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Re: Drive Through Baby Shower
By: silversurfer Date: September 15, 2020, 1:00 am
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Quote from ViolinP
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Frankly, it was a bit disheartening to see other people on this
forum accuse moms who are trying to make a shower work by any
means possible of being greedy or just out to get stuff, as if
said moms have a whit of control over this situation, and indeed
may have less money than they normally would to try and make
things work to get baby things. Baby showers, at least in the
States, have been a very normal thing for quite some time, and
COVID, while necessitating changes for safety reasons, is not a
reason to scorn moms who are trying to keep some semblance of
normal. :-\[/quote]
Agreed! Etiquette exists so we can navigate our world with
kindness and ease, or that is what it is to me. Our world has
changed. Our etiquette can and should change with it. Its not
against etiquette to have a drive by shower. It doesn't have to
be your favourite thing, but you are allowed to have one.
If you attended a drive by baby shower and spent the whole time
laying on the horn, now that is a breach of etiquette!
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Re: Drive Through Baby Shower
By: TootsNYC Date: September 15, 2020, 1:05 pm
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I feel really bad for all the people whose rites of passage and
life events are happening in this prolonged pandemic.
High school seniors who finally got the lead role in the spring
play (not to mention prom and graduation); brides and grooms
whose weddings were planned for this time; etc.
So if having a drive-through shower is how someone has decided
to honor a mom-to-be, or a bride-to-be, I would be all for it.
Having a shower at that time is something that probably the
majority of women experience, and having had showers myself, I
know what an uplifting thing they can be. They make us feel
connected--which is the purpose of etiquette.
I don't think they're any more gift-grabby than an in-person
shower, and I give shower gifts when I like the people (and turn
down the invite when they are more distant family--though the
days of those invites coming has really faded in my ILs'
family).
My niece had a baby shower that I couldn't travel to--I sent a
gift to be opened at the shower, as my representative. I sent it
not because I was reimbursing them for entertaining me, but
because I love her and I wanted to send a message to her of
support, encouragement, and love.
Why would I do anything different if the shower was in town,
but couldn't be held because of people's health?
I would be grateful that the hostess wasn't risking people's
health in order to create that experience for the mom-to-be (or
bride-to-be).
So I'd drive through with a gift, and shout good wishes through
the window, feel happy at having gotten to see another human
being!! even if it was from 6 feet away, and take the
cellophane-wrapped cupcake home.
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