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Missing Shower Gift
By: DaDancingPsych Date: August 20, 2020, 5:55 am
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You might remember that you recently helped me to decide to not
attend a baby shower. I feel good about that decision as I was
exposed to so many people the previous day. However, apparently
the party was great. It was outside, lots of social distancing
and mask wearing! I sent a gift with a mutual friend. The day
after, the MTB sent me a lovely text message expressing that she
missed seeing me. I *thought* that was going to be my thank you
note. Nope! A lovely handwritten note arrived yesterday! So
classy!!!
However, the note gushes about the $1 toy that I used to
decorate the bag. It mentions the book that the invitation told
me to include as a card and the baby hygiene goodies that I
threw in. However, there is no mention of the main event; the
onsie that I specialty ordered because it was perfect for the
MTB. I don't know if she forgot to mention it in the note, it
was missed at the bottom of the bag and tossed, or if it arrived
home but MTB can't figure out who sent it. What would you do? I
thought I had found the perfect gift and was so excited, so
maybe that's why I'm concerned. Also, without the onsie the gift
looks cheap. In fact, I threw the other things in because the
onsie was pricey, but I thought that it didn't look like a nice
enough gift. Maybe this is more about my feelings?
Also, in the future, is there a way that I could avoid this?
Does anyone have a surefire shower tip to ensure that all parts
of the gift are received?
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Re: Missing Shower Gift
By: Rain Date: August 20, 2020, 6:59 am
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I would simply ask if she'd seen the onesie. If you have a text
number for her I would send an image of the onesie as well so
she would do exactly what you were talking about.
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Re: Missing Shower Gift
By: Gellchom Date: August 20, 2020, 7:07 am
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I think you could ask, as Rain says. This isn’t like the
passive aggressive “I just wanted to check if you got my gift”
that always comes across as chastisement for not having written
a thank you note promptly, because here, you have a concrete
reason to think that part of your gift may have gotten
separated. If that happened, she probably is wondering who it
came from and will appreciate having the mystery solved.
But it is also quite possible that she just got distracted while
she was writing the thank you note, and I know you don’t want to
embarrass her.
Maybe you could email or call her about something else, and
throw in something like, “please be sure to send me a photo of
Baby in the Red Sox onesie when she grows into it” or “the Red
Sox onesie comes from Fancrap.com if you want to exchange it for
a different size.” Usually I don’t like this kind of hinting,
but it seems like it might be okay in this situation.
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Re: Missing Shower Gift
By: Hmmm Date: August 20, 2020, 11:02 am
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I agree with the others. I think it is fine to ask. I like
Gellchom's suggestion. Maybe a text with "got your lovely thank
you note. Glad you enjoyed all the gifts. Looking forward to
seeing little one in the RedSox Onesie!"
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Re: Missing Shower Gift
By: DaDancingPsych Date: August 21, 2020, 7:14 am
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Thanks everyone! I appreciate your approaches. I certainly don't
want to come across as "you didn't write your thank you note
properly", especially when it has become so rare that I was
surprised to receive one. ::)
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