post#: 57786--------------------------------------------------
Re: “We just got here.”
DIR By: holly firestorm
Date: September 22, 2020, 2:01 pm
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--- Quote from: Nikko-chan link ---
>
> If she was still snide after you explained you just got here,
I would put down my fork, ask for a manager, and when the
manager arrived I would explain that we would NOT be paying for
our meals, because apparently we weren't supposed to even eat in
the restaurant, and we hadn't even eaten yet, and that I would
be taking my business elsewhere, where it was actually wanted.
Then I would get up and leave, and go somewhere else.
>
--- End Quote ---
You do that nowadays and half the people there would call you a
"Karen."
On the other hand, I would be pretty annoyed if the server gave
me attitude like that, too. I think I'd check how long I was
really there and if I still thought she was unreasonable I'd
bring it up to her/him, like, "We just got our meal 7 minutes
ago. How long do people usually take to eat their lunch?" I
might even suggest to her that a less huffy attitude would
increase her tips. If she still had that attitude then I would
ask to speak to the manager (and to heck with any schoolyard
insults the server or anyone else threw my way) and ask for a
different server, explaining why. I'd only leave without paying
if the manager had the same attitude.
#Post#: 57788--------------------------------------------------
Re: “We just got here.”
DIR By: TootsNYC
Date: September 22, 2020, 2:07 pm
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--- Quote from: Andi_3k link ---
>
> It would annoy me and I’d of return- I once had a waitress
bring out boxes and a check WITH our dinners- manager said the
waitress did nothing wrong. I t was one of the few times I
didn’t leave a tip — never went back either
>
--- End Quote ---
That would actually bother me far less than it would if she came
about 10 or 15 minutes later.
Dropping them all off with the meal feels like an efficiency
thing: "I don't want you to have to flag me down unless you need
something extra."
Maybe it could feel like, "Here, I'm done with you--don't bother
me again," but I wouldn't think that immediately.
Of course, delivery method and words said would greatly
influence that. if she said, "Here you are, just in case. Flag
me if you need anything else," that would be one thing. If she
dropped it off dismissively and walked off without a word, that
would influence it.
Coming when I was halfway through would feel like she thought I
should be done already.
#Post#: 57797--------------------------------------------------
Re: “We just got here.”
DIR By: chigger
Date: September 22, 2020, 3:04 pm
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--- Quote from: Nikko-chan link ---
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> If she was still snide after you explained you just got here,
I would put down my fork, ask for a manager, and when the
manager arrived I would explain that we would NOT be paying for
our meals, because apparently we weren't supposed to even eat in
the restaurant, and we hadn't even eaten yet, and that I would
be taking my business elsewhere, where it was actually wanted.
Then I would get up and leave, and go somewhere else.
>
--- End Quote ---
I think that's a bit extreme!
ETA: OP said the server "seemed offended", she didn't say the
server was "snide" or had an attitude.
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Re: “We just got here.”
DIR By: Gellchom
Date: September 22, 2020, 7:15 pm
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--- Quote from: Rose Red link ---
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> I would have said "no not yet, we're not done yet," and then
gauge her tone and attitude. Sorry, but "we just got here" would
put me on the defensive no matter the tone.
>
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Come to think of it, they didn’t “just get here.” They didn’t
even “just” start eating; they’d been served ten minutes before.
I still agree the waitress jumped the gun. But I can see how
“we just got here” could put her off.
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Re: “We just got here.”
DIR By: Nikko-chan
Date: September 22, 2020, 11:42 pm
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--- Quote from: chigger link ---
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> [quote author=Nikko-chan link=topic=1862.msg57738#msg57738
date=1600746529]
> If she was still snide after you explained you just got here,
I would put down my fork, ask for a manager, and when the
manager arrived I would explain that we would NOT be paying for
our meals, because apparently we weren't supposed to even eat in
the restaurant, and we hadn't even eaten yet, and that I would
be taking my business elsewhere, where it was actually wanted.
Then I would get up and leave, and go somewhere else.
>
--- End Quote ---
I think that's a bit extreme!
ETA: OP said the server "seemed offended", she didn't say the
server was "snide" or had an attitude.
[/quote]
Sorry my bad the OP mentioned that she didnt speak snidely and
that was where i picked it up. Point still stands. Waitress was
offended, and if she (waitress) continued escalating her
behavior the above is what i would do.
#Post#: 57829--------------------------------------------------
Re: “We just got here.”
DIR By: NewHomeowner
Date: September 23, 2020, 6:09 am
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#Post#: 57840--------------------------------------------------
Re: “We just got here.”
DIR By: Hmmm
Date: September 23, 2020, 8:49 am
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--- Quote from: Nikko-chan link ---
>
> [quote author=chigger link=topic=1862.msg57797#msg57797
date=1600805098]
> [quote author=Nikko-chan link=topic=1862.msg57738#msg57738
date=1600746529]
> If she was still snide after you explained you just got here,
I would put down my fork, ask for a manager, and when the
manager arrived I would explain that we would NOT be paying for
our meals, because apparently we weren't supposed to even eat in
the restaurant, and we hadn't even eaten yet, and that I would
be taking my business elsewhere, where it was actually wanted.
Then I would get up and leave, and go somewhere else.
>
--- End Quote ---
I think that's a bit extreme!
ETA: OP said the server "seemed offended", she didn't say the
server was "snide" or had an attitude.
[/quote]
Sorry my bad the OP mentioned that she didnt speak snidely and
that was where i picked it up. Point still stands. Waitress was
offended, and if she (waitress) continued escalating her
behavior the above is what i would do.
[/quote]
The OP perception was that she was offended. It could have been
a look of being stunned by the response. I would assume the OP
would have shared any verbal response given.
So are you saying that with the encounter that was shared you
would just let it go and not do anything?
#Post#: 57903--------------------------------------------------
Re: “We just got here.”
DIR By: LifeOnPluto
Date: September 24, 2020, 5:10 am
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I agree with the OP that I'd feel a bit rushed too! But all
these suggestions of refusing to pay (or tip), or calling for a
manager seem a tad extreme to me. Provided the waitress
otherwise provided decent service, I'd just chalk it up to a
moment of obliviousness, or overzealousness, or what have you.
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