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Re: How to Speak to Someone Regarding a Scent
DIR By: Shores
Date: September 13, 2020, 3:01 pm
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> [quote author=STiG link=topic=1845.msg57086#msg57086
date=1599612631]
> I considered that. But the thing is, I really like her
otherwise and Dad really likes her. I have no idea whether or
not there is an alternate product she can use that doesn't smell
as strong. Plus, right now, the agency is so short staffed that
if I ask that she not come back, we'll be without a visit at all
on this particular day. Whenever she is on holidays, they are
putting out an all call to everyone region wide, not just the
people who work in our direct area, to fill in.
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I'm not sure I think it is fair to ask her to go out of her way
to find a different hair product to accommodate your
sensitivity. If this was someone working in your home daily or
if losing her ability to come to your home would cause her to be
out of work, then I probably would think it ok to come up with a
compromise for both of you.
You can try the your suggested script and ask about covering her
hair. But I just don't think I'd ask her to go to the effort of
finding a different product.
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There is no need to comprise with any outside in your own home.
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Re: How to Speak to Someone Regarding a Scent
DIR By: STiG
Date: September 16, 2020, 3:48 pm
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So she called me yesterday, rather than texted, because she had
a new person shadowing with her to learn the area.
I mentioned that I thought the scent was coming from her hair
products and asked if she could try covering it and that I'd
wear a mask. And she does use a lot of different hair products.
I don't know why people don't consider the scent in their hair,
or other, products. They just assume that since they don't wear
perfume or cologne, that they don't carry a scent.
Anyway, while I still got a couple of whiffs of it, it wasn't as
bad
#Post#: 57494--------------------------------------------------
Re: How to Speak to Someone Regarding a Scent
DIR By: DaDancingPsych
Date: September 16, 2020, 4:04 pm
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--- Quote from: STiG link ---
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> So she called me yesterday, rather than texted, because she
had a new person shadowing with her to learn the area.
>
> I mentioned that I thought the scent was coming from her hair
products and asked if she could try covering it and that I'd
wear a mask. And she does use a lot of different hair products.
I don't know why people don't consider the scent in their hair,
or other, products. They just assume that since they don't wear
perfume or cologne, that they don't carry a scent.
>
> Anyway, while I still got a couple of whiffs of it, it wasn't
as bad
>
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I'm glad that it helped; I hope that it will be the solution
that you are looking for.
As someone who is not scent sensitive, no, I would probably not
think that my hair products may be a problem. I don't really
notice a scent, so it's just not something that I think about.
To me, most products smell normal. Shampoo smells like... well,
shampoo. I am sorry that you may be the person that has to
educate us, but when you don't have someone in your life who is
scent sensitive you just don't know. It's not until we have
someone sensitive in our lives that we even begin to think about
these things and there is a learning curve. And I imagine every
nose is different. While her hair products bother you, that may
not be the same for someone else.
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Re: How to Speak to Someone Regarding a Scent
DIR By: STiG
Date: September 16, 2020, 8:39 pm
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I am sensitive to any artificial scent and to some natural ones.
Soap, shampoo, conditioner, hair spray, hand lotion, deodorant,
laundry detergent, fabric softener, bounce dryer sheets, diesel
fuel and exhaust, fresh asphalt, fresh roof tar, cleaning
products. If it smells, I react to it. I use pods for laundry
and dishwasher and do extra rinses. I'm switching over to scent
free stuff as much as I can but some of the scent free stuff
gives my husband skin reactions, though now that I'm doing that
extra rinse, it doesn't seem to be bothering him.
Essential oils are particularly problematic. Everybody thinks
they are natural. In their natural state, maybe they'd be OK
but in the concentrated state? Brutal. I've read recipes for
making your own products and almost all of them say, 'Add a few
drops of your favourite essential oil.' I can leave that out,
of course, and I am going to look into making some of my own
products but the only 'natural' store in town? Reeks to high
heaven with the essential oils. And I really dislike ordering
stuff on-line.
I shudder every time I see those Downy Unstoppables commercials.
'Leaves your clothes smelling fresh for up to 12 weeks!' i
don't understand why anyone would want their clothes contain
chemicals so they smell for 3 months! Gain detergent scent
bothers me.
I'm good with natural scents, like manure, fresh cut grass, etc.
Some things will make me wrinkle my nose because it smells so
strong but it doesn't trigger me.
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Re: How to Speak to Someone Regarding a Scent
DIR By: jpcher
Date: September 19, 2020, 3:42 pm
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I'm curious because I don't have any scent sensitivity and this
might be a stupid question. Scents breathed in through the nose,
as in smelling the scent, is what triggers the reaction? Is that
true? Or does breathing the scent through the mouth give the
same reaction?
If it's just the smell of the scent (through the nose) that
triggers the reaction I think a simple solution would be to wear
a nose plug during her visits. (Call me ignorant.)
That plus a mask and an air purifier? Maybe?
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Re: How to Speak to Someone Regarding a Scent
DIR By: STiG
Date: September 19, 2020, 9:14 pm
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I get triggered breathing through my mouth, too. It's a
reaction to the organochemical molecules that volatilize into
the air.
An air purifier is an idea; however, it isn't currently in the
budget. I'm still waiting for my disability to kick in and DH
is off work right now, working on a family owned property that
was ordered to be cleaned up by the municipal government. Yeah,
in the middle of a pandemic when construction supplies are in
short supply and only given a month. It's ridiculous but if he
didn't do it, they'd hire someone to do it and add it to the tax
bill. Let's just say that I had some very choice words for this
whole debacle.
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Re: How to Speak to Someone Regarding a Scent
DIR By: malfoyfan13
Date: September 20, 2020, 12:38 am
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I really feel for you because I am exactly the same way.
Essential oils are horrible for me. I went to a bead show in
the Before-Time and this lady was demonstrating essential oil
products (why she was there was a mystery since her product had
nothing to do with beads) and she had the diffuser going. I had
to leave the room immediately. I still had a bad reaction and
was sick the next day. (I wrote the show promoters an email
stating that many people are allergic or can't tolerate
essential oils and that it was not a great idea to let this lady
fill the whole room with the smell.) I can't use most products
with added scent because of this issue. Over time I've found
one air freshener I can tolerate and one Swiffer liquid for my
WetJet, and some no-scent dryer sheets and laundry soap. I can
tolerate Dove soap products.
This hair issue is a thorny one since you can't leave and it's
problematic to ask the lady to change her products. I hope you
are able to work this out. I know from experience with my late
mother that when you find a good caregiver you want to keep her.
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Re: How to Speak to Someone Regarding a Scent
DIR By: STiG
Date: September 20, 2020, 11:49 am
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I'm the same; I can tolerate Dove products, though I need to
leave the bathroom fan going after either of us shower so the
scent doesn't migrate out into the bedroom.
I find laundry and dishwasher pods work because the scent is
pretty contained. I do have to rinse the laundry an extra
couple of times because my machine doesn't rinse the soap out
very well. Once the money situation gets ironed out, we'll have
to start saving for new machines.
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