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Re: What an interesting question aka That's really not any of yo
ur business
By: Kimberami Date: September 10, 2020, 10:14 am
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I'm in a satisfying, fulfilling relationship [sub]with
myself[/sub]
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Re: What an interesting question aka That's really not any of yo
ur business
By: holly firestorm Date: September 18, 2020, 9:28 pm
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Well, thanks for all your feedback on my particular situation.
But, mainly, I posted it to resurrect what I thought was an
interesting subject on EHell. So, I hope other people will post
situations where they do feel/don't feel it's an appropriate
answer in the future.
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Re: What an interesting question aka That's really not any of yo
ur business
By: MarisaWood Date: November 5, 2020, 3:58 pm
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I'm single by choice (at 51!) and have found "I'm not available"
covers a lot of situations. Depending on context, it can mean
"I don't have time for dating right now," or "I have a partner,"
or "I'm not available...TO YOU."
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Re: What an interesting question aka That's really not any of yo
ur business
By: SnappyLT Date: December 25, 2020, 12:19 pm
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[quote author=holly firestorm link=topic=1844.msg57597#msg57597
date=1600482509]
Well, thanks for all your feedback on my particular situation.
But, mainly, I posted it to resurrect what I thought was an
interesting subject on EHell. So, I hope other people will post
situations where they do feel/don't feel it's an appropriate
answer in the future.
[/quote]
I just found this thread today.
I don't remember ever finding that question off-putting. Then
again, I'm male, and ever since I got married I have worn a
wedding ring, so perhaps that makes a difference.
What this whole thread reminded me of today was a question I
asked a fellow-teacher decades ago when I taught school for a
few years. This was back in the late 1980s. Most of the female
teachers at that particular school went by "Miss" or "Mrs." back
then (not "Ms." yet).
For two of those years I taught next door to "Mrs. Brown" (not
her real name). Our lunch periods overlapped, so we often ate
lunch at the same table in the faculty room. Mrs. Brown often
shared humorous stories about her teenage son and daughter. I
didn't notice at first, but later I realized that absolutely
none of Mrs. Brown's family stories included any mention at all
of a Mr. Brown. I figured she was either divorced or a widow and
figured it wasn't any of my business.
I got engaged that year. Sometimes conversations at the lunch
table would turn to married life. I was the youngest teacher and
sometimes there was some gentle, appropriate teasing of me about
how my life would change after my wedding. One day after Mrs.
Brown made a teasing comment about life changing after a
wedding, I threw caution to the wind and asked her: "Mrs. Brown,
I've liked your stories about your son and daughter. I've
noticed you never mention Mr. Brown. Has he passed away?"
That is not the sort of comment I would have usually made.
Perhaps the teasing about marriage led to me feeling more bold
than usual.
Mrs. Brown's reaction was to look absolutly shocked. She was so
surprised at my question. Of course Mr. Brown was alive! They'd
had breakfast together that very morning!
I apologized for shocking her. I said again that I had never
ever heard her mention her husband at all in any of her stories,
and that's why I had wondered.
Mrs Brown forgave me for shocking her. She continued to treat me
kindly. I also remember her mentioning her husband in stories a
few times after that!
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