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#Post#: 56651--------------------------------------------------
Drive Through Baby Shower
By: Despedina Date: August 28, 2020, 4:59 pm
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So with COVID people are getting creative with celebrations, but
how do we fell about a driver through Baby Shower? I'm not sure
how I feel about it. My aunt invited me to my cousin's "drive
through baby shower". Basically you drive up and drop off a
gift. There is a 2 hr window to do this.
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Re: Drive Through Baby Shower
By: Rose Red Date: August 28, 2020, 5:46 pm
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If I want to give a gift, I'd drop it off at *my* convenience
(calling ahead of time, of course), or have it shipped. What's
the point of a strict window if there's no interaction?
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Re: Drive Through Baby Shower
By: lakey Date: August 28, 2020, 6:00 pm
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I've always enjoyed both baby showers and wedding showers. I
have fun at the get togethers. I even like the dopey games. I
enjoy picking out and wrapping a gift. And I understand that one
of the main purposes of a shower is to help the new parents get
all the stuff they need for the baby, however, the party is also
an integral part of it. Both sides get some benefit. The new
parents get stuff they need and the guests have some fun.
If all it is going to be is dropping off a gift, why have a
shower at all? I find the idea of a drive through shower
distasteful. It seems like your only purpose is to GIVE them
stuff.
When someone I am related to, or close to, has a baby or gets
married, I give them a gift whether they have a shower,
reception, or not. I've done this several times, because in my
area baby showers are less common than wedding showers. In the
case of people not having a regular baby shower because of
Covid, I would still give them a gift, because I want to. I
would rather do it without the "Drive Through Shower" because it
just rubs me the wrong way.
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Re: Drive Through Baby Shower
By: TootsNYC Date: August 28, 2020, 7:00 pm
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[quote author=Rose Red link=topic=1836.msg56652#msg56652
date=1598654765]
If I want to give a gift, I'd drop it off at *my* convenience
(calling ahead of time, of course), or have it shipped. What's
the point of a strict window if there's no interaction?
[/quote]
Maybe the interaction will be at a distance?
I'd expect the recipient and maybe those closest to her (and in
her "bubble") to be there for me to wave to, and to converse
with briefly from about 6 feet away. And some light decorations
for "fizz."
But if I went to drop it off, they'd have to come to the door,
etc.
If it was someone I was close to, I'd go along with it.
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Re: Drive Through Baby Shower
By: Rose Red Date: August 28, 2020, 7:33 pm
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[quote author=TootsNYC link=topic=1836.msg56655#msg56655
date=1598659229]
[quote author=Rose Red link=topic=1836.msg56652#msg56652
date=1598654765]
If I want to give a gift, I'd drop it off at *my* convenience
(calling ahead of time, of course), or have it shipped. What's
the point of a strict window if there's no interaction?
[/quote]
Maybe the interaction will be at a distance?
I'd expect the recipient and maybe those closest to her (and in
her "bubble") to be there for me to wave to, and to converse
with briefly from about 6 feet away. And some light decorations
for "fizz."
But if I went to drop it off, they'd have to come to the door,
etc.
If it was someone I was close to, I'd go along with it.
[/quote]
This drive through shower just sounds like you drop off the
gift, perhaps say a few words, and drive off. No interaction
with other guests. Depending on the time and distance, it may be
inconvenient for something that's just a few minutes.
I can also drop off a gift in front of their door and converse
at a distance at a time that work for both of us. If that
doesn't work for them, I'd have the gift shipped and call them
on the phone for a nice chat. I'm not interested in going out of
my way and getting in line just to hand over a gift.
I know this year sucks for people having weddings, showers, and
other celebrations so I don't blame them for thinking outside
the box.
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Re: Drive Through Baby Shower
By: Winterlight Date: August 28, 2020, 8:11 pm
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I'm attending a Zoom baby shower tomorrow. Will report back on
how it goes. I sent my gift last week (they wanted donations
towards a doula and under the circumstances I felt money via
Paypal was probably the safest gift.)
