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#Post#: 56243--------------------------------------------------
e-begging
By: velly j Date: August 20, 2020, 10:54 am
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I don't know if this is just me, or if I am a mean and judgy
person. But what is with people constantly e-begging and asking
for people to fund them? In a lot of facebook groups I know, it
seems that people drop their Venmo or Paypal details and ask
others to buy them treats or pay their bills. Am I just old and
grouchy, is this really socially acceptable these days?
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Re: e-begging
By: Hmmm Date: August 20, 2020, 11:04 am
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[quote author=velly j link=topic=1828.msg56243#msg56243
date=1597938860]
I don't know if this is just me, or if I am a mean and judgy
person. But what is with people constantly e-begging and asking
for people to fund them? In a lot of facebook groups I know, it
seems that people drop their Venmo or Paypal details and ask
others to buy them treats or pay their bills. Am I just old and
grouchy, is this really socially acceptable these days?
[/quote]
No, your note alone. This is very unacceptable in my opinion and
glad I seldom run across this behavior amongst my friends.
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Re: e-begging
By: Nikko-chan Date: August 20, 2020, 11:14 am
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[quote author=velly j link=topic=1828.msg56243#msg56243
date=1597938860]
I don't know if this is just me, or if I am a mean and judgy
person. But what is with people constantly e-begging and asking
for people to fund them? In a lot of facebook groups I know, it
seems that people drop their Venmo or Paypal details and ask
others to buy them treats or pay their bills. Am I just old and
grouchy, is this really socially acceptable these days?
[/quote]
chiming in with: not acceptable. I do see a lot of gofundme's
posted due to tragedy and the like though
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Re: e-begging
By: velly j Date: August 20, 2020, 11:20 am
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[quote author=Nikko-chan link=topic=1828.msg56247#msg56247
date=1597940053]
[quote author=velly j link=topic=1828.msg56243#msg56243
date=1597938860]
I don't know if this is just me, or if I am a mean and judgy
person. But what is with people constantly e-begging and asking
for people to fund them? In a lot of facebook groups I know, it
seems that people drop their Venmo or Paypal details and ask
others to buy them treats or pay their bills. Am I just old and
grouchy, is this really socially acceptable these days?
[/quote]
chiming in with: not acceptable. I do see a lot of gofundme's
posted due to tragedy and the like though
[/quote]
I'm not really talking about gofundme: while that can be abused,
it is often for legitimate emergencies and also it is often on
behalf of others. What I'm talking about is people saying that
they feel like pizza but they are broke, can someone chip in and
spoil them? Or that they feel they deserve a treat and here is
their Venmo. There have been times in my life when I've been
pretty broke (although never destitute) and I would never have
dreamed of asking relative strangers for money, especially not
for luxuries like pizza and fancy tolietries.
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Re: e-begging
By: Nikko-chan Date: August 20, 2020, 12:58 pm
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[quote author=velly j link=topic=1828.msg56248#msg56248
date=1597940401]
[quote author=Nikko-chan link=topic=1828.msg56247#msg56247
date=1597940053]
[quote author=velly j link=topic=1828.msg56243#msg56243
date=1597938860]
I don't know if this is just me, or if I am a mean and judgy
person. But what is with people constantly e-begging and asking
for people to fund them? In a lot of facebook groups I know, it
seems that people drop their Venmo or Paypal details and ask
others to buy them treats or pay their bills. Am I just old and
grouchy, is this really socially acceptable these days?
[/quote]
chiming in with: not acceptable. I do see a lot of gofundme's
posted due to tragedy and the like though
[/quote]
I'm not really talking about gofundme: while that can be abused,
it is often for legitimate emergencies and also it is often on
behalf of others. What I'm talking about is people saying that
they feel like pizza but they are broke, can someone chip in and
spoil them? Or that they feel they deserve a treat and here is
their Venmo. There have been times in my life when I've been
pretty broke (although never destitute) and I would never have
dreamed of asking relative strangers for money, especially not
for luxuries like pizza and fancy tolietries.
[/quote]
I have never come across this. I am glad I havent.
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Re: e-begging
By: DaDancingPsych Date: August 20, 2020, 1:25 pm
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I agree with the others; I've never seen anything like what you
describe. What sort of groups do you belong to? How do the other
members react? Do they end up getting the money?
