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Re: Drive Through Baby Shower
By: Aleko Date: August 29, 2020, 1:08 pm
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Having grown up in a culture to which the concept of a party
given for the avowed purpose of receiving gifts is completely
alien, I accept I'm hardly qualified to comment. But if there's
to be no socialising (or not more than you'd have with a
deliveryman - 'hello, thanks for delivering my parcel, you can
leave it on the doorstep there, goodbye'), that really does
amount to no more than a demand for you to deliver a gift at a
time of their convenience. Being told to pick up a cupcake and a
bag of candies apiece from a dumpbin amounts to not more than a
tip - and who the heck would want photos of all their not-guests
as a keepsake? Who's going to look back nostalgically at that?
I'd say, do it on Zoom (or equivalent) if you're going to do it
at all. That is at least virtual socialising.
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Re: Drive Through Baby Shower
By: SioCat Date: August 29, 2020, 1:35 pm
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I’ve participated in a birthday parade where we decorated our
vehicles, drove by honking and waving. The birthday boy had his
decorations too and on the second lap around the block, we
dropped off our gifts. It was a lot of fun. I’ve seen a few of
these birthday parades and graduation parades. I think it would
be strange if I was just suppose to drop off a gift. Couldn’t I
do that at any time?
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Re: Drive Through Baby Shower
By: Gellchom Date: August 29, 2020, 5:41 pm
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[quote author=SioCat link=topic=1836.msg56678#msg56678
date=1598726101]
I’ve participated in a birthday parade where we decorated our
vehicles, drove by honking and waving. The birthday boy had his
decorations too and on the second lap around the block, we
dropped off our gifts. It was a lot of fun. I’ve seen a few of
these birthday parades and graduation parades. I think it would
be strange if I was just suppose to drop off a gift. Couldn’t I
do that at any time?
[/quote]
Some people did this for my husband's 65th birthday. It was
great. But no gifts! Just a surprise parade through our
circular driveway.
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Re: Drive Through Baby Shower
By: DaDancingPsych Date: August 29, 2020, 6:23 pm
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This is a tough year. I give everyone some slack as they are
trying to figure out how to do things when there often isn't a
good example to work off of. We all find ourselves having to
think outside the box. So even if I find the idea terribly
tacky, I would probably go along with it.
I would want to know more details. My guess is that you don't
just drive-up, pop the trunk, and someone grabs the gift and you
drive off. I assume that there will be some interaction and some
safe merriment. If I was setting one up, I would probably find
some festive decorations, try to offer a safe take home treat,
and I love the photo booth idea. I would also try to find a spot
(probably outdoors) where people could safely socialize. In my
area, we are allowed to have up to 250 people outdoors, which is
typically more than most showers. I would think that the idea is
that you are not expected to stay too long. If this truly is a
don't get out of your car situation, I would assume that there
is still some interaction (and I would still want to send a
treat), but I would think that the guests could do fun things to
their cars... signs and parade decorations.
But if this isn't to your taste, decline. You can gift (or not
gift) in the way that you are comfortable.
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Re: Drive Through Baby Shower
By: Hmmm Date: August 29, 2020, 7:05 pm
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I'm fine with it.
I can imagine the parents to be enjoying a 2 hour window where
they'd see a "parade" of friends and family in a condensed time
frame to at least create some type of celebratory environment.
I've heard of these and there is a little interaction though
called a drive thru.
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Re: Drive Through Baby Shower
By: lakey Date: August 29, 2020, 11:43 pm
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[quote]Re: Drive Through Baby Shower
« Reply #11 on: Today at 01:35:01 pm »
Quote
I’ve participated in a birthday parade where we decorated our
vehicles, drove by honking and waving. The birthday boy had his
decorations too and on the second lap around the block, we
dropped off our gifts. It was a lot of fun. I’ve seen a few of
these birthday parades and graduation parades. I think it would
be strange if I was just suppose to drop off a gift. Couldn’t I
do that at any time?[/quote]
Of all the ideas in this thread, I like this the best. This
isn't just handing over a gift, it's a celebration. Especially
with children's birthdays or graduations, it is a way to make
them feel special. As with any of the events, too much focus on
receiving gifts can be off putting, making it more about
celebrating the event makes it fun.
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Re: Drive Through Baby Shower
By: bopper Date: August 31, 2020, 10:48 am
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I dunno...I view this sort of an "open House"...but a drive
through.
We had a family who was leaving our church. Normally we would
have cake after service for them. But with Covid, we had a
drive-by "farewell"...they stood outside the church and people
drove up in cars to say farewell.
I supposed a zoom party would be better? At least this way you
get a chance to speak 1 - 1 with the mom(/dad).
What else would you suggest during covid?
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Re: Drive Through Baby Shower
By: Aleko Date: August 31, 2020, 11:04 am
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[quote]As with any of the events, too much focus on receiving
gifts can be off putting, making it more about celebrating the
event makes it fun.[/quote]
This! It's even possible that the aunt is genuinely planning as
much interaction and festivity as possible when the hosts are on
their doorstep and the guests in their cars - but by tactlessly
labelling it a "drive through baby shower" she has made it sound
like a pure gift grab. Once that impression has been made on
prospective guests' minds, it will be hard to change that.
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Re: Drive Through Baby Shower
By: TootsNYC Date: August 31, 2020, 1:08 pm
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[quote]the concept of a party given for the avowed purpose of
receiving gifts is completely alien[/quote]
Think of it as a party for the avowed purpose of GIVING gifts.
We've ended up with the guest of honor having a little too much
involvement (in some cases, WAY too much involvement). But
that's what its intent and origin was; it sprang from the guests
toward the recipient.
And for many years, it also didn't involve expensive
presents. For a bridal shower, it was maybe a case of 8 drinking
glasses, etc. The gifts were absolutely not intended to be
expensive. And the circle of invitees was supposed to be small.
That was indeed the case with every one of my bridal showers,
and the baby shower. Other people said, "I want to throw you a
party."
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Re: Drive Through Baby Shower
By: Gellchom Date: August 31, 2020, 5:22 pm
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I suppose it's possible that they are planning something that
would be nice for the guests, but the OP doesn't say anything to
suggest that they are. In fact, the OP's description states the
opposite:
[quote]Basically you drive up and drop off a gift. There is a 2
hr window to do this. [/quote]
So I'm back to hating this. :)
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