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#Post#: 58188--------------------------------------------------
Re: Too Many Ding Dongs?
By: ladameestmorte Date: September 29, 2020, 1:16 pm
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Wouldn't it have been easier to just answer the door the first
time and tell them you're not interested? Then you wouldn't
have them coming back several times. One minute of talking
would have saved you stress over a longer period of time.
#Post#: 58191--------------------------------------------------
Re: Too Many Ding Dongs?
By: Gellchom Date: September 29, 2020, 1:55 pm
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[quote author=LadyJaneinMD link=topic=1840.msg58179#msg58179
date=1601378915]
[quote author=DaDancingPsych link=topic=1840.msg57873#msg57873
date=1600885217]
[quote author=LadyJaneinMD link=topic=1840.msg57861#msg57861
date=1600876279]
SO....what I'm getting at is that you are perfectly within your
rights to answer the door and yell at them, very loudly. Don't
be afraid to have your cell phone with you, with the local
police on speed dial. We support you.
[/quote]
I am not sure that I agree with you. True, I was annoyed by the
constant visits, but I am not sure that it grew to needing any
of this. While I didn't welcome the visits, I was not fearful of
my safety. If that was the case, then yes, I think your
suggestions would have been appropriate.
[/quote]
You don't have to be fearful for your safety. You just have to
be sufficiently annoyed with the constant interruptions. You
may not have been, but I was very annoyed just *reading* about
them. No, not at you, at the knockers.
[/quote]
Definitely very annoying, but why should she "yell at them, very
loudly"? They had no way of knowing she wasn't interested
before she told them so.
Why yell, anyway? Just because you might be "within your
rights" to do something doesn't make it a good idea or something
you'll feel good about later. This is a crappy job no one does
if they have a better alternative to make ends meet; why make
their day even worse?
#Post#: 58193--------------------------------------------------
Re: Too Many Ding Dongs?
By: Rose Red Date: September 29, 2020, 2:51 pm
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[quote author=ladameestmorte link=topic=1840.msg58188#msg58188
date=1601403417]
Wouldn't it have been easier to just answer the door the first
time and tell them you're not interested? Then you wouldn't
have them coming back several times. One minute of talking
would have saved you stress over a longer period of time.
[/quote]
In post 33, the OP finally answered her door to talk to them.
They still continued showing up.
I'm not sure if she straight out told them to never come back
though. Hints and ambiguity won't work on sales people. You
can't say you'll look at their pamphlets or "social politeness"
phrases like that and hope they'll get the hint. Vagueness is an
open invitation.
#Post#: 58195--------------------------------------------------
Re: Too Many Ding Dongs?
By: DaDancingPsych Date: September 29, 2020, 3:04 pm
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[quote author=Rose Red link=topic=1840.msg58193#msg58193
date=1601409063]
[quote author=ladameestmorte link=topic=1840.msg58188#msg58188
date=1601403417]
Wouldn't it have been easier to just answer the door the first
time and tell them you're not interested? Then you wouldn't
have them coming back several times. One minute of talking
would have saved you stress over a longer period of time.
[/quote]
In post 33, the OP finally answered her door to talk to them.
They still continued showing up.
I'm not sure if she straight out told them to never come back
though. Hints and ambiguity won't work on sales people. You
can't say you'll look at their pamphlets or "social politeness"
phrases like that and hope they'll get the hint. Vagueness is an
open invitation.
[/quote]
Maybe. If I had answered the door the first time maybe the
visits would have stopped and it would have been easier. I had
no idea that they would return at least seven more times. I was
using an old forum lesson that I am not obligated to answer my
phone when someone calls that it is actually for my convenience.
I figured that lesson also applied to my front door (although
the conscious of this thread has told me that I am wrong.) And I
say maybe because I have answered the door and they have
returned.
I am not sure that I said to not come back. When I did answer
the door I was not hinting. I was very clear that I was not
interested and would not be changing my mind. I suppose that
could be considered a hint for not returning since I may not
have said that specifically. If that is true, I am learning that
I have a lot of responsibility when it comes to handling
door-to-door sales.
#Post#: 58202--------------------------------------------------
Re: Too Many Ding Dongs?
By: chigger Date: September 29, 2020, 5:21 pm
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I live in a very safe area, yet I don't answer my door for
anyone I don't know. Those days are long over! I'm home by
myself quite often, and our door can't be seen from the street,
so I just don't feel comfortable. The last time a man I didn't
know rang the bell over and over, I went to the door with .38 in
hand and told him "I don't know you, please leave" through the
door. He had no way of knowing what I had in my hand, but he
left. No one should be going door to door anymore, IMHO.
#Post#: 58214--------------------------------------------------
Re: Too Many Ding Dongs?