Most of the groups that I'm in would probably poo-poo something
like that out the door. I don't think that you are mean or
judgey. I would struggle not sending the person a link to
Monster.com!
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Re: e-begging
By: lakey Date: August 20, 2020, 1:53 pm
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[quote]Re: e-begging
« Reply #5 on: Today at 01:25:04 pm »
Quote
I agree with the others; I've never seen anything like what you
describe. What sort of groups do you belong to? How do the other
members react? Do they end up getting the money?
Most of the groups that I'm in would probably poo-poo something
like that out the door. I don't think that you are mean or
judgey. I would struggle not sending the person a link to
Monster.com![/quote]
I suspect this kind of behavior, both the mooching and the
caving in to the mooching, may be more common among some young
adults who are a bit inexperienced at dealing with irresponsible
behaviors. Sometimes when you're young you might allow yourself
to be taken advantage of by a mooch. After a couple times that
it happens, you start to see a pattern, and you learn to say
"no". When I was in my early twenties I had a couple of friends
who would squander their money, then try to get me to pay for
their drinks. As a matter of fact, I ended up dropping both of
these women as friends because I realized they were users.
Also, I believe there have been people who have started gofundme
accounts for things like vacation trips.
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Re: e-begging
By: velly j Date: August 20, 2020, 2:01 pm
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[quote author=lakey link=topic=1828.msg56257#msg56257
date=1597949589]
[quote]Re: e-begging
« Reply #5 on: Today at 01:25:04 pm »
Quote
I agree with the others; I've never seen anything like what you
describe. What sort of groups do you belong to? How do the other
members react? Do they end up getting the money?
Most of the groups that I'm in would probably poo-poo something
like that out the door. I don't think that you are mean or
judgey. I would struggle not sending the person a link to
Monster.com![/quote]
I suspect this kind of behavior, both the mooching and the
caving in to the mooching, may be more common among some young
adults who are a bit inexperienced at dealing with irresponsible
behaviors. Sometimes when you're young you might allow yourself
to be taken advantage of by a mooch. After a couple times that
it happens, you start to see a pattern, and you learn to say
"no". When I was in my early twenties I had a couple of friends
who would squander their money, then try to get me to pay for
their drinks. As a matter of fact, I ended up dropping both of
these women as friends because I realized they were users.
Also, I believe there have been people who have started gofundme
accounts for things like vacation trips.
[/quote]
Oh, you are for sure right about that! I remember one 'friend'
of mine rolled up to my house having spent all her money
elsewhere, and effectively expected me to pay her way for a
week. Not cool. However, the people I'm currently talking about
don't even have the excuse of youth, they are all in their late
thirties! To answer earlier questions on what kind of group, it
is more than one. They are all vaguely social justice related,
and I think that some people think that means it's a free for
all. Don't get me wrong, I hope I'm not a mean person and I
would never grudge helping someone who is in genuinely dire
straits, but some of these people seem to have a different
financial crisis every couple of weeks. I get that life is hard
for everyone these days, but we all have bills to pay and food
to put on the table. I just resent the constant passive
agressive guilt tripping and 'You guys are the best, and please
help me again...'
#Post#: 56261--------------------------------------------------
Re: e-begging
By: NFPwife Date: August 20, 2020, 3:48 pm
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I've seen and heard about this, I don't have anyone in groups in
which I'm active doing it. If it was very prevalent in the
group, I'd reconsider my involvement. I have to be honest, even
Go Fund Mes annoy me. I often donate, but I get weary of
donating for medical things because I think we should have
better health insurance in the US. Go Fund Me has become an
insurer here.
#Post#: 56324--------------------------------------------------
Re: e-begging
By: sms Date: August 22, 2020, 11:09 am
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If you're old fashioned and grouchy then I am too. For some
people nothing embarrasses them.
Hustlers have been around since the dawn of time in some form or
another but there is less and less shame attached to soliciting
and begging.
I don't want to see people who need real help afraid to ask but
sometimes lines are getting blurred when it comes to asking for
needs vs wants.
You would hope those would get ignored but there is always
someone who will ride in on some misguided white horse to give
in to it.
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