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Re: Drive Through Baby Shower
By: Gellchom Date: August 28, 2020, 9:09 pm
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[quote author=lakey link=topic=1836.msg56653#msg56653
date=1598655655]
I've always enjoyed both baby showers and wedding showers. I
have fun at the get togethers. I even like the dopey games. I
enjoy picking out and wrapping a gift. And I understand that one
of the main purposes of a shower is to help the new parents get
all the stuff they need for the baby, however, the party is also
an integral part of it. Both sides get some benefit. The new
parents get stuff they need and the guests have some fun.
If all it is going to be is dropping off a gift, why have a
shower at all? I find the idea of a drive through shower
distasteful. It seems like your only purpose is to GIVE them
stuff.
When someone I am related to, or close to, has a baby or gets
married, I give them a gift whether they have a shower,
reception, or not. I've done this several times, because in my
area baby showers are less common than wedding showers. In the
case of people not having a regular baby shower because of
Covid, I would still give them a gift, because I want to. I
would rather do it without the "Drive Through Shower" because it
just rubs me the wrong way.
[/quote]
Exactly this.
Like Toots, if it were someone I am close to, I'd go along with
it, but that doesn't mean I like it. And I certainly wouldn't
host it (if the word "host" even applies).
It just comes down to a demand for a gift, period -- to be
delivered promptly at a specific time. I don't see how that's
polite, COVID or no COVID. Gifts are nice and they are
customary, and I do feel bad for people who miss out on things
they looked forward to because of the virus, but gifts and
showers aren't something to which anyone is so entitled that it
justifies doing something like this. I agree that I don't blame
people for thinking outside the box this year, but there had to
be other ideas. I would vastly prefer a Zoom shower to this --
in fact, I'd like it.
Especially because, as others have said, if it's someone I'm
close to, I'm going to get them a baby gift whether or not there
is a shower. It probably would be the same gift, too. Just as
I am giving wedding gifts to the couples getting married this
year who had to cancel their big weddings. My daughter just had
a baby, and no shower, and people are giving her gifts.
#Post#: 56664--------------------------------------------------
Re: Drive Through Baby Shower
By: NyaChan Date: August 28, 2020, 10:16 pm
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There’s one in my family coming up. I won’t be
attending because I’m in a different state, but the
hostess shared her plans and I think it sounds cute. The
attendees can come say hi from safe distance, pick up custom
cupcakes, candies, and take pictures in front of a custom
backdrop for the mom to be to have as a keepsake. I don’t
think anyone is dropping off gifts as they are registered on a
website that ships it all to the expecting parents directly. I
managed to snag the rocking chair so the relatives are jealous
hehe :)
I don’t think it’s a bad thing. If we’d been
able, we would have thrown the relative a nice shower with
family and close friends (as good as family) and it feels good
to get a chance to show her we care even if it isn’t as
long or as interactive as a shower. We’d have sent gifts
whether there was a shower or not so it doesn’t really
feel rude to me.
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Re: Drive Through Baby Shower
By: LifeOnPluto Date: August 29, 2020, 1:25 am
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How exactly is this going to work? As others have suggested, is
it literally going to be driving by to say "Hello, here's your
gift, goodbye" with no refreshments or interaction with the
other guests? If so, that does seem a bit rude, and I'd just be
dropping off a gift at my own convenience.
On the other hand, if the host(s) are going to be serving some
refreshments, and conversing with each guest, and maybe even
thinking of some creative social-distancing games to play, I'd
make the effort to attend.
(PS - I know some might think serving refreshments could be a
COVID risk, but there ways to get around it - for example,
having sparkling wine or grape juice in disposable plastic
glasses that the guests get to keep, etc. Or only serving
store-bought goods, rather than home-baked goods, etc).
#Post#: 56676--------------------------------------------------
Re: Drive Through Baby Shower
By: Winterlight Date: August 29, 2020, 11:50 am
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I just finished a Zoom baby shower where I only knew the mother
to be, and it went really well. We played a couple of games, had
some free chatting time, and it was very relaxed and fun. I'd
much rather do that than "Hi, here's your gift, we're gone."
That's not enjoyable at all.
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