By: DaDancingPsych Date: September 30, 2020, 7:44 am
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[quote author=chigger link=topic=1840.msg58202#msg58202
date=1601418103]
I live in a very safe area, yet I don't answer my door for
anyone I don't know. Those days are long over! I'm home by
myself quite often, and our door can't be seen from the street,
so I just don't feel comfortable. The last time a man I didn't
know rang the bell over and over, I went to the door with .38 in
hand and told him "I don't know you, please leave" through the
door. He had no way of knowing what I had in my hand, but he
left. No one should be going door to door anymore, IMHO.
[/quote]
I feel very similar. I live alone, so it would be nearly
impossible for me to be with someone when someone visits. My car
can be seen and one could assume that I'm home (or not),
although it's parking lot style so often one of the cars in
front of my house is not mine. I previously have felt it better
that I not answer the door if I don't know who it is. (I have
never regretted that.) I have never answered the door to a
stranger and thought it was a delightful visit. And I can't
fault your reaction to that man... that IS scary!
I was once in a facility working with children when someone
knocked / pounded on a back entrance to the building. It's a
fire exit with no window and obviously not the entrance to the
business. I decided to NOT open the door. It was the only
protection that I had between this mystery person and the
children. It ended up being the right decision as it was someone
who was high out of her mind that just had a car accident. Other
people in the shopping plaza were able to help, so it turned out
well.
#Post#: 58222--------------------------------------------------
Re: Too Many Ding Dongs?
By: NFPwife Date: September 30, 2020, 11:28 am
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DaDancingPsych - there are some cute signs on Etsy. I'm thinking
about getting a WFH one.
#Post#: 58237--------------------------------------------------
Re: Too Many Ding Dongs?
By: chigger Date: September 30, 2020, 2:28 pm
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[quote author=DaDancingPsych link=topic=1840.msg58214#msg58214
date=1601469877]
[quote author=chigger link=topic=1840.msg58202#msg58202
date=1601418103]
I live in a very safe area, yet I don't answer my door for
anyone I don't know. Those days are long over! I'm home by
myself quite often, and our door can't be seen from the street,
so I just don't feel comfortable. The last time a man I didn't
know rang the bell over and over, I went to the door with .38 in
hand and told him "I don't know you, please leave" through the
door. He had no way of knowing what I had in my hand, but he
left. No one should be going door to door anymore, IMHO.
[/quote]
I feel very similar. I live alone, so it would be nearly
impossible for me to be with someone when someone visits. My car
can be seen and one could assume that I'm home (or not),
although it's parking lot style so often one of the cars in
front of my house is not mine. I previously have felt it better
that I not answer the door if I don't know who it is. (I have
never regretted that.) I have never answered the door to a
stranger and thought it was a delightful visit. And I can't
fault your reaction to that man... that IS scary!
I was once in a facility working with children when someone
knocked / pounded on a back entrance to the building. It's a
fire exit with no window and obviously not the entrance to the
business. I decided to NOT open the door. It was the only
protection that I had between this mystery person and the
children. It ended up being the right decision as it was someone
who was high out of her mind that just had a car accident. Other
people in the shopping plaza were able to help, so it turned out
well.
[/quote]
Fifteen years ago, we came home from work to find we had been
burglarized, front door kicked in. The police told me it was
probably someone that rang the bell several times before
deciding we weren't home! They believed it was kids(school had
just let out for summer) due to what was stolen, LCD TV's, game
system, my change jar. They did not touch any firearms, my
Really Good jewelry, or a full bottle or prescription pain
pills, all of which were in the open. So that's why I yell
through the door "I don't know you" if they ring the bell more
than once. I truly don't ever want to have to defend myself at
home, because I will "win" they will lose, and I'll have to deal
with my own grief, after the fact.
#Post#: 73735--------------------------------------------------
Re: Too Many Ding Dongs?
By: DaDancingPsych Date: February 13, 2022, 9:32 am
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They're baaaaack!!!
I was surprised by loud knocking on my door during the day and
this thread had previously swayed my thoughts on answering it.
As soon as I swung the door open, there was the Verizon logo. In
that split second, I figured that this thread's advice to tell
them I was not interested would *hopefully* end the
harassment... or at least not restart it. Before I could even
really put my thoughts together they were making fun of my PJ
pants!!! (Hey, you knocked on my door without any invitation,
you get what you get.) And then they laughed that I must be one
of those work from home people. It all felt terribly rude
despite the fact that they are selling internet connection...
something a WFH individual would want!!! I replied that I was
indeed working from home and that I was on clock. They didn't
want to disturb my work and asked what time that I would be
done. I gave them the truth 9pm. (I would be switching jobs at
5pm, but I would still be working.) They kinda rolled their eyes
and said that they would return at 10pm for a snack. They never
actually told me why they were there or provided me with an
opportunity to turn them down.
They did return about 6:30pm, but I was rather offended at them
making fun of my appearance previously (which had not changed)
that I had no interest in anything further. I know that the
advice of this column was to answer the door and put a stop to
it, but I will not be doing that this time. They can just keep
knocking.
#Post#: 73736--------------------------------------------------
Re: Too Many Ding Dongs?
By: Rose Red Date: February 13, 2022, 9:48 am
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Did you find out if you can put signs up?
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