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       #Post#: 57052--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Giving away someone's forgotten item
       By: Hmmm Date: September 8, 2020, 8:13 am
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       [quote author=Aleko link=topic=1839.msg57015#msg57015
       date=1599461804]
       [quote]I'm pretty sure Mary thought her comments were funny and
       based on her personality and life style, I know she and her
       husband an minimalists. Her surprise that I could have extra
       "stuff" in my house and not know what was extra was probably for
       real.[/quote]
       But surely someone with a minimalist lifestyle who would always
       know what in her house was ‘extra’ shouldn’t need a whole month
       to notice what was missing? Especially when they were prompted
       to go and check? A person like yourself who owns multiple
       umbrellas which get left all over the place might not remember
       which one you took to the party, and if you did you would have a
       hard time making sure it definitely wasn’t somewhere in your
       house. But if Mary owns just one or two umbrellas which are
       always kept in their proper place, one glance would tell her it
       was AWOL: so her failure to respond in a timely manner is all
       the more culpable.
       [/quote]
       I think Mary knew as soon as the note was sent out about the 4
       umbrella. She just thought it would be there waiting for her
       until she chose to return to pick it up. I have no idea why she
       didn't respond sooner to the note.
       #Post#: 57056--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Giving away someone's forgotten item
       By: TootsNYC Date: September 8, 2020, 9:06 am
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       [quote]As she left I said "ok, Mary, I need you to check you
       have everything. Do you have your glasses, your purse, did you
       bring an umbrella, any dishes, or jackets or sweaters? We want
       to make sure nothing gets left here."[/quote]
       this made me laugh!
       as did this:
       [quote]Mary throws so much shade, I'm surprised she needs an
       umbrella.
       [/quote]
       I think I'd hold onto something for quite a long time. W/ the
       dish, I don't know that I would have given it away; if it wasn't
       messing up my life by its presence, I'd probably hold onto it.
       #Post#: 57065--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Giving away someone's forgotten item
       By: gmatoy Date: September 8, 2020, 1:09 pm
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       [quote author=Aleko link=topic=1839.msg57015#msg57015
       date=1599461804]
       [quote]I'm pretty sure Mary thought her comments were funny and
       based on her personality and life style, I know she and her
       husband an minimalists. Her surprise that I could have extra
       "stuff" in my house and not know what was extra was probably for
       real.[/quote]
       But surely someone with a minimalist lifestyle who would always
       know what in her house was ‘extra’ shouldn’t need a whole month
       to notice what was missing? Especially when they were prompted
       to go and check? A person like yourself who owns multiple
       umbrellas which get left all over the place might not remember
       which one you took to the party, and if you did you would have a
       hard time making sure it definitely wasn’t somewhere in your
       house. But if Mary owns just one or two umbrellas which are
       always kept in their proper place, one glance would tell her it
       was AWOL: so her failure to respond in a timely manner is all
       the more culpable.
       [/quote]
       Aleko's response is why I like reading this site. She nailed a
       point of view that hadn't even occurred to me! And I totally
       agree with her conclusion.
       #Post#: 57178--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Giving away someone's forgotten item
       By: lowspark Date: September 10, 2020, 8:25 am
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       [quote author=Hmmm link=topic=1839.msg57052#msg57052
       date=1599570838]
       I think Mary knew as soon as the note was sent out about the 4
       umbrella. She just thought it would be there waiting for her
       until she chose to return to pick it up. I have no idea why she
       didn't respond sooner to the note.
       [/quote]
       This is exactly what I was thinking. She knew right away but
       just didn't see any urgency to reply. After all, the obvious
       extra umbrella in your house would be sitting there, waiting
       patiently, until she got around to asking for it, right?  ::)
       You were MUCH more patient and willing to go to MUCH more effort
       than I would have in your place. After all the trouble she
       caused you to go to, even before she made that [not funny]
       comment, she would have been permanently scratched off my
       potential guest list.
       Now. More importantly, tell me about "Cook the Book" parties.
       ;D
       #Post#: 57197--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Giving away someone's forgotten item
       By: Hmmm Date: September 10, 2020, 10:49 am
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       [quote author=lowspark link=topic=1839.msg57178#msg57178
       date=1599744311]
       [quote author=Hmmm link=topic=1839.msg57052#msg57052
       date=1599570838]
       I think Mary knew as soon as the note was sent out about the 4
       umbrella. She just thought it would be there waiting for her
       until she chose to return to pick it up. I have no idea why she
       didn't respond sooner to the note.
       [/quote]
       This is exactly what I was thinking. She knew right away but
       just didn't see any urgency to reply. After all, the obvious
       extra umbrella in your house would be sitting there, waiting
       patiently, until she got around to asking for it, right?  ::)
       You were MUCH more patient and willing to go to MUCH more effort
       than I would have in your place. After all the trouble she
       caused you to go to, even before she made that [not funny]
       comment, she would have been permanently scratched off my
       potential guest list.
       Now. More importantly, tell me about "Cook the Book" parties.
       ;D
       [/quote]
       They were really fun. We'd select a cookbook and everyone would
       attend having prepared a dish from the cookbook for the potluck.
       Some people would buy the book if they thought it was one they'd
       really enjoy, others would find copies of the recipes from the
       book online or the person who suggested the cookbook. We did a
       party where the cookbook author was local and attended our party
       which was fun. Of the 7 or 8 that we did, I think I ended up
       with all of the cookbooks accept one because I either bought
       before or bought after the event. We later transitioned to "cook
       the country" where we'd select a country or a region of a
       country and everyone would find an interesting dish from that
       region. One of my all time favorite dishes, Piquillo peppers
       stuffed with salt cod, I tasted first at one of these events. A
       participant had lived in Basque for a while and brought it to a
       Basque themed event. We always ended up with too much food and
       everyone waddling home.
       I'd love to start it back up once Covid is over. I know your in
       the Houston area and happy to include you if we get them going
       again.
       #Post#: 57209--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Giving away someone's forgotten item
       By: lowspark Date: September 10, 2020, 1:24 pm
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       Thank you!! I would love to be included. I love to cook.
       I've been thinking we should meet sometime anyway!!
       I can't WAIT till Covid is behind us.
       (I sent you a PM.)
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