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       Family Zoom Meetings.
       By: Lilipons Date: August 2, 2020, 10:10 am
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       We’ll be having our first this evening.  Mr. Pons talks to his
       sister every Wednesday on the telephone.  Sometimes I offer
       birthday greetings but this is going to be a face-to-face and
       coast to coast affair with people I have met only once in my
       life if at all.
       I want to just wave ‘Hello’ and retreat because I know how these
       family things can get when you’re the only one who isn’t related
       by blood and everybody else wants to talk about Cousin’s son who
       is going for a Master’s degree in the marimba or the problems
       with Lena’s dog who has his own lawyer because of the neighbor
       ‘Evil Jim’ keeps threatening to sue.
       I know that last sentence/paragraph was insane but that’s how
       Mr. Pons’ family meetings tend to go and that’s the speed at
       which they tend to go. Can anyone offer a graceful way for me to
       greet people and bow out before things get weird?
       (No, ‘The cat caught fire’ won’t work.  Everybody knows we don’t
       have a cat.
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       Re: Family Zoom Meetings.
       By: sandisadie Date: August 2, 2020, 10:19 am
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       I've been in some of these types of meetings with family.  I
       wave and voice a greeting at the beginning when everybody else
       does and then just sit there and listen to everyone and smile or
       laugh but rarely say anything until everyone says goodbye.  A
       couple of family members dominate the conversation on my end and
       I don't try to butt in.  Nobody on the other end directs any
       talk at me so I'm just quiet.  I always think it would be rude
       on my part to get up and leave the room.  I try to keep an
       interested look on my face.
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       Re: Family Zoom Meetings.
       By: Nikko-chan Date: August 2, 2020, 11:04 am
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       My suggestion would be to have "Plans". (going into another room
       and reading a book is a plan ;) )
       Maybe a quick "Hello Sisterinlawname, so great to see you, it
       looks like you're doing well. I'm just going to go so you and
       Mr. Pons and everyone can catch up!"
       Better if you can do that not in the beginning. Like you would
       on the phone. Like walk in to grab something, say hello, zip
       out. Also why do you even have to be there? If you aren't fully
       involved when Mr. Pons is on the phone with them, why do you
       have to be at this meeting?
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       Re: Family Zoom Meetings.
       By: Lilipons Date: August 2, 2020, 5:21 pm
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       Thanks for the good advice, sandisadie and Niko-Chan.
       I especially like the idea of walking in ‘in medias res’ saying
       “Hi” to the assembled throng and grabbing something from the
       credibility bookshelf.  The deity knows we have one on just
       about every wall.
       On the selfish side, I want to make an appearance because my
       birthday is  on Wednesday and someone on the closer side just
       might remember and say ‘Happy Birthday’. It’s bad of me, I know
       but it would be nice.
       
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       Re: Family Zoom Meetings.
       By: Lula Date: August 2, 2020, 7:28 pm
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       Two words: pleasantly plastered.
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       Re: Family Zoom Meetings.
       By: Rho Date: August 2, 2020, 10:51 pm
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       FWIT I have participated in family zoom meetings.  DIL shows up
       in the middle usually with 8 month old in her arms.  She waves,
       sits a few minutes while we goo-goo at baby, and then leaves.
       SIL sits for a few minutes also in the middle.  Sometimes he
       joins in when talk get political and sometimes not.  Other in
       laws wander in and out with no comments.
       An invitation just arrived a few minutes ago for a zoom meeting
       with my Moms nephews.  I think the host forgot to edit as 2 of
       Dads nephews were also invited.  Could be interesting.
       #Post#: 55530--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Family Zoom Meetings.
       By: Lilipons Date: August 3, 2020, 9:09 am
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       Thanks, everyone.
       It went off just fine and I didn’t have to do anything.  It
       wasn’t a true Zoom meeting because only the person currently
       talking was visible.
       Yes, while the brouhaha was underway I was in the living room
       with ‘The Prisoner of Azkaban’ DVD, a bowl of popcorn and a gin
       and tonic.
       Best family gathering ever.
       #Post#: 55534--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Family Zoom Meetings.
       By: Oz Diva Date: August 3, 2020, 10:47 am
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       I can relate. I have never actually been in the same room as all
       my in-laws. My husband is one of four boys, they are scattered
       around the world. Two in England, us in Australia and one in
       California. I have met everyone but we have never been together.
       In your situation I'd just say hi and then back away pretty
       quickly. I doubt anyone will notice if the conversation moves
       that quickly.
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       Re: Family Zoom Meetings.
       By: TootsNYC Date: August 3, 2020, 1:02 pm
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       [quote author=Lilipons link=topic=1809.msg55530#msg55530
       date=1596463788]
       It wasn’t a true Zoom meeting because only the person
       currently talking was visible.
       [/quote]
       In my experience, that is a setting that your DH would choose on
       his screen at the upper right.
       The host of a Zoom meeting can choose to have only themselves or
       one other person visible (our COO does that), or it can be a
       "webinar," but that doesn't allow the screen to switch between
       very many people.
       #Post#: 56448--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Family Zoom Meetings.
       By: bopper Date: August 25, 2020, 10:16 am
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       [quote author=Lilipons link=topic=1809.msg55530#msg55530
       date=1596463788]
       Thanks, everyone.
       It went off just fine and I didn’t have to do anything.  It
       wasn’t a true Zoom meeting because only the person currently
       talking was visible.
       [/quote]
       That is only because you didn't click on the "Gallery View"
       where you could see everyone.
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